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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Angela Somers 🤗

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 4 of the “Fierce 5” series, and today Angie Somers is here to help the sistahs! OK!!! A word for the married, married with children and my singles… you don’t want to miss this one! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is dripping from the screen! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

I’ve been happily married for 21 years to my wonderful husband Marvin.  Being married for this long had taught me that with Christ, all things are possible.  Early on in our marriage things weren’t like they are now.  If you want something to last you have to be willing to put in the work and forgive.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

 Keep Christ in The Center of Your Marriage

Date Frequently (Spend quality time with each other on purpose)

Love on Each Other (Spend more time Loving vs. Fussing)

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Stop trying to change your husband.  Pray and ask God to help your husband be what He’s called him to be.  Allow God to do the work and you’ll reap the benefits.

Keep other people out of your marriage.  I don’t care who they are.  Unless you are seeking good godly counsel like in Psalm 37:30, don’t tell Mama and them all of your business.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Listen singles ladies…  Stop searching so hard for “Mr. Right”.  Trust me, I’ve been there and it didn’t work.  The scripture says in Proverbs 18:22 – He who finds a wife finds a good thing…

Ask God to help you be the “good thing” He is talking about in the scripture and your future husband will find you.  Trust in God’s timing and stop dating men who treat you like you are an option.  Stop allowing a bunch of mess and confusion.  Either he wants to be with you or he doesn’t.  If he doesn’t, set him free and then God can bring the man He wants for you in to your life. (THIS -Reese). Don’t become bitter before that time. 😉

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

If you are already married and have children, continue to date your husband.  Don’t get so consumed in the children that you neglect each other.  One day the children will grow up, move out (hopefully) and then it’ll be just you and your husband in the home.  Think of creative and new things to do with each other right now.  Yes, life will sometimes get in the way but I guarantee you if you spend quality time with each other purposefully, your marriage will last.

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Teri Milton

Hey ladies! Today is the DAY!!! It’s finally here! Marriage Mondays with ‘The Fierce 5″! These are the 5 women who, over the past few years, have poured into my life as a young women and as a wife. I’ve learned so much from each of them, and thankfully have avoided many mistakes due to the wisdom they’ve shared with me. So you know I had to share the wealth! Yaaaasss!! Today, we’ll hear from Teri Milton. Whether this advice is hitting you for the first time, or coming as a timely reminder, be sure to chime in and let us know! Be encouraged! – Reese

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How many years have you been married? What has being married taught you?

July 23, 2018, will be 30 years as Mrs. Milton.  Being married has taught me, marriage is not for the faint of heart and that it is not about me, but about becoming one with my husband.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

Communication – not allowing fear to stop you from discussing the difficult things.

Laughing – not taking things or each other too seriously.

Having a no divorce option at heart.

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Be careful of telling your marriage business to your family and friends. When you diminish your husband in the eyes of your family and friends, it is hard to get them to see him beyond what you have portrayed.  As a wife, I believe my major role is to help my husband be the best version of himself.  It is not my role to control him or change him, but to bring the best out of him. 

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desire to be married?

“A man that doesn’t bring out the best in you is not the best for you.”

Don’t ignore the red flags and settle for what you honestly know is not acceptable or comfortable for you.  I firmly believe to trust a person when they show you who they are; continue to ask yourself what are your “deal breakers”. And watch how they interact with their mother and family. “You are what you tolerate.”  Don’t give up the best years of your life dating someone for 3 – 5 years.  I believe a man knows within a year if he wants to marry you. To quote Kristen Fry,  “Never compromise with a man who treats you like one of his options, but wait for the one who will make you a priority”. 

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

I think people focus too much on building careers, education and wealth which are all good things but miss the important things of the heart.  Be true to yourself and the woman God has fashioned you to be.  Allow God, and not the opinions of others, to shape who you are and influence your relationships.  Focus on building values and character in people, especially in your dating relationship. 

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🎥Video|Being Intentional; Marriage Series with the “Fierce 5” #marriedlife

 

Hey ladies, New Video Alert!

Over the past few months, I’ve been on a serious mission to be intentional with everything that I do. I was getting thing in order with my thinking, and my business… but what was I doing about my relationship? Well, while folding my laundry yesterday, I realized there was one area in my life to which I needed to give so much more of my UNDIVIDED ATTENTION… my marriage/honey.  So my hubby and I had a talk, and we both agreed to BE more intentional 💕. That man is the bomb y’all😍.

As Keem and I approach our 3 year wedding anniversary, I can’t help but thank God for all of the wonderful reminders and lessons… and for the PHENOMENAL WOMEN in my life who have encouraged me to be intentional about spending time, growing and building with my husband!

Y’all, my cup runneth over!

This is why I am so beyond excited to announce a new series for the month of May (My wedding anniversary month)… Marriage Talk with the “Fierce 5”.  These are the 5 women who have each poured into my life and have encouraged me in my womanhood, courtship, and now my marriage!  Oh and by the way… they all have been married for 20+ years, so it’s safe to say they know what they’re talking about! 

LADIES, May is going to POP! You don’t want to miss this AMAZING SERIES! So be sure to subscribe to get the notification (Click the blue button). Also if you’re not following me on IG… what are you waiting for? Click here: @reese__dennis 

-Reese

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“Creamy Peanut Butter”

A lesson on being right and being married!

The other day my hubby and I ventured to the grocery store together. Everything was going well, until we got to the peanut butter aisle. My hubby reached for the “natural” peanut butter, but I insisted that we  get the “creamy” version, since  that’s what we had at the house. He paused for a moment, then proceeded to look at the various labels to figure out what we had in the cupboard. He clearly didn’t believe me.

After a few “exchanges”, and a near exit with NOTHING, he finally gave in and said “I’m almost certain we had natural, but just go ahead and get the creamy peanut butter”. I tossed that tube into the cart so quickly, and dashed off to gather the last few items. I was in my feelings, yet and still I kept it together. 

When we finally got home,  I noticed that my hubby made a very deliberate strut to the cupboard. I rolled my eyes, and started putting the groceries away.  I knew exactly what he was doing! I didn’t pay him any mind, other than what I noticed out of my peripheral. He shuffled through the shelves for a few moments, then slowly closed the cupboard door. (He saw truth. lol!) He stood there for a few seconds, before finally admitting that I was right about the peanut butter.

In that moment, in that VERY REAL moment…

All I could think to say was “I told you so”. I knew I was right. I felt the words welling up within my soul, until I remembered being on the other side. Countless moments of being wrong came to mind, and I knew I needed to humble myself and sprinkle my response with love. (UGHHHH). I finished putting the last few groceries away, turned to the love of my life and said, “No problem babe, you know I’ve been there.  I’m just glad we got the right one”. 

Thank God I passed that test!  

What do you do when your spouse is wrong?  Do you rub it in their face, trying to “make an example” of the situation? OR do you show grace, put yourself in their shoes, and respond in love? Of course the latter is the best option, but let’s be real… it sure isn’t the easiest! Listen,  I don’t always get it right, but let me encourage you (as I encourage myself)! The next time you find yourself in a “creamy peanut butter” situation, and you KNOW you’re right.. respond in love! Nobody is perfect, and the worst thing to do is kick someone when they’ve humbly admitted that they’ve made a mistake. Yes, there will be moments when you need to have a full conversation about certain situations, but don’t give access to the enemy. Proverbs 15:1 says it best, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. God already knew! Choose your response carefully. Show grace and  fight with every bit of your being to keep the peace in your marriage and your household!  You two are one!

Nobody said it would be easy, but believe me, it will always be worth it!

 

#Happilymarried: 300 Words of Advice from the Newlywed

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Today my hubby and I celebrate 1 year of marriage! Yassss, shout out to us and our love! We did it, only a lifetime to go <3! Over the past year, I’ve posted countless pictures of the two of us to FB and IG, using the #happilymarried tag. I mean, I’m happy and I want to tell the world. But what does it REALLY mean to be #happilymarried?  

The What

In my opinion,  “happily married” is all a matter of choice and perspective. Which means, it will be/look/feel different for each couple. However, If you constantly compare your marriage to that of others, I’m certain that you will find it hard to enjoy what you share with your spouse.  Comparing yourself to others will rob you of your peace, your joy and your happiness! Oh, and be very careful of what you allow the media to feed you!  Listen, at some point you just have to cut all ties to those idealistic triplets; “Shoulda”, “Coulda” and  “Woulda”! They are not your girlfriends, they are life suckers! Believe me, I know!

The How

My hubby and I are learning to focus on the present, and live in the moment! As you build your future together, enjoy the process!  Take the time to listen as you get to know one another (#realeffort). You may not have the biggest house, or the coin to travel the globe, but you have each other! Focus on that! Focus on the love! Focus on the great possibilities of what will be,  and don’t despise those humble beginnings! You need each other. You’ve committed and made a vow to one another, so don’t give up. Fight for, not with, each other! Remember, a house divided against itself will surely fall!

You two are one!

Commit, Cherish, Flourish <3!

-Reese