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I’m Starting to LOVE Being a Mom | Video + 3 things that helped me!

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1. Giving myself permission to “be” & set my own expectations! 

Knowing that who I am is enough, and embracing what that looks like in each area of my life has been life changing… especially as a mom.  I’ve had to seriously let go of chasing results just to validate myself in the eyes of others (this was huge for me this year). You see before I let go of all the pressure I was putting on myself to perform, I wasn’t embracing the now.  Sometimes, we get so caught up focusing on “becoming” that we don’t allow ourselves to enjoy actually being.  And that, momma,  will always rob you of the beauty of the present.

All of you is worthy and all of your journey is important.

 I truly believe  most of the angst and overwhelm we feel as moms come from trying to live up to someone else’s expectations. We put so much pressure on ourselves. We take all that we see in our community, hear from others, and consume in the media, and allow it to dictate what our lives “should” look like. And what’s wild is that we do all of this without even stopping to ask “is this really the life I want for myself”. Let’s change that.

The life you love is wait for you on the other side of  giving  yourself permission!

2. Embracing gratitude and grace!

I can’t explain it, but as I’ve been  spending time thanking God for my life and being specific and intentional about all that I’m grateful for, it feels like I have a new set of eyes. Like, I used to see my mommy challenges as insurmountable obstacles… like a legit  set up  (😭😭😭).  I now see them as opportunities for God’s grace to overflow, and for Him to help me to grow through it (So I guess it was a set up for God to show up🤭🙌🏾).  Being a mom Is not easy, but shifting my focus from the storm, to The Strong Tower… has made a huge difference in my life! I even look at my husband differently, but that’s a whole other topic for another post.

 Spending time in gratitude has also helped me to recognize, amplify, and enjoy the little things that add so much to my life, especially those moments I spend with my little lady. I laugh so much more,  I’m learning not to sweat the small stuff, and God’s grace looks amazing on me as I grow through my journey!

3 Acknowledging that I’m living the life that I prayed for!

At the beginning of every year, I have this practice of writing out my prayer requests and my vision for the year in the form of praise reports (Thanks to my sister Chris for the Inspo). Basically calling things that are not as though they are. (This is an excellent practice that I’ve helped guide my moms through. It’s been so rewarding, and many have already experienced the life they’ve been praying for, and the year ain’t even over yet!! I’m talking pregnancies, elevation in their businesses… time and intimacy with their spouses… it’s lit in our community)

Well don’t you know I was recently reminded of one of my “praise reports”, from a few years ago!  Here’s what it said:

Thank you Father, for the opportunity to stay at home and raise my family. Thank you that I’m not pressured to work, but my husband and I are stewarding our increase, and are in the position for me to stay home.

Like, do y’all see this! Chills!

 Not gonna lie, after becoming an entrepreneur, I wasn’t always this excited about being at home with my little one.  I told y’all I was wrapped up, tied up… tangled up in that pressure to perform; chasing the success that I thought would gain me the approval of others.  But now… now that I’ve fixed my eyes on God’s faithfulness to me… I can now see and live in the blessing that is my life!

Prayer

Thank you Father, for showing me new ways to enjoy being a mom.  I love my children, and I am learning to love MY mommy journey. I give myself permission to let go of what doesn’t belong, and will replace it with gratitude as Your grace covers me. I’m grateful for the opportunity to be a mommy, and I know that You will continue to guide me and show up for me, as I continue to acknowledge you in all of my ways. Through trials, triumphs and as I build my testimony… the process doesn’t have to overwhelm me! I am fully persuaded that I am called and equipped to be a great mom; as I  create and live an exciting and fulfilling life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Be Encouraged, momma!

Xx,

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3 Simple Ways to Survive Self Quarantine as a NEW MOM | #momlife

LAWD! Moms, Y’all good? During this whole COVID crisis, I’ve had so many emotions, and today I’m sharing 3 things that are helping me to survive self quarantine! Whether you’re a new mom, expecting mom or connected to a mom… this video is sure to be helpful!

Links mentioned:

9 completely Normal Things New Moms Experience

Why I Changed my eating lifestyle | Vegan + Allergen Free

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Feeling “Touched Out” + 3 Ways to Deal With It!

Ladies, how are you all holding up in the midst of the COVID-19 Lockdown? I know some of my moms are quarantined with the baby AND hubby… so this week’s #milennialmomchat is JUST FOR YOU!

This week we’re chatting about what it means to Feel “Touched Out” as a new mom, how it can affect your relationship with your spouse, and 3 practical ways to deal with it!  Intimacy is crazy important, so I’m sharing the real tea of what this looks like and how you can “navigate that space”!

Be Encouraged, and know you are NOT alone!

Be sure to like, comment, SUBSCRIBE and most importantly share with a momma in need!!!

 

Links mentioned:

9 completely Normal Things New Moms Experience: https://youtu.be/E3KCEmpYm8o

What does it mean to feel “touched out”; https://www.romper.com/p/what-does-it-mean-to-feel-touched-out-a-therapist-weighs-in-3196139

Breastfeeding Group for BLACK MOMS (AMAZING): https://www.facebook.com/groups/Blackmomsdobreastfeed/?ref=share

PPD and Anxiety Resources (get the help you need)

* postpartum support international (has info for partners too)

* Postpartumva.org ***specific to VA

* Anxiety and depression association of America

* Talk to your OB or primary care provider... they often have great referrals for therapists local to you or may even have someone on staff for you to speak with.

* Therapy for black girls has a directory of licensed therapists

* Melaninandmentalhealth.com (also has a directory of therapists)

 

 

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VIDEO | Why I Changed my Eating Lifestyle + 3 Tips to Help Embrace Transition in Life! | #momlife

I cannot believe I’ve been a mommy to this little yummy nugget for a WHOLE 7 months!!! 7… I feel like I was tell Keem I was pregnant! I can still see that look he gave me… a mixture of excitement and “okay, this is REALLY happening”! Time is flying, and I am not even mad about it 😂! So thankful for Dream and how God is showing himself faithful as she just blossoming! God’s special gift to us, a true masterpiece, DESTINED FOR GREATNESS! I mean, LOOK AT HER!!

This journey has not been easy! Not only have I had to adjust to being a mommy, who’s village is POWERFUL, yet not so close (come back👀👀👀) lol… but I’ve had to make some serious changes to my diet! Check out my video on WHY I HAD TO CHANGE, along with 3 helpful tips if you find yourself in the midst of Transition! As always… I LOOOOOOVE to hear from you! So be sure to LIKE, Comment, SHARE with someone in need… and subscribe🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾