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I’m so excited about our first feature, Shani McKenzie, and she is spilling the TEA! Married for 15 years, check out what she has to say about being a “husband-pleaser“, submission, and waiting on God to send you the “ONE“! Be sure to connect with her on social media:@Rubi412
1. How many years have you been married,
and what has being married for xx years taught you?
We’ll be married 15 years in June! I’ve learned to be a husband-pleaser before a people-pleaser. I’m an extroverted extrovert, so I love being around people and social activities, but my husband is not necessarily like that. So I’ve had to learn balance, and God has blessed me with people who’ve provided wise counsel along the way. I can’t go to everything and please everyone. After God, my husband (and family) is my main priority.
2. You are definitely a “woman of purpose” how have you navigated that space of being a help-mate for your husband, and a woman with a purpose/platform/ministry? What challenges have you had to overcome and how?
Right before we got married, a spiritual mentor of ours told me to remember that God has given me a ministry as well as my husband. He wanted to make sure that I knew it was possible to support and build my husband’s ministry, but also cultivate my individual calling. I’m his biggest cheerleader and he is mine, because we respect our individual ministries and our ministry as a couple.My biggest challenge was realizing that supporting him didn’t mean diminishing me.
3. What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife who is struggling with “submission”?
Prov. 14:1 says “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”The purpose of your marriage is for the two to become one, building together…one mission, one vision. It doesn’t happen automatically… “becoming” is always a process. I had to realize that submission wasn’t a curse word, and it also wasn’t contingent on what my husband did or didn’t do. There is strength and influence in coming under his authority and trusting him to lead. It does something in him too. It also is one of the best ways to learn humility. I always tell women that we have the easy job in submission, because our husbands are called to love us like Christ loved the church…now who wouldn’t want to submit to that?! 🙂
4. What about the singles who want to be married, and feel like they’ve been waiting FOREVER? What does it truly mean to “wait on God” as a single woman waiting to be found? Is it just a cliche?
If we have a waiting problem, it’s usually because we have a trusting problem. I was always a plan B girl. I knew God’s plan, but I made sure I had another option just in case God took too long. God showed me that I truly didn’t trust Him, partly because I didn’t have a full revelation of who I was. Sometimes we settle for plan b, c, or d because deep down we don’t know what we bring to the table. Never be afraid to be introspective. While you wait on God’s promises, learn how to be your best you. If we don’t take time to let God show us who we are, we can easily lose ourselves in another person.
5. Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?
Don’t become your spouse’s roommate, or become strangers in your own house. It’s important to have your girls and for him to have his boys, but at the end of the day you should love being with one another more than anyone else in the world. My husband and I just enjoy each other’s company. We built our friendship before we even dated. We don’t just love each other, we LIKE each other.
Whether you’re single, engaged, or already married, read the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It taught me how to love my husband according to how he receives love, and it stretched me out of my comfort zone. If quality time makes him feel loved, but you just keep buying him stuff because you’re a gift-giver, his love tank may be low. Always do a love tank check-up ;).
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Over the past month, I’ve been sharing more and more about the importance of the day Thursday, with some of my married friends. “What’s so important about this day”, you ask? Well this is my standing “date-day” with my Boo Bear, and it’s off limits.
Keem and I learned early in our marriage just how important it is to “make the time” for each other. During our pre-marital counseling, our marriage mentors made sure that we picked a day and stuck to it! We’re nearly 4 years in, and Thursday is still our day!
Life gets so busy, that we sometimes overlook the things/people we’ve been neglecting. Now of course keem and I see each other every day, but we made a decision to make INTENTIONAL time for each other!
Each Thursday looks different. Sometimes we coordinate workouts, and hang out in the house. Sometimes we go grocery shopping at Wegmans and stop to eat at the hot bar. And other times we plan full out date trips to amusements parks or to dinner and a movie! What we do doesn’t really matter, the key is to spend time together… intentionally! Phones down, work put away… just me and my Boo Bear!
Now, this is not a new topic on the blog, but it’s totally worth repeating!
Take a look at your marriage, and ask yourself, “when was the last time my honey and I actually made plans to hang out”? If you’re finding it hard to remember specifics, a date day is in order! Now I know you may have “life” going on… but what is life if you’re not building with your spouse? And if you have kids, what will you have to stand on once the kids are grown, if you haven’t spent any time together?
Remember, it’s not what you do that’s most important… although it should be fun and enjoyable! It’s who you’re doing it with… and being intentional about that time together!
Hey ladies! I’m back with another quick video🎥! Yaaaassss!!! I can’t help but keep it real! Check it out! I’m sharing a personal truth (#pleasedontjudgeme)… and talking about a very important, nearly life changing, cooking lesson from this past weekend! Enjoy and Be Encouraged!💕🤗💕
Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 5 of the “Fierce 5” series, and today Michele Turner is sharing, UNFILTERED! We’re going out with a BANG! If you know Deaconess Michele, then you know you aren’t getting anything other than the truth! Yaaaassss!! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is screaming for her children to listen!!! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese
How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?
November will be 31 years. That marriage is a job you never get time off, sick leave or a vacation. Enjoy the wedding day because every day after that is work. What you put in your marriage is what you will get out of it. Love covers a multitude of sin! After 10yrs of me committing adultery and this man still loves me as Christ love the church… I drop the mic😙
What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?
Love, respect and just being who God created me to be. Never lose yourself for a man. Be honest don’t lie to yourself or that man everything you do in the dark comes to the light remember that. Make sure you’re IN love with him and you don’t just love him like you love your family and best friend. When you’re IN love you can survive any storm.
What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?
Have lots of sex. This releases stress, unless your husband is crazy. Stop trying to live as if you’re still single, hanging out ALL the time with your old single friends. If you don’t have kids make sure your husband is uno #1. He should not have to be jealous for your time. You’re on the phone all day but can’t have a decent conversation other than “how was your day”… (Red flag). Your husband pays more attention than you think.
What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?
Like and love who you are first you can’t give away what you don’t have. Know “why” you want to be married because with God age ain’t nothing but a number. Let him find you PLEASE!!! Learn to be okay if God says marriage is not for you.
Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?
All the originals are taken, don’t be a copy cat. Stop looking at the grass on the other side, it needs to be worked on too. Seek God in all you do, don’t let Him be your last resource. When HE speaks, listen. I drop the mic😙