That Moment When You Realize

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No matter how big the obstacle, or how rough the road may appear… you have everything you need to FLOURISH in this season! Stop letting fear cripple you! Bring that dream to fruition! Go after what you’ve always dreamed of becoming with every fiber in your being!

Flourish and thrive 💜

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“Lipstick Isn’t for Me”💋

I remember when I first started wearing makeup. I found the perfect foundation for my chocolatey complexion, and learned a bit about liner and mascara. Over time, and after countless YouTube videos and convos with my fellow makeup enthusiasts,  I finally got it right! Well, in all areas except for one… lipstick. Unlike my other skills, I only gave lipstick a good 5 tries, before I decided it wasn’t for me. I loved how it looked on others, but I just couldn’t figure it out. Lipstick on my teeth, lipstick on my fingers… legit, “smudge galore”!

I was completely done…

Until my  beautiful friend came along and got me all the way together. (You know who you are!)

We went out to lunch one day, and I happened to comment on how fabulous her lip color looked! She paused for a moment,  and asked “where is YOUR lipstick, friend”? I cringed a bit on the inside, and replied “Lipstick isn’t for me”.  She wasn’t buying it. She always commented on my bare lips, but this day was different.  She rolled her eyes, and pulled out her lipstick  collection. She went over different types of lipsticks, lip liners,  and finishes. Basically, she was encouraging me to give it another try. And I did just that! I went back to my vanity and tried again… and again… until I got it right!

LOOK AT ME NOW!

As I think of my makeup/lipstick journey, I can’t help but wonder… “what have I written off in my life, simply because I found it challenging and didn’t invest in the ‘know-how'”? Take a moment, and think about your own life.  Have you ever written something off, simply because you didn’t know how to do/use/perform it? You may have tried a few times, but things didn’t go as planned.  Now, you’re walking around dismissing opportunities and blessings because you’ve convinced yourself “this/that isn’t for me”, when in reality  you haven’t even put in the effort. Lord, help us all!

Today, I encourage you to try again!  I understand, we aren’t all gifted to do everything! But, as you read this post, something came to mind that you know  you need to revisit. It’s time to stop dismissing, and start refining. (I’m speaking to myself, here! Yassss!) Despite how challenging it may seem, go back and sit down at  your “vanity” and try again! Invest in the “know-how”, perfect your skills, and grab hold of every opportunity the Lord sends your way! 

Indeed, that great life IS for you!

3 Simple Steps to Order (Organize Your Life)

Have you ever found your life to be out of order? Life is good, but you feel like you’re in a constant game of catch up, trying to clean and organize! Well that is exactly how I felt for the first few months of 2016. Yes, months! The struggle was real, until I took a real look in the mirror and asked myself, “What are you going to do about it”.

So what did I do?

Well, I put these 3 simple steps to work in my life, and have had great success! So you know and I am here to share the wealth with you! Let’s win together! 

1. Get Rid of Waste: Toss/trash/shred all of the things that no longer serve a purpose in your life!  Those “things”  may be old papers, old clothes,  boxes…etc. For me, I had to bring myself to throw away old makeup containers.   (Judge me not!) I had to literally go through my entire makeup vanity, and decide what needed to go.  And then I had to actually complete the process by throwing it away (that’s key)!  I couldn’t believe the junk I was holding on to. Like seriously, did I need to keep that empty tube of ruby red lipstick from 3 years ago? A whole mess. For you it may be sorting through that pile of mail, organizing your accessories, or cleaning out your closet. For others it may be setting a cleaning schedule for your home, so that the cleaning/organizing is done on certain days.  Whatever it is, set a date with yourself, and get it done! Put on some great music, and get rid of the unnecessary things are cluttering your fabulous life! 

2. Everything in it’s Place: Once you’ve taken inventory, and trashed the clutter, assign a “place” for your belongings. This will help you keep your place organized and peaceful.  Listen, after a long day of work I’m guilty of dropping a trail of clothes around the apartment. However, I had to re-train my mind to put things back in their places. Dirty clothes in the laundry bin, coat back on the hanger IN the closet, makeup brushes in their case, and keys on the key ring. This will take a bit of time and effort at first, but the payoff will be well worth it! 

3. Organize in Doses: Make a list of what needs to be done, and tackle one room/project at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself trying to do it all in one sitting. God forbid, that you start 5 projects and don’t finish any of them. That is not your portion! Think it through, and give yourself the time to do what’s needed. The ultimate goal is to life a life of order, and that starts with strategic changes that will eventually turn into great habits! So take it one step at a time! 

Say it with me,

“I will live a lifestyle of order”

-Reese

3 Surefire Ways to Handle the Unsolicited Opinions of Others

 As a newlywed, a lot of people have an opinion about what my husband and I “should/shouldn’t do”, especially with regards to our first married year/holidays together. Nothing malicious at all, just opinions that caused a great deal of pressure. I got caught up at first.  Then it dawned on me; this is our life and we will live it as we please!  Some of you may have experience this same pressure.  You may have certain goals and aspirations in mind, and you’re trying to handle all the uninvited opinions that other have for your life. So I’ve decided to share what I’ve learned to do, and I hope it helps you as well:

1. Hold your peace: Peace of mind is more important than the best of clap-backs!  Some opinions aren’t even worth entertaining,  especially when they come without provocation. It’s one thing to go to a trusted source, and ask them to dissect your life. When that’s the case, then I expect them to let me have it. Dig deep and help me get my life in order.  However, if I didn’t ask and it is not worth a response, I simply don’t entertain it. Especially when I know they don’t have my best interest in mind.

2. Use your words:  If you feel the need to respond, put your words to good use and create a standard response. Here are two of my favorites: “It’s unfortunate that your feelings differ from how I plan to live my life”, and  “No, I don’t plan to do it that way, but I appreciate your concern”.  Feel free to use at will, and proceed to exit stage left.

3. Don’t tell everything you know: This is probably one of the most important lessons I’ve learned! Keep your personal life, marriage,  goals and aspirations under lock and key. Yes, we all need accountability, but take a break from posting and sharing every detail of your life and hustle. Hustle in private, enlist the help of an accountability partner/mentor,  and let the results of your labor do all of the bragging. The less you share, the less access people have to your life.   If people don’t know what you’re up to, then they won’t have an opportunity to  create an opinion.

 

This is your time. This is your year! Make it count!

-Reese

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