I’m a whole mom and I’m creating a life that excites me…
From how I show up and slay (imma be that snatched mom 💋💁🏾♀️)… to the time I spend with my family, my child my spouse…. to the way I create 🤩… even how I have to shift as the seasons of my motherhood journey change (learning from the different circumstances I face🙌🏾😭)… I’m create the life I desire through it all🙌🏾🙌🏾
Idk who needs to be reminded, but Moms can absolutely SLAY and experience amazing, fulfilling, purposefully abundantlives…
and we don’t have to wait until our kids are grown.
Idk about you but I’m doing just that! Creating a life worth bragging about… not bc of me… but to be a living witness of just how dope God is and what He can do in and through me as I surrender to Him and stay in alignment… yes… as a WHOLE mom!
How about you, momma? What are you willing to do to experience the life you desire? Are you courageous enough to say “YES” to you?
“Never doubt God’s mighty power to work in you and accomplish all this. He will achieve infinitely more than your greatest request, your most unbelievable dream, and exceed your wildest imagination! He will outdo them all, for his miraculous power constantly energizes you.” Ephesians 3:20 TPT
So if you’ve been following me on INSTAGRAM, then you may know that I made a commitment to myself to beat my face all week last week. I purchased some new makeup from one of my fave beauty brands, and decided to make time to do one of the things I absolutely love! Here is one of my fave looks from last week…
I had a BALL!!! Like, I got up every morning, had my coffee, did my devotional and MADE the time to do my makeup! Y’all it was everything!
It’s so funny because as I was enjoying my daily beat, I couldn’t help but remember when I first started doing my own makeup and the process I went through to learn how to do it correctly! And that’s when it hit me…
creating harmony and manifesting the life you desire as a mom is like beating my face!
Whether self taught or professionally trained,.. it takes being intentional to learn how to do it, but once you master it there is a flow! (Story time)
Let me take you back to 2010, when I first starting doing my own makeup. I’d just accepted my new job as a manager at Macy’s, and I was finally ready to put in the work to learn. So, I went to the nearest Mac counter and purchased a little bit of everything.
I got home, and stood in front of my bathroom ready to SLAY. I thought I could just start and everything would come together. Wrong! I had no clue what I was doing! Everyone I watched on YouTube, made it look so easy, but it wasn’t… for me! Y’all it was not pretty! My foundation didn’t match, my skin was breaking out… it was so bad!
After 3 weeks of unsuccessfully trying it on my own, I went back to return my products. Clearly they were the problem, not me!
Well that’s when Ms Margaret came to unknowingly save the day.🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
She helped me to understand why the products weren’t working for me, and quickly shifted to teach me what I needed to know to finally get it right! She explained the different types of foundations, how to use concealer, and even explained the importance of skin care and WASHING MY MAKEUP BRUSHES! It seemed so obvious, but I clearly needed someone to guide me in the right direction. 😭😭😭
I’m a pretty quick study so I took all that she showed me and tried again, and guess what? It actually made a difference! My foundation actually matched, I created a skin care routine to avoid breakouts, and I even made the time to ensure my tools were cleaned and cared. I’ve been mastering this skill, and routine over the years and well… look at me now! Ayyyeee!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🔥🔥🔥🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Well, the same is true for you momma… just like I tried to pick up the art of makeup…. you may have tried to find “balance” and change your life, to no avail. And after 3 weeks/months/years of unsuccessfully trying it on your own… you’ve convinced yourself that “this just doesn’t work for me”! You may have even resolved to forfeit your promise of abundance, because “you’re a mom” and “this is just how it is”!
Well let me be your Ms Margaret! Allow me to show you that it is possible and what exactly you need to experience the transformation and abundance and life you desire! Because you, momma, CAN HAVE IT ALL! • I’m talking what you REALLY DESIRE…
✨MORE time with your loved ones ✨MORE intimacy in your marriage ✨MORE money in your bank account ✨MORE in every area that matters most to you!
I know you’re ready to not only witness what it looks like to have a bomb life as a whole mom, but you’re ready to redefine mom life on your terms, and finally create the life that excites you!
If you’re sick and tired of trying on your own, and don’t want to waste another moment, stuck in overwhelm and living a life that doesn’t serve you… and you’re finally ready to TAKE ACTION… Then I have EXACTLY what you’ve need!
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And momma, if nobody ever told you…
YOU DESERVE the life you DESIRE!
Every abundant promise, is yours! God isn’t holding anything back from you, and I’m here to help guide you to where overflow resides! Can’t wait!
Okay sooooo, this past week hubby and I watched the show “Love is Blind” on Netflix!! Did you see it? No? Do yourself a favor and catch it during this COVID19 lockdown. You will not be disappointed.
I saw Vanessa Lachey (she hosted the show with her hubby Nick) and immediately thought of this Christmas movie, A Twist of Christmas. She was some sort of reporter and had an opportunity to interview a best selling author who was the face of “managing it all/you can have it all” for moms! Yes, this man was the “expert” on keeping all things at home in order. Crazy!!! Lol
During this interview, she mentioned how she felt like somewhat of a failure because she hadn’t been able to keep up with all that he spoke about in his book. She felt like her life wasn’t together, especially as a single mom with a career!
Then it happened… the author slipped up and shared his secret to success! He goes “Oh, I have people for all of that…” He has:
🗣 a maid
🗣 a cook
🗣 an assistant…etc
Lawd! A whole lie! This man wrote a whole book as if he were doing it all, when in reality he had people working behind the scenes for him! Y’all, I was feeling some sort of way… yelling at the screen with all my black girl magic! 🗣😂
Okay! I know it’s just a movie, but man oh man, did it give me some serious perspective!
1. Don’t compare to others. (Obvi, but I needed the reminder)
In the movie, Vanessa felt like a failure because she couldn’t keep up with the ideals/lifestyle put forth in that best selling book. But how many of us as women/moms/mommypreneurs feel like failures/”less than” because we feel that we can’t keep up with our counterparts based solely on what we see posted on social media? I know I did at one point! I follow a lot of influencers who are also moms, and Before Dream got here I thought I could manage my life/time/business the same way they did.
Not only was I wrong,but I soon realized as I got into the “thick of it” and actually had to raise Dream, not many spoke of their challenges. Yes, some shared an “it’s challenging” post here and there, but the images seemed so perfect I thought there was no way that they could relate to my situation. For a moment, I felt alone in this mommypreneur space. Not fun. Thank God for my people who swooped in and quickly got me together!
Comparison kills in every area of life! And for me, comparing what I’m able to do in this season with what I see others doing, isn’t wise! God has graced me to live MY LIFE, not theirs. So with that, when I see others going on vacations, or other mommypreneurs who are traveling/speaking/hosting/ living baby free, and showing up in life and business differently than I am… I cannot compare. Their “behind the scenes” isn’t the same as mine and that’s okay! Whether they decide to share what’s happening behind the scenes or not, it’s none of my business. I still celebrate! I truly want us ALL to win, however, I don’t live my life trying to keep up!
“God has called and graced me to live MY LIFE, not theirs”
2. Be REAL and authentic with your platform/message/story
As I’m sharing more of what it’s like for me to be A WHOLE MOM, who is also building her empire… I have to be real!
🗣It’s fun at times, and other times it’s EXTREMELY FRUSTRATING!
🗣I get it right some days, and other days… Lord Help Me😭😂
I’m here to use my journey, my story (Lessons learned and victories), to empower other mommas who are building as well! I love pretty pictures, and I’m pretty good with sprinkling my words with just the right amount of sparkle to keep up appearances. But is that impact as God designed?
The word says “His power is made perfect in my weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). So when we share our story… those authentic, imperfect parts of us that won’t fit behind an Instagram filter… I truly believe God’s power shows up in a mighty way!
So I’m grateful for this opportunity. I’m living what I share.
I don’t have a maid, a cook, or an assistant, but I do have:
🗣 A voice
🗣 A story
🗣and the passion to help myself and other women in my shoes OWN everything God has for us!
Have you ever questioned whether God was really calling you to make that move? Like, “God can I really handle this”? I have🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️ Listen, I’m in this with you and I’m so thankful for God’s strength and grace that continue to show up for me when I need to show up In MY Marriage, MY home, and to the world🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Be encouraged and know God’s grace is sufficient for you!
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It took me a little under a month to complete my vision board! Here’s why along with 3 takeaways that will help you SLAY your goals in 2020!
1￼. I had to be Intentional
One of the main themes in my life is to “Be Intentional”. My first attempt at a vision board years ago, didn’t go so well. I was a bit all over the place. I literally grabbed a couple of magazines, and started cutting and pasting pretty images with no real vision. To be honest, I was more concerned with making sure my board looked good, over making sure I picked images and words that were intentional and spoke directly to who God created me to be/what I wanted to manifest in my life. I know better now! I took the time to write out exactly what I was expecting God to do in my life, and this time around I found the images and words that aligned with this vision. Not only did I picked the bold, aesthetically appealing images, I chose them with purpose!
Takeaway: Write the vision, Make it plain… then find the images that are in alignment! Be intentional!
2. I wanted to make sure my goals were Actionable and Measurable.
Another things that was a complete shift this year, I made each goal actionable and measurable (Hello S.M.A.R.T planning). Where I once used to put everything on one big board, I actually used the last few pages of my 2020 planner*. I created what I am going to call vision pages! I broke down my vision for 2020 into 5 specific areas of my life; Faith, Family, Finances, Fitness and Business. And on each of those pages I focused on what I wanted to manifest! So my “Blog monthly” from 2019, turned into “Post 3x to blog monthly before the last day of that month”. And my very general “Workout” turned into the page you see in the featured image; complete with health and wellness goals and a mindset/affirmation to bring it all together. And Now when I check in at the end of each month, I’m very clear on where I hit the mark, and where I need to adjust!
Takeaway: Set actionable goals that you can measure! Check in monthly/quarterly, and adjust as needed!
3. I took the time to write out my Prayer requests in the form of praise reports!
This is not a new practice for me, but it is SOOOOO worth sharing! I am a writer (obvi) and for the past few years I’ve been very intentional about writing out specific prayer requests in the form of praise reports**! This started the year before I met my husband! I note this because in January of 2013 I wrote:
“Thank you, Lord for introducing me to my husband. I thank you for making me whole, and allowing me to experience real love from a man who loves and honors you”!
February 2013, I started dating Keem!
Now don’t get it twisted this is not a magical formula, nor is this a how to get a husband post. The key is how we frame our requests. If you look at what I wrote, I understood that I needed to be “whole” and complete in Him, before meeting the one! I took my eyes off of what I wanted and set my intention on what I needed… for God to work on me! Sometimes our prayers are so one sided, we forget to include the work we need to do! (Reference Psalm 37:4)
Framing our requests to God in the form of a declaration and praise is a game changer. Don’t get my wrong, there is totally a place for those broken moments when we lay it all at the feet of Jesus and know that only His strength can carry us. Listen, I have those meltdown moments in the presence of my Savior, too. (Oh, He is The Good Good Father and cares about EVERY SINGLE TEAR)! And I’m so thankful that He also responds to our faith as we declare His word over our lives, and shows Himself FAITHFUL every single time!
Takeaway: Fuel your prayers with faith. Give God praise in advance for what He is doing/going to manifest in your life, and watch God work out the details! Move as He directs! Delayed obedience could delay your promise!
*Shout out Patrice Washington, who inspired my idea when she mentioned her “Dream Journal”.
** Shout Out to my sister, Chris for this best practice!