1. Giving myself permission to “be” & set my own expectations!
Knowing that who I am is enough, and embracing what that looks like in each area of my life has been life changing… especially as a mom. I’ve had to seriously let go of chasing results just to validate myself in the eyes of others (this was huge for me this year). You see before I let go of all the pressure I was putting on myself to perform, I wasn’t embracing the now. Sometimes, we get so caught up focusing on “becoming” that we don’t allow ourselves to enjoy actually being. And that, momma, will always rob you of the beauty of the present.
All of you is worthy and all of your journey is important.
I truly believe most of the angst and overwhelm we feel as moms come from trying to live up to someone else’s expectations. We put so much pressure on ourselves. We take all that we see in our community, hear from others, and consume in the media, and allow it to dictate what our lives “should” look like. And what’s wild is that we do all of this without even stopping to ask “is this really the life I want for myself”. Let’s change that.
The life you love is wait for you on the other side of giving yourself permission!
2. Embracing gratitude and grace!
I can’t explain it, but as I’ve been spending time thanking God for my life and being specific and intentional about all that I’m grateful for, it feels like I have a new set of eyes. Like, I used to see my mommy challenges as insurmountable obstacles… like a legit set up (😭😭😭). I now see them as opportunities for God’s grace to overflow, and for Him to help me to grow through it (So I guess it was a set up for God to show up🤭🙌🏾). Being a mom Is not easy, but shifting my focus from the storm, to The Strong Tower… has made a huge difference in my life! I even look at my husband differently, but that’s a whole other topic for another post.
Spending time in gratitude has also helped me to recognize, amplify, and enjoy the little things that add so much to my life, especially those moments I spend with my little lady. I laugh so much more, I’m learning not to sweat the small stuff, and God’s grace looks amazing on me as I grow through my journey!
3 Acknowledging that I’m living the life that I prayed for!
At the beginning of every year, I have this practice of writing out my prayer requests and my vision for the year in the form of praise reports (Thanks to my sister Chris for the Inspo). Basically calling things that are not as though they are. (This is an excellent practice that I’ve helped guide my moms through. It’s been so rewarding, and many have already experienced the life they’ve been praying for, and the year ain’t even over yet!! I’m talking pregnancies, elevation in their businesses… time and intimacy with their spouses… it’s lit in our community)
Well don’t you know I was recently reminded of one of my “praise reports”, from a few years ago! Here’s what it said:
Thank you Father, for the opportunity to stay at home and raise my family. Thank you that I’m not pressured to work, but my husband and I are stewarding our increase, and are in the position for me to stay home.
Like, do y’all see this! Chills!
Not gonna lie, after becoming an entrepreneur, I wasn’t always this excited about being at home with my little one. I told y’all I was wrapped up, tied up… tangled up in that pressure to perform; chasing the success that I thought would gain me the approval of others. But now… now that I’ve fixed my eyes on God’s faithfulness to me… I can now see and live in the blessing that is my life!
Thank you Father, for showing me new ways to enjoy being a mom. I love my children, and I am learning to love MY mommy journey. I give myself permission to let go of what doesn’t belong, and will replace it with gratitude as Your grace covers me. I’m grateful for the opportunity to be a mommy, and I know that You will continue to guide me and show up for me, as I continue to acknowledge you in all of my ways. Through trials, triumphs and as I build my testimony… the process doesn’t have to overwhelm me! I am fully persuaded that I am called and equipped to be a great mom; as I create and live an exciting and fulfilling life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Be Encouraged, momma!