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The Baby and The Business | 3 Ways to Find Harmony as a Mommypreneur

I recently shared a post reflecting on how things have totally changed over the past 365 days (read that here). I went from being a solo-preneur standing smack dab in the middle of purpose… to birthing a mini boss, and instantly becoming a mommypreneur. LAWD! Talk about TRANSITION. So, Today I’m taking it a bit further and sharing 3 ways I’ve been able to find harmony in my life! Whether you’re a mom of 1 or a mom of 5… a new mom or have been a mom for some time… this post is just for you! Especially if you are navigating that space of building an empire! Read with an open heart and  Be encouraged!

 

1. First things first.

I’m not sure how you prioritize your life, but this year I’ve been extremely intentional about mine:

1. God

2. Family/home (Dream and Keem)

3. Business

With my priorities in check, I’m able to better manage how I make business decisions. If a business decisions or commitment doesn’t align with what God has spoken over my life, or pulls me away from my family… it makes it easy to say “not this time”. I think may of us as moms don’t have our priorities straight. We say, “Family first”, but our decisions say the EXACT opposite. The first step to finding and maintaining harmony in your life as a mom on a mission is to keep your commitments in alignment with your priorities and values! Ask:

-What’s most important to you?

-How can you better prioritize your life, keeping first things first?

“Harmony is achieved only after you’ve identified what’s most important and prioritize accordingly”.

 

2. Pray & plan ahead. Pivot as needed!

There are certain things that I know I want to complete weekly and if I don’t plan for them, like literally write them down in my planner AND on the calendar, I know I will miss it.

Whether it’s setting aside time to write an article, recording a new video series, hit the grocery store, pump (yes I’m still nursing), coordinate visits/play dates, update my website, do the laundry, correspond/meet with clients, ETC… it takes some SERIOUS and Intentional planning. And how I plan lines up with what I’ve prioritized! Yes, there are days when I just go with the flow, because that’s the only way to survive the day (😩😭😂), but I have a general plan for my week, in writing, to keep me on target!

 I’m all about FLOW! And no, this isn’t a perfect situation. There have been times where I’ve planned things out to a T, and Dream just wasn’t on board. Take this post for example. I planned and set aside time to write, during Dream’s nap time. However, my teething 8-month old needed her mommy (poor thing)! And so here I am, typing while nursing! Anyone with kids will tell you, no two days are alike. So pray, plan and pivot as needed!

What are your weekly non-negotiables?

How can you plan ahead to account for those moments when your baby/babies aren’t in agreement?

“Planning ahead and taking action is a success strategy. Prayer and staying connected to THE Source is key”! 

 

3. Check in, OFTEN!

Whether it’s communicating with your spouse, or checking in with yourself and reflecting on what is working… check in often! Celebrate your wins (no matter how small), and adjust as needed. For me I seriously had MORE time to work in my business when Dream was a little younger. I could put her in her bouncers/swing for self play and use those moments to get things done. But now… NOW that this little yummy nugget is mobile, and I barely have the time to even respond to an email. Why? Because I have to keep my eyes on her at ALL times 😭😭😭. With that, I had to do three things:

1. Check in with myself to determine what I needed to flourish in this season. I had to reassess my commitments how I plan to  keep them.

2. Adjust my daily “routine” while I’m home alone with Dream to be in alignment with my current reality. She is sleeping much less during the day, so my availability and “free time” is no longer the same. I have to adjust accordingly.

3. Communicate with my hubby to figure out our schedules, to see how I could add in some productive/work time while he’s home. I also had to cut bak in other areas

Once I made the shift, harmony was not that far behind. I went from being overwhelmed and frustrated, feeling like I couldn’t get ANYTHING done… to discovering creative ways to pursue purpose! God is bomb like that. As you acknowledge HIM… He directs you’re every move! His is the MASTER CREATOR, and there is no part of your life that He can’t remedy! 

-How have things changed for you over the past few months?

-How can you adjust to reignite the harmony in your life?

As things change around you, YOU MUST ADJUST. Check in often, acknowledge the change, seek God for wisdom and PIVOT! 

 

Bonus: GET DRESSED!

I shower and get dressed every day. I have things in my wardrobe that are easy to throw on but are well coordinated to make me feel like somebody! Okay! I cannot stress the importance of showing up for yourself in this way. For me it’s an instant mood boost. Walking around in my robe all day vs. walking around in a jogger set or a cute pullover and some leggings. It makes a difference. Especially when I’m able to sit and work. I’m in a mental space to produce when I’m dressed.

-How can you show up for yourself with what you wear?

-What wardrobe adjustments can you make today?

“What you wear and how you show up for work is important… especially when you work for yourself”

Reese

3 Surefire Ways to Handle the Unsolicited Opinions of Others

 As a newlywed, a lot of people have an opinion about what my husband and I “should/shouldn’t do”, especially with regards to our first married year/holidays together. Nothing malicious at all, just opinions that caused a great deal of pressure. I got caught up at first.  Then it dawned on me; this is our life and we will live it as we please!  Some of you may have experience this same pressure.  You may have certain goals and aspirations in mind, and you’re trying to handle all the uninvited opinions that other have for your life. So I’ve decided to share what I’ve learned to do, and I hope it helps you as well:

1. Hold your peace: Peace of mind is more important than the best of clap-backs!  Some opinions aren’t even worth entertaining,  especially when they come without provocation. It’s one thing to go to a trusted source, and ask them to dissect your life. When that’s the case, then I expect them to let me have it. Dig deep and help me get my life in order.  However, if I didn’t ask and it is not worth a response, I simply don’t entertain it. Especially when I know they don’t have my best interest in mind.

2. Use your words:  If you feel the need to respond, put your words to good use and create a standard response. Here are two of my favorites: “It’s unfortunate that your feelings differ from how I plan to live my life”, and  “No, I don’t plan to do it that way, but I appreciate your concern”.  Feel free to use at will, and proceed to exit stage left.

3. Don’t tell everything you know: This is probably one of the most important lessons I’ve learned! Keep your personal life, marriage,  goals and aspirations under lock and key. Yes, we all need accountability, but take a break from posting and sharing every detail of your life and hustle. Hustle in private, enlist the help of an accountability partner/mentor,  and let the results of your labor do all of the bragging. The less you share, the less access people have to your life.   If people don’t know what you’re up to, then they won’t have an opportunity to  create an opinion.

 

This is your time. This is your year! Make it count!

-Reese

Good-bye Fear… Hello Purpose!

 Happy New Year to you all!

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Stepping into 2016 with my head held high! (Looking up, for that is where my Help comes from.) Good-bye fear, anxiety, uncertainty, and confusion! You’ve been all up in my way for far too long, and you’re no longer welcomed in my life!  Hello vision, clarity and purpose!  I will accomplish all that I set my mind to do! I am embracing wholeness; mind, body and spirit!

Say it with me… “2016, will be my best year yet”!

Stay tuned and keep it stylish,

-Reese

#FierceandRefined

3 tips to help you regain/maintain a positive attitude!

 

 Have you ever noticed how easy it is to be negative? #frfr We live in such an imperfect world, encounter imperfect people, and often our imperfect situations get the best of us. The past week was particularly challenging for me, with regards to maintaining a positive attitude.   Like, I know I’m usually the one who shines light and looks for “the good” in the darkest of nights, but this past week it was tough! I had to pray and  consciously shift my thinking, my attitude, and my atmosphere!  It wasn’t a perfect shift, but I did it! And  I want to take a moment to share with you 3 things that I’ve embrace, that will help you  regain and maintain a positive attitude in the midst of the storm:

1.  Have your moment; then embrace the power of 3:  When life happens give yourself a moment to have a moment.  Cry (this is me), scream, and do whatever it is that you need to do to release that immediate rush of emotions that seemingly take over! But don’t stay there! After your moment call out three things for which you are thankful, (and I strongly encourage you to do this BEFORE you call or text your friends to let them know what has happened)! This will help you to refocus on the good in your life! For example, If you are in transition at your job, instead of focusing on all of the negative that has happened focus on the blessing of your present:

  1.  You have a job (some people were laid off)
  2.  You have a source of income (and the mind/resources to budget accordingly)
  3. You have everything you need to go after the career you really want (What are you waiting for?!)

2. Protect your aura: Misery loves company, and a complaining tongue is looking for a listening ear! So when “Negative Nancy“, “Lying Laverne” and “Gary the Gossip” huddle (or try to call you up) to discuss the goings-on,  beware!  Most often when you engage in conversations with people like this, all those negative thoughts begin to settle in and take over (especially if they go unchecked)!  And if you’re not careful,  you will begin to talk that same talk, and it will feel like quicksand trying to get out! Take it from someone who knows firsthand, and do your best to protect your aura. Surround yourself with positive people, who are able to acknowledge reality, and focus on the blessing of the “bright-side“. 

3. Always look to learn:  We all know this truth, but it is so easy to ignore.  Being able to looking at a situation, and focus on what you can/have learned,  takes real effort! But taking the time to learn from a mistake or disappointing situation is well worth it! For me, I like to write down what I’ve learned, or what I need to improve upon! Prayer is key with this step! 🙏🏾Taking the time to ask God what He is trying to teach and show you is the absolute best!  He is all knowing! And believe me nothing compares to having peace and clarity about your circumstances!

 Keep it stylishly Positive,

-Reese

 

The one thing you must NEVER ignore (#ReachOut)

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Have you ever thought about a friend or family member “randomly” while going about your day-to-day business?  You may  have been brushing your teeth, writing a proposal for a client, or driving home from work, and you just can’t shake the thought of wondering how they are doing.

When this happens, don’t ignore it!

Take the time to #ReachOut to that person… ASAP, and with a sense of urgency.  It may be a phone call, a simple text message, or even a quote of encouragement. Whatever you may feel the need to do, do it! I can’t even begin to count the number of times this has happened to me. When I took a moment to reach out,  the person truly needed it!  (Not to mention all the times my friends and family members reached out to me during my time of need, simply because I was on their minds!)

We never fully know all that a person is going through, especially during their low times. Stress, anxiety, and depression are REAL ISSUES! And often times we can be a source of light by simply checking in just to say, “you were on my mind”.  So today, I ask you all to  a vow and commit to making an effort to reach out when a person comes to mind! You never know, reaching out may be just the thing to change that person’s life!

Keep it stylish and #ReachOut

-Stylreesta