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3 Birthday Lessons for the Wise Wife | “I Wasn’t Ready” #MarriedLife

A few weeks ago, I took some time off to celebrate my hubby’s birthday!  I thought I knew what he wanted, and tried to plan accordingly. #Girlwhy. In the end,  after a really good look in the mirror, I learned 3 valuable lessons that I DID NOT SEE COMING (Do y’all see that picture… #ACCURATE)! Don’t get me wrong, we had a great time together, but with the way God has my life set up… there is always a lesson waiting for me around the corner! 

Lesson 1: Listen

I love to celebrate birthdays. I was raised that way, and it is something that has been a part of my entire life! Breakfast in the morning, and a family dinner of my choice at night to commemorate this special occasion! And if you know me, I usually prefer all the bells and whistles.  Keem on the other hand isn’t as big of a “birthday person” as I am. As a matter of fact he was very clear that for his birthday THIS YEAR he wanted to stay low key. But did I listen? Of course not. I just had to go on with my “grand” plans (insert  face-palm emoji)!

Well, my grand plans fell through, and I put unnecessary pressure on myself by trying to come up with something last minute. I had great intentions, but if I’m being honest, I totally disregarded his birthday request (insert face-palm emoji).  So I had to make thing right, and I apologized for not listening. I even had to apologize for making him feel OBLIGATED to come up with something when I asked, “what do you want to do for your birthday”… when he ALREADY told me.  I’m so thankful for this lesson, and grateful that it didn’t ruin our time together.  Oh, but what stress I could have avoided had I just listened from the jump! 

Ladies, I know sometimes we try to “read between the lines”, but let me encourage you… listen and take what your hubby says as what he means! Most often he is not speaking in coded language.

Lesson 2; Apologize quickly!

When you KNOW you’re wrong, make it right… QUICKLY! Many times our egos get in the way, (yes, women have egos),  and we let things fester. We look for ways to justify our actions, when deep down inside God’s conviction has already set in.  Don’t silence it… move as He directs. Repent, pray for the words to say and humble yourself. We, as women, are NOT always right! I’d love to say, I am… but that would be a WHOLE LIE!  Lord knows I am far from perfect, but I am learning to make things right, quickly.  Why? Because we already know marriages are under attack,  and the last thing you want to do is knowingly give place for confusion and discord to take root.

So ladies… apologize quickly. And to some of you… you need to apologize now!

Lesson 3; Honor the small things.

Over the past year, I’ve become more aware of the fact that Keem ACTUALLY reads those nutritional guides (you know, the information on the food labels/packages). Clearly, this is an important practice for him, but I couldn’t care less.  I’d rip open packages, and tear off labels with no regret. So, Here I was again,  disregarding my husband’s request because I  didn’t care about it (emphasis on “I”). Well God was at work, and it dawned on me that I needed to honor this “small” thing, and make the effort to keep the nutritional facts. If it’s important to him, then it is certainly worth the effort.

So the other week, after I opened a pack of brownies for Keem’s Birthday Sundae,  instead of throwing out the sticker that held the package together, I stuck it onto the container. Why? Because it listed all of the nutritional facts for the brownies! And do you know what this man said to me, when he saw that gently handled wrapper stuck to the package? He came and said “I know you love me, because you kept this sticker”. #winning

Now let me be clear. Of course it’s not about the sticker, or the nutritional facts, but rather the practice of honoring the needs of your spouse. Ladies, We don’t always have to go against the grain just because it’s not important to us. Stop dismissing your husband’s requests as “no big deal”. It’s OK to fully surrender, and put in the effort simply because it’s important to him.

Be Encouraged!

Reese

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Podcast 🎤 | How Bad Do You Want It

That moment when God confirms that you are IN YOUR PURPOSE… plus a 30 day lesson! You don’t want to miss this one! Podcast Ep 6! Listen, comment, share and BE ENCOURAGED!

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Being Intentional | Six Months Later | 3 Victories & Lessons Learned

6 months ago, I made a firm commitment to BE INTENTIONAL with my living. And it has been phenomenal! If you missed that post, click here: A Lesson on Being Intentional!! So I’m here, six months later, sharing 3 victories, and 3 lessons learned!

What I’m Celebrating:

1. I “started” a profitable crochet braids business; Hair Slayed by Reese.  I got seriously serious about my business and my brand, which has grown beyond what I could have even asked for! And it’s still growing! God is so good, and I’m telling you when you’re obedient, He will show you what that “Exceedingly, Abundant” life truly looks like! I’m working on some amazing things to help those who are looking to transition, and build their own empire as an entrepreneur.  Yaaasss!

2. My honey and made it a point to go on an “out-of-the-country” trip, and we made that happen! The Dominican has been changed forever, because we were there <3! If you missed that post, you can read about our “Baecation” here. We are already planning our next get-a-way! We are so committed to building a strong foundation and spending time together. No longer waiting for the perfect moments to celebrate us and LIVE LIFE! All we have is NOW! 

3. I’ve experienced a mindset shift! I’ve been consistent in posting, and testing new ways to get new content to you. I posted my first (of many) podcasts, hosted 2 successful series, and I am so humbled by the feedback from those of you who have been touched, encouraged, and MOTIVATED to get to work in your own livesIt is my PASSION to EMPOWER you to live your best life; MINDSET, BUSINESS and RELATIONSHIPS! I am so grateful for your continued support and all the love! I promise you I am committed to growing and becoming ALL that GOD has ordained for me to be; Wife, Speaker, Slay consultant!

The next few months are going to POP!

Now for the lessons! Man, I’ve  learned so much about myself. You see getting INTENTIONAL about your living, doesn’t mean you’ll have this perfect life. Ha! Don’t believe that lie!  Yes, your life will be the better for it, especially as you allow God to use you… But there will be challenges to overcome. 

I’ve learned to:

1. Change the way I talk to and about myself! HUGE!!!! If you’ve read even just one of my posts, then you know, I preach “SPEAK LIFE”. Yes, I am an “encourager”, but let’s be real… that negative mindset is always lurking, waiting to make an appearance in our moment of weakness! So I had to “be ye always ready” to combat those torturous thoughts that try to rob me of my purpose and confidence! 

2. Affirm myself/my life, daily. Speaking God’s truth (OUT LOUD) over my life, my marriage, and my business endeavors. During the good time and the challenging moments,  I am learning to literally say things out loud to combat the negative thoughts. Like I said those negative thoughts (which leads to negative talk) are always lurking, so we have to BE READY for combat, and speak life!

3. I am learning the importance of planning and being prepared. (I need strength, daily.) Having to wear a number of different hats during the days, I had to learn to find balance (still working on this).  Setting a plan for my day, doesn’t mean everything goes as planned —(even now I’m working on a special treat for you ladies and the technology isn’t working as I’d hoped)— but it gives me a guide for how to map out what I need to do. Also, planning ahead has been huge for me! I NOW know to pray and ask God for direction on what to do with my day. Like legit, “Lord show me the intricacies of what You would have me to do”.  And He always leads me. It’s so funny because sometimes, it’s totally not what I want to do, but when I do it… it’s exactly what I NEEDED to do! God’s ways are so perfect, y’all. I love Him!

I know I still have growing to do.

I have not arrive,  but I am too committed to my purpose to even consider stopping now! Living for Him is so Lit, and I’m hyped because I know the best is truly yet to come! I am so excited for all that the next 6 months has in store! Stay Tuned!

-Reese

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Angela Somers 🤗

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 4 of the “Fierce 5” series, and today Angie Somers is here to help the sistahs! OK!!! A word for the married,married with children and my singles… you don’t want to miss this one! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is dripping from the screen! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

I’ve been happily married for 21 years to my wonderful husband Marvin.  Being married for this long had taught me that with Christ, all things are possible.  Early on in our marriage things weren’t like they are now.  If you want something to last you have to be willing to put in the work and forgive.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

 Keep Christ in The Center of Your Marriage

Date Frequently (Spend quality time with each other on purpose)

Love on Each Other (Spend more time Loving vs. Fussing)

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Stop trying to change your husband.  Pray and ask God to help your husband be what He’s called him to be.  Allow God to do the work and you’ll reap the benefits.

Keep other people out of your marriage.  I don’t care who they are.  Unless you are seeking good godly counsel like in Psalm 37:30, don’t tell Mama and them all of your business.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Listen singles ladies…  Stop searching so hard for “Mr. Right”.  Trust me, I’ve been there and it didn’t work.  The scripture says in Proverbs 18:22 – He who finds a wife finds a good thing…

Ask God to help you be the “good thing” He is talking about in the scripture and your future husband will find you.  Trust in God’s timing and stop dating men who treat you like you are an option.  Stop allowing a bunch of mess and confusion.  Either he wants to be with you or he doesn’t.  If he doesn’t, set him free and then God can bring the man He wants for you in to your life. (THIS -Reese). Don’t become bitter before that time. 😉

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

If you are already married and have children, continue to date your husband.  Don’t get so consumed in the children that you neglect each other.  One day the children will grow up, move out (hopefully) and then it’ll be just you and your husband in the home.  Think of creative and new things to do with each other right now.  Yes, life will sometimes get in the way but I guarantee you if you spend quality time with each other purposefully, your marriage will last.

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A Lesson on Being Intentional| #Getyourlife

Have you ever heard something that completely shifted your thinking?

That’s been me over the past few weeks.  I’ve been listening to some powerful speeches and podcasts (Thank you Les Brown), and as a result I’ve come to realize that I’ve been pretty passive in certain areas of my life.

I’ve talked a great talk, and have done many amazing things of which I am proud! And if you know me, then you know I celebrate every chance that I get! However, what have I been doing to keep that momentum going? 

I had to do a self evaluation.

Throughout my career, I’ve been the ideal candidate. I’ve been recruited multiple times in person, after unknowingly speaking with hiring managers. My work ethic, coupled with my poise and passion to see others succeed, paved the way for my success. As a natural born leader, my professionalism and out-going/winsome personality, made me the talk of the company. My employees loved me, and my colleagues enjoyed working with me. When an opportunity presented itself in the work place, I was called upon to rise to the occasion. Whether it was to host a training session, or take on a new position with greater responsibility… these opportunities sought me out with a vengeance. Yes, I worked in excellence, but “climbing the ladder” sort of just happened. I didn’t intentionally seek it out. 

This was my norm.

Until my employer, downsized. My position was cut, along with a significant portion of my salary. (Yes, they touched my bag).  I knew it was time to build my own, but  I found myself waiting, passively, for that next opportunity to present itself.  Waiting to speak to, or be seen by, the right person. I was waiting for opportunities, instead of intentionally seeking and creating my own. I was in this place of passively waiting for over 2 years, but today I say “no more”! It’s time to get intentional! (Yaaaaassssss!!)

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not disputing the favor that is on my life. Nor am I discrediting my dedication to working in excellence. However, as I strive to build my own empire (get ready), I am realizing that I need to shift my thinking. Yes, I know I will meet powerful people who will contribute to my success. However, that passive way of just allowing things to happen in my career… in my life… can no long be my norm. I must INTENTIONALLY SEEK and CREATE opportunities with a vengeance. I must INTENTIONALLY speak truth over my life! I must INTENTIONALLY look to learn from those who are moguls in my industry. I must INTENTIONALLY live out EVERY bit of the calling God has for my life! Y’all I could go on and on, but the point is…

my living,

my doing,

my being,

must be INTENTIONAL, every single day!

So be encouraged! Maybe you’re like me. You’ve experienced great success, passively going through life, and you finally realize that won’t get you to the finish line. Perhaps, it’s been the exact opposite. You’ve been in a rut, passively waiting for your life to change, and you’ve been awakened to the calling in your life,  and you know it’s time to step out. No matter your history, you can change your future! It’s time to make that move. It’s time to take that step. It’s time to get INTENTIONAL with your living… and do all that you’ve been called to do!

-Reese

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