Listen, I know we love our children and we’re grateful for the opportunity to raise these amazing tiny humans… we all know mom life has its challenges. However, that doesn’t mean we have to sit in those moments. Nor does having a “bad moment” make you a bad mom! (Read that again)
So, let’s shift that internal narrative!
Are you with me? Okay, keep reading… this is good!
As we shift, I encourage you to create what I’m calling a “Grace Plan”. “What is that”, you ask? Simply put, a “grace plan” is a list of things to do when you need to give yourself grace! We often talk about “giving ourselves grace”, and I decided to make it a little more practical for my life.
Today, I’m sharing my “Grace Plan” with you. These are the 5 things that help me whenever I’m having one of those moments…. or days! It makes a world of difference when you don’t have to think on your feet, because you have a preset plan of what to do. So I hope it will inspire you to create your own! Remember, there is no right or wrong. This list is specific to your needs, and will totally vary depending on the season of your life, and age of your kiddos 😭😭😭. So apply what you love, leave what don’t, and create a plan that works for you! Let’s go!
1. Breathe Chi!
Literally stop, take a deep breath. Close out the apps, turn off the TV, or step into another space for a hot second. (I’ve done this several times in my pantry 😭😭😭). Close your eyes if you can, and BREATHE chi…. inhale and exhale!!! Such a simple practice, but it’s such an amazing and powerful way to settle yourself in the moment.
2. Encourage yourself!
Once you’ve settled yourself, encourage yourself. Create some quick in the moment comebacks to speak over your life. Protip: prerecord yourself saying these in a voice memo so you can easily play them when you need to! A few things I say that are on my list:
“I am capable”
“I can do all things through Christ”
“It’s okay to stop and try again later”
“This moment is temporary”
“I’m having a moment, but I’m a great mom”
“LAWD, help me on TODAY”
That last one though 😭🙌🏾 I feel like I call on God all day. And you know what’s so bomb about that… He doesn’t mind. He actually wants us to rely on Him, and if I’m being honest He comes through for me every single time… even if it’s not the way I expected!
3. Create a playlist
When you don’t have the capacity to speak, it’s a great idea to have someone else help you with the “heavy lifting”. Better to have someone else speak life over you, than for you to allow those negative narratives to run wild internally! We’re done with that, remember? I have a whole playlist of worship songs to remind me of who I am and whose I am! It may take a few songs to get me together, but it works EVERY SINGLE TIME!
4. Change of scenery.
Strap the baby in the back and Go! Get out for a quick walk, a drive, walk the mailbox, sit on the deck… just get outside and change up the scenery. If your kids are older, go by yourself. Take some intentional deep breaths, and release the tension in your shoulders. Idk what it is but the greenery and fresh air seem to revive my soul and energize me to carry on!
5. Lean in to the moment.
Sometimes, those “mommy moments” require that we remain physically present, meaning we can’t just shut things down and walk away. In that case lean in and figure out what it is that you need to do for your little one in the moment. This may require that you reschedule a meeting, push back a play date, or delay your social post. It may require that you gracefully decline that clubhouse invite, or that phone call. And guess what? That is okay! Give yourself permission to lean in to those mommy moments when you need to, and give your littles what they need! And as you lean in, observe, learn, be present… sometime you’ll find exactly what YOU need when you lean into those moments for your little ones!
Bonus Phone a friend!
There is so much power in community.! Having people you can call on not only to vent, but who will also build you back up, pray, laugh, come over to help out, or send food when needed… is EVERYTHING! Having people who are literally ready to do whatever you need to help you so that you’re able to keep going… yea… we all need those people in our lives!
Momma, was this helpful? What will you add to you “Grace Plan”! Cant wait to hear what you come up with! Be sure to like and share with a friend in need!