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5 Simple Habits That Changed My Life | #Momlife

1. Self Care.

Since becoming a mom, I’ve learned the importance of “filling my cup” and have done the work to make Self Care my lifestyleMy wellbeing is no longer an afterthought, and because of this I’m better equipped spiritually, mentally & physically to care for my family.  I no longer allow myself to  suffer in silence/sit in overwhelm.  Not anymore.  I speak up and ask for the support  I need in order to get time for myself. From scheduling time for myself every month (Selfish Sunday), to going to therapy bi-weekly (it’s lit)… to taking advantage of all of the “mini moments” to pour into my life daily… I get my time and my life will never be the same. More to come.

2. Waking up before my family.

I wake up before 5:30am almost every single day,  and I’ve been doing this consistently for the past 3 months.  The highlights of my morning include enjoying my cup of coffee in peace, spending time in God’s word, and seeking His guidance for the day. And depending on my schedule for that day, I  also do my workout.  It’s not always easy, but having something to look forward to, that I truly love and enjoy, makes it 100%  worth the push for me. And my day is  just better when I wake up early. Yes, there are still challenges to overcome, but  “My day always flows best when I’m up before the rest”.  Getting a head start on my day, before everyone else “needs me”… has changed the game for me.

3. Spending time with Jesus, Daily.

I’ve really been working on making the Lord my daily delight (Psalms 37:4 ), abiding in Him (John 15:4-11) , meditating on His Word,  and putting my full trust in Him. I gave my life to Christ years ago, but I feel like my desire to go deeper with Him has grown since becoming a mom.  He is The Source… My EVERYTHING!  Making every effort to intentionally seek God first in all of my ways, early in the morning, has made such a difference in my life. There is something different that happens when we seek  God in the calm of the morning., without distractions.   Even as I write this, I’m in the midst of one of the most uncertain and challenging times of my life, yet I feel stronger and more secure than ever.  There is peace that overtakes me when I lay all of my cares at His feet.  I trust Him with my life, and I am now in the midst of that lived experience. I have no idea how any mom can survive with out Him, and I’m so grateful for His grace, mercy, strength, rest, favor, correction, direction and faithfulness!  My life will never be the same and this is just the beginning!

4. Making time to do, wear & enjoy what I love.

If you know me then you know I love to slay! My forever goal is to be snatched for His glory; allowing the work that God is doing on the inside to shine through in all the ways that I show up… and that includes all things beauty and fashion. I feel like this desire has heightened since becoming a mom, mainly because I can’t stand the narratives that imply “once you become a mom, you become a mess.” NOT for this momma!  Your girl has been doing the work to grow and become who God is calling me to be, and I will reflect just that.  So every week,  multiple times a week, I plan a whole slay.  From my face beat to my feet, I show up to reflect the work God is doing in and through me.  I wear one of my favorite ensembles ( from sweats to dresses… I only own things that I love), throw on my lashes, and live my best stay-at-home-mom life with my little one.  It’s been so good for me. I also have a hair schedule.  Yes… a whole schedule of slays for my hair. I seriously love it!  I can’t quite explain it but when I look and feel amazing, I’m able to face the day a bit more confidently.  Besides beauty maintenance is a form of self care for me. 

5. Working out weekly.

I working out at least 5x a week.  It’s a lifestyle, as well as a form of self care for me. Working out is not only good for me physically, but I often find it helps me when I’m in need of a mental break, and even a reset.  Like most, I’m not always in the mood to workout; however, I am always so fulfilled when I push through and get it done. Always!  Not to mention I have a whole wardrobe that’s depending on me to show up, lol.  So working out whether a HITT workout on the free NTC app, a 3 mile walk outdoors, or my own in-house  workout sequence… it helps keep me fit, stable and ready! My wellness is a priority.

What habits have helped you as a mom? What habits are you working on? Share below.

xx,

 

 

 

 

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Let’s Talk | “Mommy Pressure” and how to get unstuck

Let’s Talk, “mommy pressure” 😭. We’ve all felt it before, and whether you want to admit it to yourself or not… it’s keeping you from creating and living a life that excites you! Let’s change that! If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed with the “demands” of motherhood… this is for you!! It’s time to get unstuck, release that mommy pressure, and create a life that excites you!

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👀Disclaimer: This is not medical advice. If you’re experiences symptoms of postpartum depression and anxiety please call your medical professional ASAP. If you are not able to reach them and feel like you want to harm yourself or your child please call 911 immediately. For further assistance or to talk to a licensed mental health professional please see the resources listed below.

http://www.psychologytoday.com
http://www.melaninandmentalhealth.com
“Therapy for black girls”

🔥Get my free affirmation & reflection guide just for moms here: http://www.ownyourslayuniversity.com/bibleformoms

🔥Learn how to Build your confidence and SLAY on camera here: http://www.ownyourslayuniversity.com/videobootcamp

xx Reese

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Let’s Talk | Mom life & getting “unstuck”

I’m super excited about this month’s cover stories!!

One of the main things I’m determined to do is to create a life that I love; a life that serves me!  A life that I can be proud of, where I am not only showing up for myself… but one where I am  becoming and fully embracing the woman I know God is calling me to be… yes, as a whole mom.

I know you feel the same. I know that you know you’re more than a mommy. I know you desire to rewrite the narrative,  and you want to live your absolute best life…. as a wife, a mom, a business owner… as a woman!

And as eager as you are to redefine mom life on your terms, and FINALLY create a life that excites you…

YOU. FEEL. STUCK.

You can’t seem to figure out how to finally move forward and embrace the beauty of who you know you want to become. You’re trying your best to show up, but you can’t seem to get past the disappointment of things not going as you expected.  You’ve even gotten to the point of trying to  force things to work out;  trying to keep up appearances because you want to prove that you can do it all… instead of operating in the flow and freedom that God has for you….

Well… It’s time to get unstuck and walk in the freedom that God has for you! I’m so grateful to be used by Him!

This month is all about getting “unstuck” and we’re starting with the basics! Because let me tell you this….You will never be able to create & live a life that excites you until you do this one thing!

So if you’re ready to walk in freedom, Check out my first July cover story (video) below, and as always be sure to comment, and share with a momma who needs this!

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The “Content Crisis” | 3 Strategies to help moms create content, consistently!

Some “momma creatives” are struggling to create content, consistently. They’ve slipped into  what I’m calling the “Content Crisis”. These mommas may have amazing ideas, but aren’t sure how to formulate those ideas into “post-able” content.  Or if they do create the content, they struggle to remain consistent! And let’s not forget to mention, time is not always on our side!

Momma, is this you? If so, keep reading! I’m sharing 3 tips to help you overcome the “content crisis”, that you can apply TODAY!

1. Clarity!

Answer the following: Who are you (how do you want to position yourself)? Who are you speaking to (your audience)? What message, story, or lesson do you want to share, and why (purpose, goal)? And how would you like to share it? Text, video, audio..etc? When it comes to content I truly believe clarity and authenticity are essential. This helps with attracting, launching and selling, if that’s your end goal.  Outside of that, you can get as creative and expressive as you’d like. Are there certain platforms that respond “better”  to certain types of content? of course. For example reels are still very hot on IG… but the type of reels you create are completely up to you. I’ve seen reels that are all text from an author promoting a new book, and others from stylists with no words but rather a step by step showing how to use a new product. I’ve seen a bunch of funny ones, and others that were created to bring awareness to social injustice.  And guess what, I’ve also seen very impactful platforms that don’t use reels at all. So truly, it is up to you! The key is to get clear about who you are, who you serve, and plan accordingly.

2. Consistency!

Since becoming a mom, batching my content has been a game changer. And if I’m being honest it has helped me to be more consistent. Wild how planning can do that! Where I once was able to create in the moment, I now have a whole toddler to consider. And sis is busy! Outside of nap time and bed time, I feel like she’s always on 100, and I gotta keep both eyes on her lol. So creating ain’t easy, but I made it a point to figure out a way to show up in business, without sacrificing time with my little lady! So I looked at my schedule, and decided that I would select one day every week were I would give myself the time, space and grace to create content freely, without interruption and more importantly without the guilt of stepping away from my child! So every Sunday, I have my plan of ideas and I escape for 2-3 hours in the morning (before hubby goes to work) to focus on creating. From creating image quotes, recording videos and reels, to planning and scheduling my blog posts and clubhouse rooms… Sunday is my day to create!

3. Confidence!

Most of us lack confidence because we don’t believe in ourselves, or we’ve been comparing ourselves to others. This was huge for me. Before I got clear on who I am, and who I’m called to serve, I wasn’t as bold, confident or consistent. I was constantly looking at the other mommy pages, feeling somewhat out of place because my message went against the norm. Listen, even my brand colors were different than the usual mauves and pastels. But once your girl got clarity, and remembered that being all of me is necessary to attract the moms I’m called to serve, my confidence grew exponentially.  Now, you can’t tell me, or my brightly colored posts, anything! I’m being all of me; bright, bold, unapologetically me!

It’s also important to give yourself permission to be a beginner. So many times we start out and expect everything to be peaches and cream from day one, and it typically doesn’t work out that way! Just because your content hasn’t gone viral, doesn’t mean it doesn’t have impact! Just because you didn’t get a million views, doesn’t mean it hasn’t added value. And we all know it only takes a few clients to really make an impact financially. So, stop looking around, and focus on you.  Know that you are called, and what you have to add is needed for such a time as this! So share that quote, record and upload that video, tell that funny impactful story… do it, share it, and show up…confidently!

 

Have you been struggling with content?  What tips would you add that have worked for you? Comment Below!

xx

 

 

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If You’re Feeling Overwhelmed, This is For You!

Nearly 6 months ago… I’d reached my breaking point. I was sobbing on my bathroom floor, after spending nearly 2 hours unsuccessfully trying to put Dream to sleep. That was just the straw that broke the camels back.

I’d been trying to control it all (my housework, my marriage, show up in my business) and nothing was going how I expected…. I was fed up, frustrated, overwhelmed and felt guilty because I didn’t feel like I was being the best mom for Dream!

I didn’t feel like a good mom at all in that moment! It was rough and lonely!

I cried out and said “God, if you don’t help me I’m not gonna make it” 😭😭😭 for REAL! Thank God my hubby was there to take over, and I was able to heed the advice of my amazing sister to go sit in my car and take a deep breath! (thanks @mrstalley23 for that sound advice)

It was 11pm and although I was slightly worried about what people might think, I sat in my dark car and took that deep breath as instructed! The tears started flowing… they wouldn’t stop. I just sat there and  cried staring at my blue front door through my tears! Then I started to speak to God:

“God this cannot be the life You desire for me”.

“why would You call me to struggle”

“Why do I feel so inadequate”!

“Like… what am I missing? Please I need You”!

I’m so grateful for that moment (as unpretty as it was)… bc it led me to surrender, and become so much more active in my journey as a mom (the irony).  You see for a long while I was passively going with the flow, hoping and wishing for better, but not putting any action. behind my faith!

I talked a good talk, expressing the challenges and struggles of my mom journey… but up until this point I’d never actually taken the steps to experience the victory on the other side of struggle and overwhelm. It was familiar. (Crazy how we can sometimes stay stuck bc of familiarity. A whole word for another blog post)

Did God speak to me, not audibly… but I felt Him guiding me through the process of overcoming the overwhelm … it was not an overnight victory… I had to get super intentional about my life, my time; setting  my expectations,  realigning my priorities, and setting boundaries in place to support who I wanted to be as a whole mom and the life I desired for myself!

And I’m so proud of how my life has transformed, using this process!

❤️I’m confident in my abilities as a whole mom. I can now say without hesitation “I’m a great momma, and I deserve the best”

❤️I’ve given myself permission to unapologetically manifest overflow in my life. No more waiting and wishing, I’m claiming and manifesting EVERYTHING I DESIRE!

❤️I’ve created routines and systems that support the work/life  harmony that is my promise as a mom! My life is in alignment, and the areas of my life from being a wife, business owner… even my wardrobe… all work in together and are in agreement!

❤️I’ve overcome mom guilt, overwhelm and burn out, and have strategies in place to help me to remain in a place of victory. God does not want me to sit in overwhelm, I am His daughter and I am more than a conqueror!

❤️ I am now a top priority in my life, and give of myself from a place of overflow. I make time for me, and hold the space to process, grow, learn, shift, release, receive and feel all that is needed on this journey of being. I love myself, and treat myself with the utmost care, love and respect.

 

Although challenging, I’m so grateful for my journey, and the transformation I’ve experienced in my life… because it’s led me to create a whole 5-step process that I can now teach to other moms who are stuck in that same place!

Momma, if you’ve been reading this… nodding in agreement… near tears because you’re so over the struggle… then I invite you to join my for my upcoming training just for mommas who are ready to Overcome the Overwhelm!

On Wednesday, January 13th @ 7pm EST myself along with others bomb mommas like yourself are going to embark on a journey together like never before! Overwhelm is not your promise, and I’m here to guide you to the other side.

Simply click the image above or the link here to register and join us. And if you’re concerned about being able to attend live, a 7-day replay will be available.  I Cannot wait to serve you and show you how to Overcome the Overwhelm!

xx

Reese!