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Why It took Me a Month to Finish my “Vision Board ” + 3 Takeaways to Help You Slay in 2020!

It took me a little under a month to complete my vision board! Here’s why along with 3 takeaways that will help you SLAY your goals in 2020!

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1. I had to be Intentional

One of the main themes in my life is to “Be Intentional”.  My first attempt at a vision board years ago, didn’t go so well.  I was a bit all over the place. I literally grabbed a couple of magazines, and started cutting and pasting pretty images with no real vision. To be honest,  I  was more concerned with making sure my board looked good, over making sure I picked images and words that were intentional and spoke directly to who God created me to be/what I wanted to manifest in my life.  I know better now! I took the time to write out exactly what I was expecting God to do in my life, and this time around I found the images and words that aligned with this vision. Not only did I picked the bold, aesthetically appealing images, I chose them with purpose! 

Takeaway: Write the vision, Make it plain… then find the images that are in alignment! Be intentional!

2. I wanted to make sure my goals were Actionable and Measurable.

Another things that was a complete shift this year, I made each goal actionable and measurable (Hello S.M.A.R.T planning). Where I once used to put everything on one big board, I actually used the last few pages of my 2020 planner*. I created what I am going to call vision pages! I broke down my vision for 2020 into 5 specific areas of my life; Faith, Family, Finances, Fitness and Business. And on each of those pages I focused on what I wanted to manifest!  So my “Blog monthly” from 2019, turned into “Post 3x to blog monthly before the last day of that month”. And my very general “Workout” turned into the page you see in the featured image; complete with health and wellness goals and a mindset/affirmation to bring it all together. And Now when I check in at the end of each month, I’m very clear on where I hit the mark, and where I need to adjust! 

Takeaway: Set actionable goals that you can measure! Check in monthly/quarterly, and adjust as needed!

3. I took the time to write out my Prayer requests in the form of praise reports!

This is not a new practice for me, but it is SOOOOO worth sharing! I am a writer (obvi) and for the past few years I’ve been very intentional about writing out specific prayer requests in the form of praise reports**! This started the year before I met my husband! I note this because in January of 2013 I wrote:

“Thank you, Lord for introducing me to my husband. I thank you for making me whole, and allowing me to experience real love from a man who loves and honors you”! 

February 2013, I started dating Keem! 

Now don’t get it twisted this is not a magical formula, nor is this a how to get a husband post. The key is how we frame our requests.  If you look at what I wrote, I understood that I needed to be “whole” and complete in Him, before meeting the one! I took my eyes off of what I wanted and set my intention on what I needed… for God to work on me! Sometimes our prayers are so one sided, we forget to include the work we need to do! (Reference Psalm 37:4)

Framing our requests to God in the form of a declaration and praise is a game changer. Don’t get my wrong, there is totally a place for those broken moments when we lay it all at the feet of Jesus and know that only His strength can carry us. Listen, I have those meltdown moments in the presence of my Savior, too. (Oh, He is The Good Good Father and cares about EVERY SINGLE TEAR)! And I’m so thankful that He also responds to our faith as we declare His word over our lives,  and shows Himself FAITHFUL every single time!

Takeaway: Fuel your prayers with faith. Give God praise in advance for what He is doing/going to manifest in your life, and watch God work out the details!  Move as He directs! Delayed obedience could delay your promise!

 

Reese

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*Shout out Patrice Washington, who inspired my idea when she mentioned her “Dream Journal”.

** Shout Out to my sister, Chris for this best practice!

 

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VIDEO | Why I Changed my Eating Lifestyle + 3 Tips to Help Embrace Transition in Life! | #momlife

I cannot believe I’ve been a mommy to this little yummy nugget for a WHOLE 7 months!!! 7… I feel like I was tell Keem I was pregnant! I can still see that look he gave me… a mixture of excitement and “okay, this is REALLY happening”! Time is flying, and I am not even mad about it 😂! So thankful for Dream and how God is showing himself faithful as she just blossoming! God’s special gift to us, a true masterpiece, DESTINED FOR GREATNESS! I mean, LOOK AT HER!!

This journey has not been easy! Not only have I had to adjust to being a mommy, who’s village is POWERFUL, yet not so close (come back👀👀👀) lol… but I’ve had to make some serious changes to my diet! Check out my video on WHY I HAD TO CHANGE, along with 3 helpful tips if you find yourself in the midst of Transition! As always… I LOOOOOOVE to hear from you! So be sure to LIKE, Comment, SHARE with someone in need… and subscribe🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

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My 33rd Birthday Celebration | Pictures + 5 Lessons Learned at 32!

My birthday this year was everything and then some! I gathered some of my faves for a very intimate celebration, and WE HAD A BALL… ALL WEEKEND LONG!!! Here are a few of the highlights ALONG with 5 lessons learned at 32!

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1. Do what you want!

I’ve been wanting to host an event like this for a long while, but the timing was never right, or at least that’s what I used to tell myself. I was so distracted by all the excuses for why I couldn’t, so I didn’t. When I lived in an apartment, “it was too small”. When we bought the house, “it wasn’t furnished enough”, and now this year it almost didn’t happen because “I’m a mom”. Listen, if you look for an excuse you will ALWAYS find one. So I decided to stop putting what I want on hold, And planned the party I wanted! My Champagne Soiree! I bought the decorations that made me feel special, wore the dress that made me feel absolutely BOMB, and enjoyed celebrating ME!

Stop waiting for the perfect moment, and do what you want!

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2. Don’t lose yourself

As a new mom this has been so important for me. Yes, I am “Dream’s mom” but I’m Reese first.  And this baby-free celebration was just what momma needed! I have to be fully and wholly me, in order to give my all to being a mommy. This is why I still care for and do things for myself to make sure I feel great. Working out, getting dressed and beautified as often as I can, and making the “me time” has strengthen my awareness of who I am. But this is not just important for moms; it’s a reminder for anyone who finds themselves slowly but surely getting lost in whatever roles they play.

So whether you’re a mom, sister, care taker, wife, business women, entrepreneur… stay connected and aware of who you are, and what makes you happy and whole!

 

3. Some things aren’t as difficult as you may think, especially when you know your “why”.

Brunch is my absolute favorite meal, and I usually brunch every year for my birthday. This year I knew going out to brunch wouldn’t be the most enjoyable option, due to my dietary restrictions (a whole series on that soon), so I decided to host in my home, and cook/bake the food and treats that I could enjoy!!! (YES, I cooked and baked everything).  Listen, this soy free/dairy free/gluten free/egg free/wheat free life is NOT easy, but it’s also not as difficult as I thought it would be (especially with my “why” in mind). There are so many amazing recipes, and being a #SAHM has given me the opportunity to explore. Now let’s not get it twisted,  there were still challenges preparing for a small gathering with a 6-month old (shout out my own personal Dora Milaje lol who held it down with Dream while I was cooking/cleaning etc), but overall, I did it and I’m so proud of how things turned out!

Don’t knock it until you try it!

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4. Surround yourself with the people you love.

Embrace those who add to your life, not take away.

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5. Be flexible, be fluid, nothing is etched in stone. Sometimes, things won’t go as planned… and THAT IS OKAY! Enjoy life anyway!

My toes weren’t done, I didn’t get to set up my cupcakes in time, oh and I worked up until the first guest arrived, but it all worked out. Of course I could have sulked the whole evening, sharing the woes of how I was preparing, but I chose to go with the flow and ENJOY MYSELF!! Listen, 32 (and being a mommy) has taught me that I need to be FLEXIBLE. I can’t do it all, I can no longer show up the same way, and I am so thankful for the loved ones who understand and support me!

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This vegan, dairy free sweet potato cupcake w/ vegan buttercream frosting was an absolutely hit!

As I go into year 33, I’m keeping my stress level down, using my “no”, prioritizing me and the things/People important to me… and I will live my BEST Abundantly blesses life!! Yaaaassss!!!

 

Reese

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#Snatched For His Glory | Pre-Order ends Today

ICYMI : I released and re-released the #Snatched FOR HIS GLORY tees on my online store,  Fierce & Refined Boutique! Yaaaaaassss🔥🔥🔥 Today is the FINAL DAY to pre-order, and I don’t want you to miss out! Also enjoy free shipping site wide with code “#snatched”.

Both styles of the #Snatched tees are ONLY AVAILABLE DURING pre-order!

So don’t delay + check out a quick video of how I style it!🔥🔥🔥

 

**CLICK HERE TO SHOP NOW**

 

Reese

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Week 3 | Fierce 5💍 Marriage Series | First Lady Tawana Washington

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It’s week 3!

Yaaaasssss! And our feature for the week, First Lady Tawana Washington, is taking it there! Married for 24 years, check out what she has to say about Communication, balance, and what it means to “wait on God”. You can connect with her via email: tawanacoolbeans@gmail.com 


1. How many years have you been married,

and what has being married for xx years taught you?

 

After being married for 24 years, I have learned that communication is a key component in my marriage.  I have come to the realization that communication is not just talking, but the ability to listen to what my spouse is saying.  Many times we say “I hear you,” but the question is are you really “listening to what your spouse is saying.  Listening is something I consciously choose to do.  When I choose to listen to my spouse, I make a conscious effort to concentrate on what my spouse is saying, and to process the information.  Communication is paramount in one’s marriage.  The Word of God says:

 “Let you speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” –Col. 4:6

2. You are definitely a “woman of purpose” how have you navigated that space of being a help-mate for your husband, and a woman with a purpose/platform/ministry? What challenges have you had to overcome and how?

Balance is how I navigate this thing called life.  Not only am I a wife, but also, a child of God with a divine purpose, a mother, a daughter, and a woman with a career.  How does one handle such a great responsibility… it is called Balance.  It is important to learn how to balance all facets of your life.  At any given point we are being called upon to satisfy or fulfill one of our roles.  Balance is what is needed to maintain stability and, truth be toldour sanity.  It is important to align one’s role with one’s responsibility and not allow your self to get lost in process.  Again Balance is the key.

“A false balance is abomination to the Lord: but a just weight is his delight.” Proverbs 11:1

3. What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife who is struggling with “submission”?
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Submission is the act of yielding oneself.  God has given us (wives) the commandment to submit to our own husband.  Ephesians 5:22-23… “Wives, submit yourselves unto you own husband, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” During present day, submission is often misunderstood and sometimes comes off as a negative act. We have to understand that our submission is to God first.  Submission comes from a place of love, caring and trust.  In our obedience and submission unto God, we submit ourselves to our husband.  We submit to our husband because we love him, and are confident that we can trust him with our heart in knowing that he would not bring us harm with his word, actions or his deeds.

The Bible also says in Ephesians 5: 21“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”  

In a marriage, both the husband and the wife are called to submit. Christ is saying that the wife is willing to follow her husband’s leadership, and the husband is to set aside his own interest in order to care for his wife.  I encourage the wife to know that submission is honoring God.   As we submit to God we become more willing to obey his command and submit to our husband.

4. What about the singles who want to be married, and feel like they’ve been waiting FOREVER? What does it truly mean to “wait on God” as a single woman waiting to be found? Is it just a cliche?

To wait on God, for a husband, is to trust God and understand that God knows what’s best for us.  God knows what we need and when we need it. Waiting is the process of preparation.  Preparation is the process of First, knowing who you are as an individual and knowing who you are in Christ.  Secondly, knowing that you have worth and that you are worth waiting for. What God has for you is for you.

5. Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Marriage is a “Good Thang.” Like anything in life, marriage is work.  You have to work at being communicative, understanding and forgiving.  Marriage is ordained and sanctioned by God.  Trust God, trust yourself and trust your spouse.  “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”(Philippians 4:13)


 

Yasssss to all of the above! Love what you’re reading! Be sure to comment below and let us know your thoughts! And be sure to connect with me on Instagram, @reese__dennis, for a more wisdom from the Fierce 5! Can’t wait to hear from you!

Reese