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“Creamy Peanut Butter”

A lesson on being right and being married!

The other day my hubby and I ventured to the grocery store together. Everything was going well, until we got to the peanut butter aisle. My hubby reached for the “natural” peanut butter, but I insisted that we  get the “creamy” version, since  that’s what we had at the house. He paused for a moment, then proceeded to look at the various labels to figure out what we had in the cupboard. He clearly didn’t believe me.

After a few “exchanges”, and a near exit with NOTHING, he finally gave in and said “I’m almost certain we had natural, but just go ahead and get the creamy peanut butter”. I tossed that tube into the cart so quickly, and dashed off to gather the last few items. I was in my feelings, yet and still I kept it together. 

When we finally got home,  I noticed that my hubby made a very deliberate strut to the cupboard. I rolled my eyes, and started putting the groceries away.  I knew exactly what he was doing! I didn’t pay him any mind, other than what I noticed out of my peripheral. He shuffled through the shelves for a few moments, then slowly closed the cupboard door. (He saw truth. lol!) He stood there for a few seconds, before finally admitting that I was right about the peanut butter.

In that moment, in that VERY REAL moment…

All I could think to say was “I told you so”. I knew I was right. I felt the words welling up within my soul, until I remembered being on the other side. Countless moments of being wrong came to mind, and I knew I needed to humble myself and sprinkle my response with love. (UGHHHH). I finished putting the last few groceries away, turned to the love of my life and said, “No problem babe, you know I’ve been there.  I’m just glad we got the right one”. 

Thank God I passed that test!  

What do you do when your spouse is wrong?  Do you rub it in their face, trying to “make an example” of the situation? OR do you show grace, put yourself in their shoes, and respond in love? Of course the latter is the best option, but let’s be real… it sure isn’t the easiest! Listen,  I don’t always get it right, but let me encourage you (as I encourage myself)! The next time you find yourself in a “creamy peanut butter” situation, and you KNOW you’re right.. respond in love! Nobody is perfect, and the worst thing to do is kick someone when they’ve humbly admitted that they’ve made a mistake. Yes, there will be moments when you need to have a full conversation about certain situations, but don’t give access to the enemy. Proverbs 15:1 says it best, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. God already knew! Choose your response carefully. Show grace and  fight with every bit of your being to keep the peace in your marriage and your household!  You two are one!

Nobody said it would be easy, but believe me, it will always be worth it!

 

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Slay, Like you Mean it

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Every morning when you wake up, command the atmosphere around you! Despite what may have happened yesterday, today is a new day! You have a choice. You can either speak life, or speak death over your situation. Why not choose life! Expect God to do the impossible…the incredible! He can mend your broken heart, open that closed door, and give you a new perspective! Align yourself with God’s will for your life, and watch Him do magnificent things in your life! Expect it!

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After you’ve commanded your morning, and have aligned yourself with God’s will, get up and get dressed like you know who you are! I’ve said this before and it’s worth repeating… You can look “fabulous”, dress well and still live a life of holiness!  Oh, yes you can! You can wear your heels, beat your face, and “slay” all while being a reflection of the King! Indeed, God is most concerned with the matters of our heart, and that should be top priority for us as His daughters! Just know… it’s OK to SLAY while we serve our Savior!  Put on your best, and slay the day!

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Your mind is at peace, your heart is ready, and you’ve adorned yourself accordingly! Now, it’s time to walk it out, and conquer your day! Whether you’re on your way to work, a conference, or preparing to give a presentation… go in there like you run the show! Determine that no matter what happens, this is your day. Celebrate your victories, and learn from your challenges!  Hold your head up high, and spread the light with those who need it most. Speak, empower, smile, and slay as you walk through your sphere of influence!   You can never sparkle too bright! The Day is yours, so own it!

Slay, Like you Mean it!

The world is waiting!

5 Essential “To-Dos” for a Flawless Face!

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As a self proclaimed makeup enthusiast, I am all about the best of beats. However, over the years I’ve learned that a flawless face begins with proper skin care, and a few basic habits to practice daily. In many instances, your makeup application is only as flawless as the skin that lies beneath. So before we talk about all the beloved potions and powders (I promise to post about that later in our Beauty Academy),  I wanted to share 5 essential “to-dos” to ensure a flawless face!

1. Cleanse your face daily.

Sounds simple, but I can’t even tell you how many women I’ve talked to who don’t wash their faces daily. This is a non-negotiable in my book.  When ever you put on makeup, it’s so important to remove it. Yes, I was once guilty of falling asleep with a full beat after a night of fun, but that soon changed as I saw the horrible effects that had on my skin. So now, no matter how tired I am, I remove my makeup and wash my face every evening. Then again in the morning.  A good makeup remover, along with a gentle cleanser, (I’m partial to Oil of Olay) will do wonders for the skin.

2. Use a deep cleansing masque/mask.

A good mask will cleanse your pores and give you a nice fresh face for application.  If you’re an oil-face like me, and you workout often, then you will find the need to deep cleanse more often than others. (I use mine once a week). I don’t want any gunk left on my face to clog my pores, which essentially leads to more break outs. Do yourself a favor, and invest in a deep cleansing mask.

3. Wash your makeup brushes.

I’m going to just say it… if you don’t wash your brushes, then washing your face is almost pointless. What some don’t realize is that on the surface of that beautiful fluffy brush are tiny little bacteria that will grow and cause breakouts if left unaddressed. And just think each time you dip that bacteria infested brush into your foundation it’s just spreading. Not to mention it can lead to very uneven, streaky application. So it’s time to get serious. Whether after you apply, or just before you go to bed, set aside some time to clean your brushes.

4. Use a daily moisturize.

I have combination/oily skin, so for years I was under the impression that facial moisturizers were only for those with dry skin. After doing my research, and speaking with the professionals, I came to understand that all skin needs moisture, and that there are actually a number of great serums and moisturizers for combination/oily skin. So regardless of the “type” of skin you may have, be sure to invest in a daily facial moisturizer, and use it.  And ladies, body lotion doesn’t count. The skin on your face is different from the skin on your body. So care for it accordingly!

5. Drink up, glow up.

Get your glow on, and drink more water. Many professionals  recommend that you drink at least 6-8 glasses of water daily to keep you hydrated,  and help rid your body and skin of toxins. Many even say that drinking the proper amount, can leave you with a beautiful glow! We all know how important water is, so now it’s time to take it to the next level  and actually drink our daily dose.  So drink up! Your skin will love you for it!

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What are some of your favorite skin care products?  Comment below!

Single Ladies, You Have a Choice

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 I hope you can feel my heart in every word, and at the end you will know just how “worth it” you are <3!

Many times in our relationships we wait for the man to make the decisions that are best for our hearts, even when the relationship is no longer adding any value.  We put ourselves on the back burner, and endure emotional exhaustion all in the name of love (let’s be real).  I know I’ve been there… more than once! Listen, when you’ve invested so much time and energy,  it’s much “easier” to ignore the signs and keep things together. Especially when you are holding onto the possibility of what could change if you stay, or feeding the fear of what may happen if you let go and move on.

Relationships have their ups and downs. We are flawed and so we do make mistakes. However, if you find yourself in an intentionally hurtful (or destructive) relationship that no longer adds value,  it’s important to remember that  you hold the key to turn things around. No, you can’t change a man’s heart (only God can do that), but you can decide what’s best for your life going forward.
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Ladies, YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
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A choice regarding what’s best for your well-being, your walk with God, emotional health, and  peace of mind. Remember, you don’t have to wait for your man to finally make up his mind about what’s best for you, especially when you already know what needs to be done.  You can make that decision for yourself. You cannot change a man’s character, so when he shows you who he is, you have to be strong enough to believe it. God is the ultimate love in your life. And as a woman of God, you have a heavenly Father who wants you to be whole… not broken, bruised and tossed to the side.
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When we as women have a firm understanding of who we are in Christ, and that we are worthy and deserving of that very intentional and certain “I only want you” type of love, we can make the decisions that are best for our hearts.
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I’ve been hurt, abused and used. And once I realized that I was worth so much more than being treated like an option, I decided to move on without turning back. I had no clue that the most wonderful man would be on the other side of that decision, waiting to love all of me and make me his one and only! God is too good!

Every story is different. Just know that drama-free love between two honest and committed individuals is a beautiful blessing, and is absolutely possible.

You don’t have to SETTLE.

You don’t have to be just an OPTION any longer!

You are destined to be someone’s one and only, and  you have every right to decide who’s efforts to entertain.  So don’t believe the lie any longer. You do have a choice, and you are worth it! You, are more than enough ❤

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-Reese

Living|Loving|Learning (3 Lessons from the Newlywed)

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Marriage is a beautiful blessing, but let’s not be naive.  A healthy marriage doesn’t just magically grow, it  requires real commitment and effort to blossom. Think of the grass on your lawn. You have to take special care of it for best results. So, you keep it trimmed and manicured,  and you handle those unwanted yet inevitable weeds with a sense of urgency. A healthy marriage requires this same type of love and care. I’m still new in the game, but I absolutely love being married! My hubby and I are building a beautiful life together, and I’m so grateful for every lesson learned.  We’ve been so blessed to see and understand some things early on, and I’m here to share the top 3 lessons we’ve learned as newlyweds! Enjoy!

1. Support one another

 It’s become somewhat of a ritual for us to talk and dream together. We talk about our future, our goals, and our aspirations. Then we take it a step further and discuss how to support each other. I’m an aspiring business owner, and as I share the goings-on in my life, my husband is right there to keep me focused, encouraged, and grounded! And I do the same for him!  This is what a partnership looks like. In marriage you have to understand there is no “I”, only “us”! Remember, you two are a team, and in many cases you will only be as good as your partner. So support, uplift, and encourage one another. It’s a win/win!

2. Share responsibilities

 In our home, we learned the importance of sharing responsibilities. We are still working on coming up with a “routine”, but we both do our fair share of stepping up and stepping in when needed.  Trust me it makes life so much easier! If my hubby gets home before I do, he will often take care of dinner. And if I’m cooking and not worried about him being in my way (lol), then he will step in and take care of the dishes. Oh and did I mention I haven’t touch a toilet brush in over a year? Yes ladies, my hubby exclusively takes care of the entire bathroom and I love it. And guess what, I’m more than happy to share that I take care of the laundry (wash/dry/fold). It’s all about balance, but it takes both parties to make it happen. Team work, makes the dream work. Find what works in your household. Be flexible and willing to pick up the slack in the name of love!

 3. Don’t hide your habits/flaws

I learned my lesson here. For the past two years I’ve been waxing my upper-lip. And for my entire married life, I’ve been able to do this without my hubby knowing.  Well, over the past few days I haven’t had a moment to myself to take care of my business.  So the other night, I waited for him to fall asleep, before I snuck into the bathroom.  Everything was going just fine. I was on my last strip, mid-pull,  when I thought I heard my husband walking to the bathroom. In a complete panic, I  quickly ripped off the wax strip and waited for him to bust through the door. I stood there for a good 30 seconds expecting the worst, but he wasn’t there. I finally peeped through the door, and to my surprise this man was still in bed, sound asleep. So there I stood, wax strip in hand…and nearly 1/13th of underlip skin missing.  OUCH!  All because I panicked and ripped it off trying to HIDE what I was doing from my hubby! And to make this all the more real, when I finally told him the truth about the scar under my nose, he was so unbothered.  He even had the nerve to say “You can tell me these things, I love you.”  What in the world? Where did he come from? The lesson here, don’t hide your habits, or the things that make you you! I’m not saying expose it all, bur remember, you two are one. No secrets, no hiding, be real and be you. It’s so freeing, and could save your skin!

Plant the seed!

Water with intimacy and support ❤

Be encouraged!

-Reese