Nearly 6 months ago… I’d reached my breaking point. I was sobbing on my bathroom floor, after spending nearly 2 hours unsuccessfully trying to put Dream to sleep. That was just the straw that broke the camels back. I’d been trying to control it all (my housework, my marriage, show up in my business) and …
Ladies, how are you all holding up in the midst of the COVID-19 Lockdown? I know some of my moms are quarantined with the baby AND hubby… so this week’s #milennialmomchat is JUST FOR YOU!
This week we’re chatting about what it means to Feel “Touched Out” as a new mom, how it can affect your relationship with your spouse, and 3 practical ways to deal with it! Intimacy is crazy important, so I’m sharing the real tea of what this looks like and how you can “navigate that space”!
Be Encouraged, and know you are NOT alone!
Be sure to like, comment, SUBSCRIBE and most importantly share with a momma in need!!!
9 completely Normal Things New Moms Experience: https://youtu.be/E3KCEmpYm8o
What does it mean to feel “touched out”; https://www.romper.com/p/what-does-it-mean-to-feel-touched-out-a-therapist-weighs-in-3196139
Breastfeeding Group for BLACK MOMS (AMAZING): https://www.facebook.com/groups/Blackmomsdobreastfeed/?ref=share
PPD and Anxiety Resources (get the help you need)
* postpartum support international (has info for partners too)
* Postpartumva.org ***specific to VA
* Anxiety and depression association of America
* Talk to your OB or primary care provider... they often have great referrals for therapists local to you or may even have someone on staff for you to speak with.
* Therapy for black girls has a directory of licensed therapists
* Melaninandmentalhealth.com (also has a directory of therapists)
It took me a little under a month to complete my vision board! Here’s why along with 3 takeaways that will help you SLAY your goals in 2020!
1￼. I had to be Intentional
One of the main themes in my life is to “Be Intentional”. My first attempt at a vision board years ago, didn’t go so well. I was a bit all over the place. I literally grabbed a couple of magazines, and started cutting and pasting pretty images with no real vision. To be honest, I was more concerned with making sure my board looked good, over making sure I picked images and words that were intentional and spoke directly to who God created me to be/what I wanted to manifest in my life. I know better now! I took the time to write out exactly what I was expecting God to do in my life, and this time around I found the images and words that aligned with this vision. Not only did I picked the bold, aesthetically appealing images, I chose them with purpose!
Takeaway: Write the vision, Make it plain… then find the images that are in alignment! Be intentional!
2. I wanted to make sure my goals were Actionable and Measurable.
Another things that was a complete shift this year, I made each goal actionable and measurable (Hello S.M.A.R.T planning). Where I once used to put everything on one big board, I actually used the last few pages of my 2020 planner*. I created what I am going to call vision pages! I broke down my vision for 2020 into 5 specific areas of my life; Faith, Family, Finances, Fitness and Business. And on each of those pages I focused on what I wanted to manifest! So my “Blog monthly” from 2019, turned into “Post 3x to blog monthly before the last day of that month”. And my very general “Workout” turned into the page you see in the featured image; complete with health and wellness goals and a mindset/affirmation to bring it all together. And Now when I check in at the end of each month, I’m very clear on where I hit the mark, and where I need to adjust!
Takeaway: Set actionable goals that you can measure! Check in monthly/quarterly, and adjust as needed!
3. I took the time to write out my Prayer requests in the form of praise reports!
This is not a new practice for me, but it is SOOOOO worth sharing! I am a writer (obvi) and for the past few years I’ve been very intentional about writing out specific prayer requests in the form of praise reports**! This started the year before I met my husband! I note this because in January of 2013 I wrote:
“Thank you, Lord for introducing me to my husband. I thank you for making me whole, and allowing me to experience real love from a man who loves and honors you”!
February 2013, I started dating Keem!
Now don’t get it twisted this is not a magical formula, nor is this a how to get a husband post. The key is how we frame our requests. If you look at what I wrote, I understood that I needed to be “whole” and complete in Him, before meeting the one! I took my eyes off of what I wanted and set my intention on what I needed… for God to work on me! Sometimes our prayers are so one sided, we forget to include the work we need to do! (Reference Psalm 37:4)
Framing our requests to God in the form of a declaration and praise is a game changer. Don’t get my wrong, there is totally a place for those broken moments when we lay it all at the feet of Jesus and know that only His strength can carry us. Listen, I have those meltdown moments in the presence of my Savior, too. (Oh, He is The Good Good Father and cares about EVERY SINGLE TEAR)! And I’m so thankful that He also responds to our faith as we declare His word over our lives, and shows Himself FAITHFUL every single time!
Takeaway: Fuel your prayers with faith. Give God praise in advance for what He is doing/going to manifest in your life, and watch God work out the details! Move as He directs! Delayed obedience could delay your promise!
*Shout out Patrice Washington, who inspired my idea when she mentioned her “Dream Journal”.
** Shout Out to my sister, Chris for this best practice!
Yes, you read that correctly! Check out my newest video to find out all the deets about my labor and delivery, along with lessons learned from my pregnancy journey! #NobodybutGod
Enjoy and be encouraged!
Hey ladies! In case you missed our final Fierce 5 Live Chat with Lady Shante Baldwin, the replay is posted below! YASSSSSS!!!! PRESS PLAY and get your entire life🔥🔥🔥! Be sure to like, comment, and share! Super excited for what’s in store next!
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