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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Angela Somers 🤗

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 4 of the “Fierce 5” series, and today Angie Somers is here to help the sistahs! OK!!! A word for the married,married with children and my singles… you don’t want to miss this one! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is dripping from the screen! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

I’ve been happily married for 21 years to my wonderful husband Marvin.  Being married for this long had taught me that with Christ, all things are possible.  Early on in our marriage things weren’t like they are now.  If you want something to last you have to be willing to put in the work and forgive.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

 Keep Christ in The Center of Your Marriage

Date Frequently (Spend quality time with each other on purpose)

Love on Each Other (Spend more time Loving vs. Fussing)

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Stop trying to change your husband.  Pray and ask God to help your husband be what He’s called him to be.  Allow God to do the work and you’ll reap the benefits.

Keep other people out of your marriage.  I don’t care who they are.  Unless you are seeking good godly counsel like in Psalm 37:30, don’t tell Mama and them all of your business.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Listen singles ladies…  Stop searching so hard for “Mr. Right”.  Trust me, I’ve been there and it didn’t work.  The scripture says in Proverbs 18:22 – He who finds a wife finds a good thing…

Ask God to help you be the “good thing” He is talking about in the scripture and your future husband will find you.  Trust in God’s timing and stop dating men who treat you like you are an option.  Stop allowing a bunch of mess and confusion.  Either he wants to be with you or he doesn’t.  If he doesn’t, set him free and then God can bring the man He wants for you in to your life. (THIS -Reese). Don’t become bitter before that time. 😉

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

If you are already married and have children, continue to date your husband.  Don’t get so consumed in the children that you neglect each other.  One day the children will grow up, move out (hopefully) and then it’ll be just you and your husband in the home.  Think of creative and new things to do with each other right now.  Yes, life will sometimes get in the way but I guarantee you if you spend quality time with each other purposefully, your marriage will last.

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A Lesson on Being Intentional| #Getyourlife

Have you ever heard something that completely shifted your thinking?

That’s been me over the past few weeks.  I’ve been listening to some powerful speeches and podcasts (Thank you Les Brown), and as a result I’ve come to realize that I’ve been pretty passive in certain areas of my life.

I’ve talked a great talk, and have done many amazing things of which I am proud! And if you know me, then you know I celebrate every chance that I get! However, what have I been doing to keep that momentum going? 

I had to do a self evaluation.

Throughout my career, I’ve been the ideal candidate. I’ve been recruited multiple times in person, after unknowingly speaking with hiring managers. My work ethic, coupled with my poise and passion to see others succeed, paved the way for my success. As a natural born leader, my professionalism and out-going/winsome personality, made me the talk of the company. My employees loved me, and my colleagues enjoyed working with me. When an opportunity presented itself in the work place, I was called upon to rise to the occasion. Whether it was to host a training session, or take on a new position with greater responsibility… these opportunities sought me out with a vengeance. Yes, I worked in excellence, but “climbing the ladder” sort of just happened. I didn’t intentionally seek it out. 

This was my norm.

Until my employer, downsized. My position was cut, along with a significant portion of my salary. (Yes, they touched my bag).  I knew it was time to build my own, but  I found myself waiting, passively, for that next opportunity to present itself.  Waiting to speak to, or be seen by, the right person. I was waiting for opportunities, instead of intentionally seeking and creating my own. I was in this place of passively waiting for over 2 years, but today I say “no more”! It’s time to get intentional! (Yaaaaassssss!!)

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not disputing the favor that is on my life. Nor am I discrediting my dedication to working in excellence. However, as I strive to build my own empire (get ready), I am realizing that I need to shift my thinking. Yes, I know I will meet powerful people who will contribute to my success. However, that passive way of just allowing things to happen in my career… in my life… can no long be my norm. I must INTENTIONALLY SEEK and CREATE opportunities with a vengeance. I must INTENTIONALLY speak truth over my life! I must INTENTIONALLY look to learn from those who are moguls in my industry. I must INTENTIONALLY live out EVERY bit of the calling God has for my life! Y’all I could go on and on, but the point is…

my living,

my doing,

my being,

must be INTENTIONAL, every single day!

So be encouraged! Maybe you’re like me. You’ve experienced great success, passively going through life, and you finally realize that won’t get you to the finish line. Perhaps, it’s been the exact opposite. You’ve been in a rut, passively waiting for your life to change, and you’ve been awakened to the calling in your life,  and you know it’s time to step out. No matter your history, you can change your future! It’s time to make that move. It’s time to take that step. It’s time to get INTENTIONAL with your living… and do all that you’ve been called to do!

-Reese

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“Lipstick Isn’t for Me”💋

I remember when I first started wearing makeup. I found the perfect foundation for my chocolatey complexion, and learned a bit about liner and mascara. Over time, and after countless YouTube videos and convos with my fellow makeup enthusiasts,  I finally got it right! Well, in all areas except for one… lipstick. Unlike my other skills, I only gave lipstick a good 5 tries, before I decided it wasn’t for me. I loved how it looked on others, but I just couldn’t figure it out. Lipstick on my teeth, lipstick on my fingers… legit, “smudge galore”!

I was completely done…

Until my  beautiful friend came along and got me all the way together. (You know who you are!)

We went out to lunch one day, and I happened to comment on how fabulous her lip color looked! She paused for a moment,  and asked “where is YOUR lipstick, friend”? I cringed a bit on the inside, and replied “Lipstick isn’t for me”.  She wasn’t buying it. She always commented on my bare lips, but this day was different.  She rolled her eyes, and pulled out her lipstick  collection. She went over different types of lipsticks, lip liners,  and finishes. Basically, she was encouraging me to give it another try. And I did just that! I went back to my vanity and tried again… and again… until I got it right!

LOOK AT ME NOW!

As I think of my makeup/lipstick journey, I can’t help but wonder… “what have I written off in my life, simply because I found it challenging and didn’t invest in the ‘know-how'”? Take a moment, and think about your own life.  Have you ever written something off, simply because you didn’t know how to do/use/perform it? You may have tried a few times, but things didn’t go as planned.  Now, you’re walking around dismissing opportunities and blessings because you’ve convinced yourself “this/that isn’t for me”, when in reality  you haven’t even put in the effort. Lord, help us all!

Today, I encourage you to try again!  I understand, we aren’t all gifted to do everything! But, as you read this post, something came to mind that you know  you need to revisit. It’s time to stop dismissing, and start refining. (I’m speaking to myself, here! Yassss!) Despite how challenging it may seem, go back and sit down at  your “vanity” and try again! Invest in the “know-how”, perfect your skills, and grab hold of every opportunity the Lord sends your way! 

Indeed, that great life IS for you!

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The One Verse That Changed My Perspective! (Video)

Roman 8:28 NKJV:

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”

Be Encouraged!

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