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3 Birthday Lessons for the Wise Wife | “I Wasn’t Ready” #MarriedLife

A few weeks ago, I took some time off to celebrate my hubby’s birthday!  I thought I knew what he wanted, and tried to plan accordingly. #Girlwhy. In the end,  after a really good look in the mirror, I learned 3 valuable lessons that I DID NOT SEE COMING (Do y’all see that picture… #ACCURATE)! Don’t get me wrong, we had a great time together, but with the way God has my life set up… there is always a lesson waiting for me around the corner! 

Lesson 1: Listen

I love to celebrate birthdays. I was raised that way, and it is something that has been a part of my entire life! Breakfast in the morning, and a family dinner of my choice at night to commemorate this special occasion! And if you know me, I usually prefer all the bells and whistles.  Keem on the other hand isn’t as big of a “birthday person” as I am. As a matter of fact he was very clear that for his birthday THIS YEAR he wanted to stay low key. But did I listen? Of course not. I just had to go on with my “grand” plans (insert  face-palm emoji)!

Well, my grand plans fell through, and I put unnecessary pressure on myself by trying to come up with something last minute. I had great intentions, but if I’m being honest, I totally disregarded his birthday request (insert face-palm emoji).  So I had to make thing right, and I apologized for not listening. I even had to apologize for making him feel OBLIGATED to come up with something when I asked, “what do you want to do for your birthday”… when he ALREADY told me.  I’m so thankful for this lesson, and grateful that it didn’t ruin our time together.  Oh, but what stress I could have avoided had I just listened from the jump! 

Ladies, I know sometimes we try to “read between the lines”, but let me encourage you… listen and take what your hubby says as what he means! Most often he is not speaking in coded language.

Lesson 2; Apologize quickly!

When you KNOW you’re wrong, make it right… QUICKLY! Many times our egos get in the way, (yes, women have egos),  and we let things fester. We look for ways to justify our actions, when deep down inside God’s conviction has already set in.  Don’t silence it… move as He directs. Repent, pray for the words to say and humble yourself. We, as women, are NOT always right! I’d love to say, I am… but that would be a WHOLE LIE!  Lord knows I am far from perfect, but I am learning to make things right, quickly.  Why? Because we already know marriages are under attack,  and the last thing you want to do is knowingly give place for confusion and discord to take root.

So ladies… apologize quickly. And to some of you… you need to apologize now!

Lesson 3; Honor the small things.

Over the past year, I’ve become more aware of the fact that Keem ACTUALLY reads those nutritional guides (you know, the information on the food labels/packages). Clearly, this is an important practice for him, but I couldn’t care less.  I’d rip open packages, and tear off labels with no regret. So, Here I was again,  disregarding my husband’s request because I  didn’t care about it (emphasis on “I”). Well God was at work, and it dawned on me that I needed to honor this “small” thing, and make the effort to keep the nutritional facts. If it’s important to him, then it is certainly worth the effort.

So the other week, after I opened a pack of brownies for Keem’s Birthday Sundae,  instead of throwing out the sticker that held the package together, I stuck it onto the container. Why? Because it listed all of the nutritional facts for the brownies! And do you know what this man said to me, when he saw that gently handled wrapper stuck to the package? He came and said “I know you love me, because you kept this sticker”. #winning

Now let me be clear. Of course it’s not about the sticker, or the nutritional facts, but rather the practice of honoring the needs of your spouse. Ladies, We don’t always have to go against the grain just because it’s not important to us. Stop dismissing your husband’s requests as “no big deal”. It’s OK to fully surrender, and put in the effort simply because it’s important to him.

Be Encouraged!

Reese

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🎥 Video| The One Cooking Lesson that Changed my Perspective |#marriedlife

Hey ladies! I’m back with another quick video🎥! Yaaaassss!!! I can’t help but keep it real! Check it out! I’m sharing a personal truth (#pleasedontjudgeme)… and talking about a very important, nearly life changing, cooking lesson from this past weekend! Enjoy and Be Encouraged!💕🤗💕

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Michele Turner 🔥🔥🔥

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 5 of the “Fierce 5” series, and today Michele Turner is sharing, UNFILTERED! We’re going out with a BANG!  If you know Deaconess Michele, then you know you aren’t getting anything other than the truth! Yaaaassss!! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is screaming for her children to listen!!! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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 How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

November will be 31 years.  That marriage is a job you never get time off, sick leave or a vacation.   Enjoy the wedding day because every day after that is work.  What you put in your marriage is what you will get out of it.  Love covers a multitude of sin! After 10yrs of me committing adultery and this man still loves me as Christ love the church… I drop the mic😙

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

Love, respect and just being who God created me to be.  Never lose yourself for a man.  Be honest don’t lie to yourself or that man everything you do in the dark comes to the light remember that.  Make sure you’re IN love with him and you don’t just love him like you love your family and best friend.  When you’re IN love you can survive any storm.

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Have lots of sex. This releases stress, unless your husband is crazy.   Stop trying to live as if you’re still single, hanging out ALL the time with your old single friends.  If you don’t have  kids make sure your husband is uno #1. He should not have to be jealous for your time.  You’re on the phone all day but can’t have a decent conversation other than “how was your day”… (Red flag). Your husband pays more attention than you think.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Like and love who you are first you can’t give away what you don’t have.  Know “why” you want to be married because with God age ain’t nothing but a number.  Let him find you PLEASE!!!  Learn to be okay if God says marriage is not for you.

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

All the originals are taken, don’t be a copy cat.  Stop looking at the grass on the other side, it needs to be worked on too.  Seek God in all you do, don’t let Him be your last resource.  When HE speaks, listen. I drop the mic😙

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Celeste Forrest (Momma Forrest)

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 3 of the “Fierce 5” series and today Momma Forrest is not holding back! With 42 years under her belt, you already know what it is! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is dripping from the screen! Yaasss! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

Being married for 42 years (FORTY-TWO lol -Reese) has taught me that having a successful marriage is hard work.  You must be deliberate in tending to your relationship by spending quality time and a large quantity of it.  No matter how long you were dating, marriage is full of surprises and how you react to them will determine if you will thrive, survive or take a dive.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

I would say that having Christ as the Center of our marriage was key.  We agreed to the Bible as our standard and looked to it as a foundation upon which to build.  We each had access to the Holy Spirit to help develop a lasting bond.

Being in fellowship with other couples who were committed to the institution of marriage was also helpful.  We met with other young couples monthly and encouraged one another to enjoy the journey.

Being always ready to meet one another’s emotional and sexual needs is critical.     Sexual intimacy strengthens your sense of connection and discovering what pleases him and becoming an expert at it will more than compensate for any time or money invested.

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

A wise woman  builds her house but a foolish woman tears it down with her words.  Always speak to your husband with respect.  Especially in public.   Be the President of his fan club.

Don’t discuss your marriage with your single girlfriends.  And by all means keep your personal business off social media.  This doesn’t mean that you can’t speak to anyone.  But be led to by the LORD in choosing a confidant.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Pray and ask God to show you what you need to see in a perspective mate.  Pay attention to the cues. 

Ask yourself:  **Can I live with this man if he NEVER changes?**(Y’all HEAR THIS!)

Is his WAY of life conducive with mine?  Do we agree on the basics: Jesus, Timeliness, Integrity, Money, Cleanliness, Determine upon which of these things you are willing to compromise and which are non-negotiable.

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Never put your marriage on the table:  When you have disagreements, never negotiate your marriage.  Discuss the issue, not whether your marriage will survive it.

Unless there is physical violence, which we hope there will never be, NEVER leave the house.  Go to the ladies room and absence yourself to give temperatures time to settle.

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🎥Video|Being Intentional; Marriage Series with the “Fierce 5” #marriedlife

 

Hey ladies, New Video Alert!

Over the past few months, I’ve been on a serious mission to be intentional with everything that I do. I was getting thing in order with my thinking, and my business… but what was I doing about my relationship? Well, while folding my laundry yesterday, I realized there was one area in my life to which I needed to give so much more of my UNDIVIDED ATTENTION… my marriage/honey.  So my hubby and I had a talk, and we both agreed to BE more intentional 💕. That man is the bomb y’all😍.

As Keem and I approach our 3 year wedding anniversary, I can’t help but thank God for all of the wonderful reminders and lessons… and for the PHENOMENAL WOMEN in my life who have encouraged me to be intentional about spending time, growing and building with my husband!

Y’all, my cup runneth over!

This is why I am so beyond excited to announce a new series for the month of May (My wedding anniversary month)… Marriage Talk with the “Fierce 5”.  These are the 5 women who have each poured into my life and have encouraged me in my womanhood, courtship, and now my marriage!  Oh and by the way… they all have been married for 20+ years, so it’s safe to say they know what they’re talking about! 

LADIES, May is going to POP! You don’t want to miss this AMAZING SERIES! So be sure to subscribe to get the notification (Click the blue button). Also if you’re not following me on IG… what are you waiting for? Click here: @reese__dennis 

-Reese