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I’m Organizing my Home, Here’s What I’ve learned so far #momlife

That before was taken right at the moment when I said to myself “why am I living like this, enough is enough” and I didn’t even capture the dining table bc I was so embarrassed. It was covered with mail, toys, old containers &  dishes😩😭😩

You see I kept hearing & seeing  a lot of things about momlife, and how mess and clutter are inevitable when you have kids. But it’s so wild  because for me, I was using the “I have a kid” narrative to cover up a problem I’ve had for years with clutter😭😭😭

To be honest, I’d also convinced myself that “my mess wasn’t that bad” because I was comparing it to what others had… and their mess was way worse… smh!!! Just awful! I Told y’all comparison will keep you all the way stuck in your mess! Figuratively and LITERALLY!

Well A few months ago (after immersing myself into the world organizing), I decided to change that narrative in my life. I wanted to become a woman of order especially in my home. And although kids can add a whole lot of “messy” to your life & home… I  decided I no longer  wanted to live in that mess as my norm.

So I’ve been on a journey of creating a lifestyle  where everything in my home has a place (ORDER), and I set a few moments daily to maintain my space (FLOW). 

It’s funny bc all of this started when I took those first small steps (for example making my bed daily). And once I started with those simple daily habit, it’s like the energy to continue was overflowing from within me! I’ve tried to organize before, and fell short every single time! I realized this happened because I was only focused on the task. Once I decided to make this a lifestyle, and focus on who I want to BECOME in the process, the shift happened… and here we are! And I’m just getting started 🙌🏾

I’m no expert or guru in the art of decluttering or organizing… but what I do know is that your life will seldom change if you only focus on the tasks. 

I encourage you to decide who you want to become, and create goals that are in alignment with that as you TAKE ACTION.  Start as small as you need to. Be intentional and watch the energy that you need to carry on kick in and overtake you!  This is not a competition, but rather an amazing opportunity for you to create the life you’ve always desired for yourself. A life of becoming all that you know you’re called to be, filled with the overflow and results you crave the most! 

The choice is yours!

xx

Reese

 

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Struggling with selfcare, momma? Get inspired with this list | 7 Thing I do weekly just for me!

If you’re a mom then you know creating time and space for yourself isn’t always the easiest. With all th things we have to manage throughout the day, more often than not we put ourselves last. One thing I’ve learned in my motherhood journey is that I am at my best, when I make the time for myself, and do the things that I love to do just for me!  Even if it’s just for a few moments, I am so much more present, grounded and just ready to face what comes my way when my cup is filled!

So, if you’ve been struggling to find the time for yourself, check out my list of the 7 things I do every week just for me, that keep me at my best!

1 Workout. 

Every week I workout. The benefits of working out, especially as a mom are unmatched! From a 3 mile walk, to a 20 minute HIT workout… I’ve committed to myself (and my accountability partner) that I will workout a minimum of 3 times a week, and its been everything I’ve needed. There have even been days when things just felt off, and  I set up shop for a quick 15 min HIT and it got me all the way together. My workouts are strategic and concise, and most often take place while Dream is right there, and it still counts as time just for me! I will always find time to maintain my snatch!

2. “Read”

Every week I’ve committed to reading a few pages a day.  My 2021 goal is to read 1 book every month, and I’m already 7 books in and we’re just getting to May.  Now this may be misleading because sitting down with a physical book doesn’t work for me, In this season of mommyhood. The secret?  I listen to my books and I’ve become well acquainted with Audible and Libby.   Yaaassss!  And let me spill this tea real quick…  these earbuds have changed the game, and only cost $20! Seriously, I love that I can turn on my app, put in my wireless earbuds, and listen discreetly while Dream is playing or while we’re on our walks and drives! If you haven’t switched to audio books, I Highly recommend that you consider!

3. Show up and Slay

If you follow me on social media you know I love to slay! I absolutely love to get dressed, I love makeup, and I love to look as good as I feel! So at least once EVERY week, I plan a whole look… sometimes I do it daily, depending on our schedule. I get dressed up, beat my face (sometime full glam), and I live my best snatched mommy life in the playroom with Dream. lol. Most times I have nowhere to go, and I do it just for me, because it makes me feel amazing! I no longer wait for an invite, or for the perfect moment to show up and slay. I create those moments for myself, and it’s been crazy fun.  Even on the days when I don’t feel my best, getting dressed is such mood and confidence boost! So weekly, this momma is going to show up and OWN it.

4. Create

I love to create content. So every week, I take the ideas I’ve gathered and batch create my  content. Video is my jam, I even created a whole Video Bootcamp to help women show up and slay using the power of video to build their own platforms! It’s been amazing. And for me, creating gives me so much life!  It’s an outlet, but it also fuels me. From creating videos for IG, blogging, creating courses and ebooks, and even just sharing my mommy journey….whether for 30 mins or 3 hours… I get so excited when I make the time and space to just sit and flex my creative muscle.

5. Uninterrupted Showers

Yes, I do shower everyday. I also  know some have said “this is basic maintenance”, but for me… enjoying an uninterrupted  shower and just getting lost in thought is soooo good for my mental! Most times my showers are super quick and efficient because I have Dream. But when hubby is here to take over, I’ve committed to enjoying a longer than usual shower at least once a week. For some this may look like a bubble bath. But seriously, I cry, I pray, I get ideas, and sometimes I just sit in stillness with worship on in the background. And every time I get to enjoy a shower like this, it  gives me the boost I need to continue to thrive as a whole mom!

6. Rest

I’ve never been one to sleep when baby sleeps because I usually have other things to tend to during those precious moments of freedom, lol… but thanks to my mommy schedule and the flow it has created for my life, I’ve been able to created space and time for myself to rest. I’ve committed to sit and pause once a week when Dream naps. I’m not always sleeping, but I told myself that I will sit in stillness, and rest for those 60-90 minutes while Dream sleeps. Ooooh, but when I do drift off into slumberland, it’s always blessed and anointed! lol!

7. Wine down

When hubby is on bedtime duty, momma is enjoy a glass of wine and relaxation. No work, no laundry… just a moment to breathe and release the day.  Some days “relaxation” is sitting on my comfy living room couch, staring out the window. Other days I’m on my deck letting the breeze grace my face.  And some evenings I’m curled up in the basement watching my fave episodes of Frasier.   No matter what, it’s always just what I need when I need it!

Momma what’s on your weekly  list? What are you doing just for you to keep your cup filled? How will you make time for yourself this week?  Comment below, or share on social!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The “Content Crisis” | 3 Strategies to help moms create content, consistently!

Some “momma creatives” are struggling to create content, consistently. They’ve slipped into  what I’m calling the “Content Crisis”. These mommas may have amazing ideas, but aren’t sure how to formulate those ideas into “post-able” content.  Or if they do create the content, they struggle to remain consistent! And let’s not forget to mention, time is not always on our side!

Momma, is this you? If so, keep reading! I’m sharing 3 tips to help you overcome the “content crisis”, that you can apply TODAY!

1. Clarity!

Answer the following: Who are you (how do you want to position yourself)? Who are you speaking to (your audience)? What message, story, or lesson do you want to share, and why (purpose, goal)? And how would you like to share it? Text, video, audio..etc? When it comes to content I truly believe clarity and authenticity are essential. This helps with attracting, launching and selling, if that’s your end goal.  Outside of that, you can get as creative and expressive as you’d like. Are there certain platforms that respond “better”  to certain types of content? of course. For example reels are still very hot on IG… but the type of reels you create are completely up to you. I’ve seen reels that are all text from an author promoting a new book, and others from stylists with no words but rather a step by step showing how to use a new product. I’ve seen a bunch of funny ones, and others that were created to bring awareness to social injustice.  And guess what, I’ve also seen very impactful platforms that don’t use reels at all. So truly, it is up to you! The key is to get clear about who you are, who you serve, and plan accordingly.

2. Consistency!

Since becoming a mom, batching my content has been a game changer. And if I’m being honest it has helped me to be more consistent. Wild how planning can do that! Where I once was able to create in the moment, I now have a whole toddler to consider. And sis is busy! Outside of nap time and bed time, I feel like she’s always on 100, and I gotta keep both eyes on her lol. So creating ain’t easy, but I made it a point to figure out a way to show up in business, without sacrificing time with my little lady! So I looked at my schedule, and decided that I would select one day every week were I would give myself the time, space and grace to create content freely, without interruption and more importantly without the guilt of stepping away from my child! So every Sunday, I have my plan of ideas and I escape for 2-3 hours in the morning (before hubby goes to work) to focus on creating. From creating image quotes, recording videos and reels, to planning and scheduling my blog posts and clubhouse rooms… Sunday is my day to create!

3. Confidence!

Most of us lack confidence because we don’t believe in ourselves, or we’ve been comparing ourselves to others. This was huge for me. Before I got clear on who I am, and who I’m called to serve, I wasn’t as bold, confident or consistent. I was constantly looking at the other mommy pages, feeling somewhat out of place because my message went against the norm. Listen, even my brand colors were different than the usual mauves and pastels. But once your girl got clarity, and remembered that being all of me is necessary to attract the moms I’m called to serve, my confidence grew exponentially.  Now, you can’t tell me, or my brightly colored posts, anything! I’m being all of me; bright, bold, unapologetically me!

It’s also important to give yourself permission to be a beginner. So many times we start out and expect everything to be peaches and cream from day one, and it typically doesn’t work out that way! Just because your content hasn’t gone viral, doesn’t mean it doesn’t have impact! Just because you didn’t get a million views, doesn’t mean it hasn’t added value. And we all know it only takes a few clients to really make an impact financially. So, stop looking around, and focus on you.  Know that you are called, and what you have to add is needed for such a time as this! So share that quote, record and upload that video, tell that funny impactful story… do it, share it, and show up…confidently!

 

Have you been struggling with content?  What tips would you add that have worked for you? Comment Below!

xx

 

 

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Behind the Smile | Let’s talk about it!

I posted these two images on IG and I’m sure many of my followers weren’t sure what the actual emphasis was regarding “How it started vs. how it’s going”

In both pictures, from the outside looking in:

✨I look happy

✨Dreams  is happy, and clearly cared for

✨mom life looks good on me! right?! 

You see social medial will do that to you. Make you look like you have it all together when in reality you are fading fast behind the scenes.

That was me. Behind the smile, in the first image I was struggling. I was struggling with my purpose, and how to “balance” it all… my home, my child, my marriage, my businesses…etc! It was a lot. I was all over the place, I cringed at the word “schedules”, and quite frankly I didn’t think anyone could really relate to my situation. Yes, I had moms who prayed for me, offered amazing advice along the way…and moms I could call on (an often did) when I felt myself spiraling! But even with all of that, I so stuck, and my limiting beliefs were running the show. smh.

I remember distinctly having a conversation with my business accountability partner, telling her all the things “I can’t” do because I’m a mom! Listen, my husband goes out to work all day, my family lives miles away so it’s just me… and I convinced myself that there wasn’t enough time in a day to do anything other than “mom stuff”. Even though I knew I wanted M.O.R.E!!!  I literally talked myself out of the overflow God desired for me, simply because I couldn’t see past my current place of overwhelm. 

You see you can never manifest overflow, when you’re stuck in overwhelm. 

And for me that overwhelm became unbearable! I’ve shared this story several times, but I had a serious mommy moment on my bathroom floor… crying out to God saying “If You don’t take over, I’m not gonna make it”.

It was a true moment of surrender. It was not pretty… but oh my God I’m so thankful!

Since that moment, I’ve been doing the work to get my life in alignment. I had to address and dismantle the limiting beliefs that I’d let guide me in my mom journey, and begin to apply the principles of God’s word to implement systems and strategies  to create not only the harmony I desire in my life as a whole mom, but also to ensure that I never SIT in overwhelm or struggle again!

Will challenges come? Yes! Any mom who says otherwise is a whole lie… lol. We are moms, and things happen that are out of our control. This has nothing to do with perfection, and being in control of everything momma! The perfect mom life doesn’t exist! If it did we wouldn’t need God! What I’m talking about has everything to do with alignment, and learning how to remain in a place of victory throughout the seasons of motherhood! It’s possible, I’m a witness!

I’m super pumped for tomorrow evening! My self and some other mommas are gathering for an intimate training, where I’ll be sharing my proven 5-step process to overcome the overwhelm! This is the very process has transformed not only who I am as a mom, but more importantly who I am as a woman and child of God!

 

❤️I’m confident in my abilities as a whole mom. I can now say without hesitation “I’m a great momma, and I deserve the best”

❤️I’ve given myself permission to unapologetically manifest overflow in my life. No more waiting and wishing, I’m claiming and manifesting EVERYTHING I DESIRE!

❤️I’ve created routines and systems that support the work/life  harmony that is my promise as a mom! My life is in alignment, and the areas of my life from being a wife, business owner… even my wardrobe… all work in together and are in agreement!

❤️I’ve overcome mom guilt, overwhelm and burn out, and have strategies in place to help me to remain in a place of victory. God does not want me to sit in overwhelm, I am His daughter and I am more than a conqueror!

❤️ I am now a top priority in my life, and give of myself from a place of overflow. I make time for me, and hold the space to process, grow, learn, shift, release, receive and feel all that is needed on this journey of being. I love myself, and treat myself with the utmost care, love and respect.

I really don’t have much else to say, except to extend an invitation for you to join us! With just hours left before registration closes, I don’t want you to miss out! So click below to register today! 

You don’t have to sit in overwhelm, and I’m here to guide you to the other side!

Can’t wait to see you there!