5 Qualities of a Good Man

Ladies, in our quest to live our best life, it’s no surprise that many of us desire a partner to be there along the way. Simply put… we want a good man in our lives! But what does a “good man” look like? Well, I’ve had some in-depth conversations with my family and girlfriends, (married and single), and it’s quite evident that there are qualities unique to such a man. So I’ve put together a list of the 5 most evident qualities that I hope you will find helpful! Enjoy!

1.He celebrates your successes 🎉:  He will be right there to celebrate your biggest wins and won’t mind when you have the spotlight. There’s no struggle for him to be happy for you, especially when you are winning in life! A good man (especially if you’re married) understands that you are “one”! If you win, he wins!

2. He shows his love for you ♥️: There is nothing like knowing that you are loved, and a good man won’t have a problem showing it! He may not make you heart-shaped eggs in the morning. He may not be able to buy you the biggest rubies, or even be the “pda” type of guy. But with a good man there is no doubt of his love for you, no matter how small the gesture. You will be secure in his love for you.

3. He pushes you beyond your self-doubt🏃: A good man will be your biggest advocate. He is the one who will know you  best (after the Good Lord). He knows your struggles, and is often there to catch you before you spiral down the path of fear and self doubt. He will encourage you to push past limits, and go after what you truly want in life. Ladies, a good man will be your shoulder to cry on, and your voice of reason and encouragement!

4. He doesn’t mind taking care of the “light work” while you are “out of commission”💪: I have start by telling this story. The other night, I mistakenly painted my nails, just after I finished washing a load of laundry… #fail! I wasn’t willing to mess up my freshly painted nails, so I asked my hubby to help. And he stepped right in! We went garment by garment. Some needed to be hung, other pieces we had to lay flat. It was true team work. My hubby saved my mani, lol! Ladies, a good man won’t mind stepping up. Whether you are sick, out of town, or when you simply “don’t feel like it”, he will look for ways to make your life easier. You two are partners!

5. He prays with and for you🙏: Need I say more? A good man isn’t just going to take care of you physically, he will also do his part to look out for you, spiritually.  Believe me, I know firsthand what a difference this makes in a relationship.! Truly amazing how prayer changes things! Click here to read all about it!

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A Lesson from My Husband

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The other night, my husband and I played a game of Scrabble.  The game started off most intensely; a 27-point word here,  a 36-point word there. The competition was fierce! As the game progressed, I noticed my hubby passing and switching letters. He passed about 4 times, which as a result gave me a 100-point lead. I wasn’t mad, but I couldn’t help but wonder what was going on. Finally, he took his turn and threw out the word “quote” followed by the word “zit”. I realized he had been holding onto the “z” and the “q” in the hopes of forming the word “quiz”. It wasn’t until he saw my lead, that he realized there were other ways to use his letters.  

That’s when it hit him:

Man, I was holding on to those letters,  and missed countless opportunities to get ahead. I was so focused on using the letters for that ONE word,  when I really needed to let go and use them in a different way to make my moves.   I fell so far behind, and although my words were good, it was too late to win the game.  Sometimes you have to loosen your grip and use what you have now.”

So many times in life we hold onto (even hide) our gifts because we are waiting for that one “right way” to use/share it, and we miss out on the greater blessing. It’s like we just can’t seem to get past what others have told us “should be”, or what we’ve been told we “have to do first”.   I know they mean well, But at some point you have to say “no more”!

Let today be that day that you let go of those limiting thoughts, and share your gifts in the way that you’ve always imagined.  Don’t wait! Start that business, go for that promotion, go for that audition, move across the country! Whatever it is, take that step by faith, and go for it! Use those unique and valuable letters on your board, and WIN THE GAME!  Don’t let the life you were destined to live pass you by!  

You are destined to win!

-Reese

#FierceandRefined

Burritos and Baccarat; Create your moment!

The other night my husband picked up burritos from California Tortilla for dinner! YUM!  He gave me a call to tell me he was on his way, so I began to prepare our informal dinner setting on the coffee table in the living room; place mats, coasters, silverware… the whole shebang! I marched to the kitchen to grab two plates from the cabinet, and happened to notice a gift box in the corner of our dining room. It was a wedding gift I had slightly forgotten about for the last two months.

See, what had happened was…

My husband and I received a lovely set of 4 Baccarat Diamant Champagne flutes as a wedding gift! They are simply gorgeous, and I vowed (to myself) to keep them safe until we moved into our own home and could enjoy using them in the most fitting of settings; New Year’s Eve in front of the fire place, our wedding anniversary celebration…etc.

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Then it hit me…

Why should I wait? It was a gift given to us to enjoy together. And aren’t we together (ALL THE TIME)? Burrito night with bae was the perfect time! Even the card attached to the gift box said, “These are not intended to collect dust. Enjoy!”  so I opened two of the beautifully wrapped glasses, poured a little bubbly and surprised my husband!  We sipped like royalty! It was great!

How many of  us are saving something for the “right” or “Perfect” moment! Maybe it’s an outfit, a special gift, a china set, a special wig, a lip color…the list goes on!  I’ve said it before and it bears repeating… don’t wait, create your own occasion to put it to use! Break the rules! Do what makes you happy and enjoy the possessions you have!  If you’re saving a special  outfit… make dinner arrangements with your girls or your man, dress to the gawds, and take lots of pics!  If you have a special set of glasses or a china set, pull them out of the breakfront, set that table and relish in the moment!  Of course there will be times when you buy something for a very specific occasion, and I totally get it! However, if you have something that you’ve left untouched for months all in the name of waiting for the “right” moment… then I challenge you today, create “that” moment and simply enjoy!

 

Live your life and keep it stylish,

Reese