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The Way He Looks at Me | The Struggle was Real

There is nothing like having someone say I could tell she was your honey by the way you looked at her all night”!

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That’s what someone said to my hubby this past weekend, while at a wedding celebration. It was like music to my ears! I felt so warm and yummy inside… but can you believe I didn’t always like/appreciate the way he looked at me? Crazy, right? I know, but it’s oh so true! 

A short while ago, whenever I’d catch my hubby looking at me, I’d often respond by asking “what’s wrong? Is it my hair/makeup? What are you looking at?” This list goes on and on, with all the negative things I’d come up with. To my surprise… my hubby wouldn’t take the bait. He’d look at me and say, “I like what I see.

You see, when you struggle with self-esteem,  you often take another’s gaze as an implication of imperfection, rather than admiration.   For me, I kept thinking “can someone really just ‘like’ what they see when they look at me”? The struggle was too real

But there’s this thing called LOVE! And when you begin to discover how to truly love yourself,  you don’t mind when others join in on the celebration! #it’saword

It’s been a long journey to get to this place (so many stories), but I am so thankful to be here. I love the woman I am becoming… and… I, too, like what I see when I look at me! I love myself, and I know just how wonderfully The Master made me! I am beautifully snatched for His glory! ( #snatchedforHisglory … Just wait on it!)

So now, when my hubby looks at me, I can appreciate every moment of his admiration and affection! No negative thoughts; although, he will let me know if I have chip crumbs on my chin! I can now appreciate his gaze, and smile in return! My hubby loves me, and to know that he only has eyes for me is beyond wonderful.

Yes, I’m flawed. But more importantly,

I’m loved and I am his honey ❤

Reese

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Baecation in the Dominican| “We Stopped Waiting for the ‘Perfect’ Moment”

I’m back!

I’ve been away with my Boo Bear in the Dominican, to celebrate our 3 year wedding anniversary!  How was it? Well, if you’ve ever been to an all-inclusive resort, on a beautiful island, with the love of your life… then you already know the trip was #LIT! And I’m back to share a few flicks, and 3 important lessons learned while overseas!

1. Stop waiting for the right moment and create it! Stop waiting and start living!

Keem and I have been babysitting our passports for the past few months. We were literally waiting for everything to align; our jobs, schedules… etc. We’d sit around and dream/talk about how we can’t wait to take a vacation one day soon. It wasn’t until we heard a talk from Les Brown, that we decided to stop waiting for the “perfect” moment! Tomorrow isn’t promised, all we have is today.  So we booked our first trip out of the country together, and didn’t look back! And the funny thing is that once we made that move… EVERYTHING else came into alignment, and we had the time of our lives! 

If you’re babysitting an idea or a “move”… stop! Take that first step.  Make the phone call, book that flight… leave that job (did I say it, I did)!  Stop waiting for the perfect moment to do what you need/want… CREATE IT!

2. Enjoy the experience

There was so much to take in.  If you’ve ever traveled out of the country then you know it can be overwhelming, especially is there is a language barrier. But Keem and I decided that we were both going to step out of our comfort zones, and enjoy the experience of it all! We didn’t want that “overwhelmed” feeling to keep us trapped in our resort room… We had VIP access, and we just couldn’t let it go to waste.  So we went out, embraced the unknown… and guess what? It was BOMB! From me using my 6 years of Spanish, to “flying” with Superman… all the way to Keem dancing Bachata with me at the pool party…  (yes my honey came to the dance floor just for me ❤)… it was everything and so much more! 

 Now, whenever something arises that challenges us to step out of the box , we have a simple word to remind ourselves to live in the moment; “Experiencion“! (Totally made up, but it’s our thing and I love it!)

So if you find yourself in a situation where you are being challenged to step out of your comfort zone, or faced with feeling overwhelmed… push beyond those feelings and enjoy the experience. Live in the moment, and don’t let the unknown trap you and keep you from living your best life. #livingmybestlife2018

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3. Bonding is the key

The other night as we reflected on our trip, we realized just how much we needed it. Although we see each other everyday, we needed this time to bond and reconnect. We were totally disconnected from our “normal” day to day. No WiFi, no work calls, no social media… just my honey and I! Yes, we are young and in love, but the busyness of life is a real distraction #realtalk. 

So if you’re married, be sure to set aside DEDICATED TIME just for reconnecting.

No, of course you don’t have to leave the country to bond with your spouse, but I’d say be very deliberate with keeping the distraction at bay. Leave the house, find a babysitter if you can, and put the phone down.   I’ve personally gotten into the habit of turning my phone on airplane mode when we go out. Some say extreme, I say I want to give my man my undivided attention when we set aside the time to date!

Yes, it’s just that important!

 

Be encouraged (and live) ❤

Reese

Single Ladies, You Have a Choice

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 I hope you can feel my heart in every word, and at the end you will know just how “worth it” you are <3!

Many times in our relationships we wait for the man to make the decisions that are best for our hearts, even when the relationship is no longer adding any value.  We put ourselves on the back burner, and endure emotional exhaustion all in the name of love (let’s be real).  I know I’ve been there… more than once! Listen, when you’ve invested so much time and energy,  it’s much “easier” to ignore the signs and keep things together. Especially when you are holding onto the possibility of what could change if you stay, or feeding the fear of what may happen if you let go and move on.

Relationships have their ups and downs. We are flawed and so we do make mistakes. However, if you find yourself in an intentionally hurtful (or destructive) relationship that no longer adds value,  it’s important to remember that  you hold the key to turn things around. No, you can’t change a man’s heart (only God can do that), but you can decide what’s best for your life going forward.
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Ladies, YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
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A choice regarding what’s best for your well-being, your walk with God, emotional health, and  peace of mind. Remember, you don’t have to wait for your man to finally make up his mind about what’s best for you, especially when you already know what needs to be done.  You can make that decision for yourself. You cannot change a man’s character, so when he shows you who he is, you have to be strong enough to believe it. God is the ultimate love in your life. And as a woman of God, you have a heavenly Father who wants you to be whole… not broken, bruised and tossed to the side.
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When we as women have a firm understanding of who we are in Christ, and that we are worthy and deserving of that very intentional and certain “I only want you” type of love, we can make the decisions that are best for our hearts.
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I’ve been hurt, abused and used. And once I realized that I was worth so much more than being treated like an option, I decided to move on without turning back. I had no clue that the most wonderful man would be on the other side of that decision, waiting to love all of me and make me his one and only! God is too good!

Every story is different. Just know that drama-free love between two honest and committed individuals is a beautiful blessing, and is absolutely possible.

You don’t have to SETTLE.

You don’t have to be just an OPTION any longer!

You are destined to be someone’s one and only, and  you have every right to decide who’s efforts to entertain.  So don’t believe the lie any longer. You do have a choice, and you are worth it! You, are more than enough ❤

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-Reese

Root of the Issue

Yesterday, I had a root canal!

I had a dental crown put in place to fix a hairline fracture…blah, blah, blah! Over the past few weeks, I had been experiencing a great deal of pain, which I assumed was normal, until it became unbearable. It got to the point that my everyday activities suffered, and I felt myself slip into a mini depression!  My life flashed before my eyes.

I called and gave the receptionist a does of my dramatics (most tastefully)! She had no choice, but to bring me in for an emergency visit, during which I was informed that I would need to have an emergency root canal to avoid infection! Unfortunately, I was a part of the 20% of people who suffer from “irreversible inflammation” resulting in the need to have a root canal, and if left untreated could lead to my needing an extraction (losing my tooth completely).  

As the dentist began to work, I had a revelation about life…

Many of us are walking around with unresolved issues in our hearts! like the pain from my tooth, We’ve tricked ourselves into thinking that this disruptive pain is “normal” and simply “a part of life”.   We’ve allowed the destructive roots of  Jealousy, regret, FEAR, loneliness, unforgiveness, and anger to settle in our hearts, not even realizing that if left untreated will lead to greater loss! Lack of focus, missed opportunities, broken relationships… and the list goes on! 

Today, I encourage all of you to schedule your emergency visit, and get to the root of the issues!  Let go of the negativity that’s been hindering your progress! Appreciate what you’ve been given! Remember that everything happens for a reason, and worrying about the past won’t change it! Fear is debilitating, unforgiveness will kill you, and loneliness won’t last always! forgive, let go and move ON! 

Pray! Dig deep! Take a deep breath!

Although difficult at times, it is not impossible! 

Keep it stylish,

Reese