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Behind the Scenes | 2 Things I’m Committed to As a #Mommypreneur

Okay sooooo, this past week hubby and I watched the show “Love is Blind” on Netflix!! Did you see it? No? Do yourself a favor and catch it during this COVID19 lockdown. You will not be disappointed.

Anyway…

I saw Vanessa Lachey (she hosted the show with her hubby Nick) and immediately thought of this Christmas movie, A Twist of Christmas. She was some sort of reporter and had an opportunity to interview a best selling author who was the face of “managing it all/you can have it all” for moms! Yes, this man was the “expert” on keeping all things at home in order. Crazy!!! Lol

During this interview, she mentioned how she felt like somewhat of a failure because she hadn’t been able to keep up with all that he spoke about in his book. She felt like her life wasn’t together, especially as a single mom with a career!

Then it happened… the author slipped up and shared his secret to success! He goes “Oh, I have people for all of that…He has:

🗣 a maid

🗣 a cook

🗣 nanny

🗣 an assistant…etc

Lawd! A whole lie!  This man wrote a whole book as if he were doing it all, when in reality he had people working behind the scenes for him! Y’all, I was feeling some sort of way… yelling at the screen with all my black girl magic! 🗣😂

Okay! I know it’s just a movie, but man oh man, did it give me some serious perspective!

2 things:

1. Don’t compare to others. (Obvi, but I needed the reminder)

In the movie, Vanessa felt like a failure because she couldn’t keep up with the ideals/lifestyle put forth in that best selling book. But how many of us as women/moms/mommypreneurs feel like failures/”less than”  because we feel that we can’t keep up with our counterparts based solely on what we see posted on social media? I know I did at one point! I follow a lot of influencers who are also moms, and Before Dream got here I thought I could manage my life/time/business the same way they did. 

Not only was I wrong,but I soon realized as I got into the “thick of it” and actually had to raise Dream, not many spoke of their challenges. Yes, some shared an “it’s challenging” post here and there, but the images seemed so perfect I thought there was no way that they could relate to my situation. For a moment, I felt alone in this mommypreneur space. Not fun. Thank God for my people who swooped in and quickly got me together!

Comparison kills in every area of life! And for me, comparing what I’m able to do in this season with what I see others doing, isn’t wise! God has graced me to live MY LIFE, not theirs. So with that, when I see others going on vacations, or other mommypreneurs who are traveling/speaking/hosting/ living baby free,  and showing up in life and business differently than I am… I cannot compare. Their “behind the scenes” isn’t the same as mine and that’s okay! Whether they decide to share what’s happening behind the scenes or not, it’s none of my business.  I still celebrate! I truly want us ALL to win, however, I don’t live my life trying to keep up!

“God has called and graced me to live MY LIFE, not theirs”

 

2. Be REAL and authentic with your platform/message/story

As I’m sharing more of what it’s like for me to be A WHOLE MOM, who is also building her empire… I have to be real!

🗣It’s fun at times, and other times it’s EXTREMELY FRUSTRATING!

🗣I get it right some days, and other days… Lord Help Me😭😂

I’m here to use my journey, my story (Lessons learned and victories), to empower other mommas who are building as well! I love pretty pictures, and I’m pretty good with sprinkling my words with just the right amount of sparkle to keep up appearances. But is that impact as God designed?

The word says “His power is made perfect in my weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). So when we share our story… those authentic, imperfect parts of us that won’t fit behind an Instagram filter… I truly believe God’s power shows up in a mighty way!

So I’m grateful for this opportunity. I’m living what I share.

I don’t have a maid, a cook, or an assistant, but I do have:

🗣 Perspective

🗣 A voice

🗣 A story

🗣and the passion to help myself and other women in my shoes OWN everything God has for us!

My “behind the scenes” is front and center!

Reese

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VIDEO | God, Did You REALLY Call Me to Do this? | #Hisgraceissufficient

REPOST!

Have you ever questioned whether God was really calling you to make that move? Like, “God can I really handle this”? I have🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️ Listen, I’m in this with you and I’m so thankful for God’s strength and grace that continue to show up for me when I need to show up In MY Marriage, MY home, and to the world🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Be encouraged and know God’s grace is sufficient for you!


Reese

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Why It took Me a Month to Finish my “Vision Board ” + 3 Takeaways to Help You Slay in 2020!

It took me a little under a month to complete my vision board! Here’s why along with 3 takeaways that will help you SLAY your goals in 2020!

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1. I had to be Intentional

One of the main themes in my life is to “Be Intentional”.  My first attempt at a vision board years ago, didn’t go so well.  I was a bit all over the place. I literally grabbed a couple of magazines, and started cutting and pasting pretty images with no real vision. To be honest,  I  was more concerned with making sure my board looked good, over making sure I picked images and words that were intentional and spoke directly to who God created me to be/what I wanted to manifest in my life.  I know better now! I took the time to write out exactly what I was expecting God to do in my life, and this time around I found the images and words that aligned with this vision. Not only did I picked the bold, aesthetically appealing images, I chose them with purpose! 

Takeaway: Write the vision, Make it plain… then find the images that are in alignment! Be intentional!

2. I wanted to make sure my goals were Actionable and Measurable.

Another things that was a complete shift this year, I made each goal actionable and measurable (Hello S.M.A.R.T planning). Where I once used to put everything on one big board, I actually used the last few pages of my 2020 planner*. I created what I am going to call vision pages! I broke down my vision for 2020 into 5 specific areas of my life; Faith, Family, Finances, Fitness and Business. And on each of those pages I focused on what I wanted to manifest!  So my “Blog monthly” from 2019, turned into “Post 3x to blog monthly before the last day of that month”. And my very general “Workout” turned into the page you see in the featured image; complete with health and wellness goals and a mindset/affirmation to bring it all together. And Now when I check in at the end of each month, I’m very clear on where I hit the mark, and where I need to adjust! 

Takeaway: Set actionable goals that you can measure! Check in monthly/quarterly, and adjust as needed!

3. I took the time to write out my Prayer requests in the form of praise reports!

This is not a new practice for me, but it is SOOOOO worth sharing! I am a writer (obvi) and for the past few years I’ve been very intentional about writing out specific prayer requests in the form of praise reports**! This started the year before I met my husband! I note this because in January of 2013 I wrote:

“Thank you, Lord for introducing me to my husband. I thank you for making me whole, and allowing me to experience real love from a man who loves and honors you”! 

February 2013, I started dating Keem! 

Now don’t get it twisted this is not a magical formula, nor is this a how to get a husband post. The key is how we frame our requests.  If you look at what I wrote, I understood that I needed to be “whole” and complete in Him, before meeting the one! I took my eyes off of what I wanted and set my intention on what I needed… for God to work on me! Sometimes our prayers are so one sided, we forget to include the work we need to do! (Reference Psalm 37:4)

Framing our requests to God in the form of a declaration and praise is a game changer. Don’t get my wrong, there is totally a place for those broken moments when we lay it all at the feet of Jesus and know that only His strength can carry us. Listen, I have those meltdown moments in the presence of my Savior, too. (Oh, He is The Good Good Father and cares about EVERY SINGLE TEAR)! And I’m so thankful that He also responds to our faith as we declare His word over our lives,  and shows Himself FAITHFUL every single time!

Takeaway: Fuel your prayers with faith. Give God praise in advance for what He is doing/going to manifest in your life, and watch God work out the details!  Move as He directs! Delayed obedience could delay your promise!

 

Reese

Credit:

*Shout out Patrice Washington, who inspired my idea when she mentioned her “Dream Journal”.

** Shout Out to my sister, Chris for this best practice!

 

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VIDEO | Why I Changed my Eating Lifestyle + 3 Tips to Help Embrace Transition in Life! | #momlife

I cannot believe I’ve been a mommy to this little yummy nugget for a WHOLE 7 months!!! 7… I feel like I was tell Keem I was pregnant! I can still see that look he gave me… a mixture of excitement and “okay, this is REALLY happening”! Time is flying, and I am not even mad about it 😂! So thankful for Dream and how God is showing himself faithful as she just blossoming! God’s special gift to us, a true masterpiece, DESTINED FOR GREATNESS! I mean, LOOK AT HER!!

This journey has not been easy! Not only have I had to adjust to being a mommy, who’s village is POWERFUL, yet not so close (come back👀👀👀) lol… but I’ve had to make some serious changes to my diet! Check out my video on WHY I HAD TO CHANGE, along with 3 helpful tips if you find yourself in the midst of Transition! As always… I LOOOOOOVE to hear from you! So be sure to LIKE, Comment, SHARE with someone in need… and subscribe🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

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My 33rd Birthday Celebration | Pictures + 5 Lessons Learned at 32!

My birthday this year was everything and then some! I gathered some of my faves for a very intimate celebration, and WE HAD A BALL… ALL WEEKEND LONG!!! Here are a few of the highlights ALONG with 5 lessons learned at 32!

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1. Do what you want!

I’ve been wanting to host an event like this for a long while, but the timing was never right, or at least that’s what I used to tell myself. I was so distracted by all the excuses for why I couldn’t, so I didn’t. When I lived in an apartment, “it was too small”. When we bought the house, “it wasn’t furnished enough”, and now this year it almost didn’t happen because “I’m a mom”. Listen, if you look for an excuse you will ALWAYS find one. So I decided to stop putting what I want on hold, And planned the party I wanted! My Champagne Soiree! I bought the decorations that made me feel special, wore the dress that made me feel absolutely BOMB, and enjoyed celebrating ME!

Stop waiting for the perfect moment, and do what you want!

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2. Don’t lose yourself

As a new mom this has been so important for me. Yes, I am “Dream’s mom” but I’m Reese first.  And this baby-free celebration was just what momma needed! I have to be fully and wholly me, in order to give my all to being a mommy. This is why I still care for and do things for myself to make sure I feel great. Working out, getting dressed and beautified as often as I can, and making the “me time” has strengthen my awareness of who I am. But this is not just important for moms; it’s a reminder for anyone who finds themselves slowly but surely getting lost in whatever roles they play.

So whether you’re a mom, sister, care taker, wife, business women, entrepreneur… stay connected and aware of who you are, and what makes you happy and whole!

 

3. Some things aren’t as difficult as you may think, especially when you know your “why”.

Brunch is my absolute favorite meal, and I usually brunch every year for my birthday. This year I knew going out to brunch wouldn’t be the most enjoyable option, due to my dietary restrictions (a whole series on that soon), so I decided to host in my home, and cook/bake the food and treats that I could enjoy!!! (YES, I cooked and baked everything).  Listen, this soy free/dairy free/gluten free/egg free/wheat free life is NOT easy, but it’s also not as difficult as I thought it would be (especially with my “why” in mind). There are so many amazing recipes, and being a #SAHM has given me the opportunity to explore. Now let’s not get it twisted,  there were still challenges preparing for a small gathering with a 6-month old (shout out my own personal Dora Milaje lol who held it down with Dream while I was cooking/cleaning etc), but overall, I did it and I’m so proud of how things turned out!

Don’t knock it until you try it!

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4. Surround yourself with the people you love.

Embrace those who add to your life, not take away.

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5. Be flexible, be fluid, nothing is etched in stone. Sometimes, things won’t go as planned… and THAT IS OKAY! Enjoy life anyway!

My toes weren’t done, I didn’t get to set up my cupcakes in time, oh and I worked up until the first guest arrived, but it all worked out. Of course I could have sulked the whole evening, sharing the woes of how I was preparing, but I chose to go with the flow and ENJOY MYSELF!! Listen, 32 (and being a mommy) has taught me that I need to be FLEXIBLE. I can’t do it all, I can no longer show up the same way, and I am so thankful for the loved ones who understand and support me!

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This vegan, dairy free sweet potato cupcake w/ vegan buttercream frosting was an absolutely hit!

As I go into year 33, I’m keeping my stress level down, using my “no”, prioritizing me and the things/People important to me… and I will live my BEST Abundantly blesses life!! Yaaaassss!!!

 

Reese