Single Ladies, You Have a Choice

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 I hope you can feel my heart in every word, and at the end you will know just how “worth it” you are <3!

Many times in our relationships we wait for the man to make the decisions that are best for our hearts, even when the relationship is no longer adding any value.  We put ourselves on the back burner, and endure emotional exhaustion all in the name of love (let’s be real).  I know I’ve been there… more than once! Listen, when you’ve invested so much time and energy,  it’s much “easier” to ignore the signs and keep things together. Especially when you are holding onto the possibility of what could change if you stay, or feeding the fear of what may happen if you let go and move on.

Relationships have their ups and downs. We are flawed and so we do make mistakes. However, if you find yourself in an intentionally hurtful (or destructive) relationship that no longer adds value,  it’s important to remember that  you hold the key to turn things around. No, you can’t change a man’s heart (only God can do that), but you can decide what’s best for your life going forward.
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Ladies, YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
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A choice regarding what’s best for your well-being, your walk with God, emotional health, and  peace of mind. Remember, you don’t have to wait for your man to finally make up his mind about what’s best for you, especially when you already know what needs to be done.  You can make that decision for yourself. You cannot change a man’s character, so when he shows you who he is, you have to be strong enough to believe it. God is the ultimate love in your life. And as a woman of God, you have a heavenly Father who wants you to be whole… not broken, bruised and tossed to the side.
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When we as women have a firm understanding of who we are in Christ, and that we are worthy and deserving of that very intentional and certain “I only want you” type of love, we can make the decisions that are best for our hearts.
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I’ve been hurt, abused and used. And once I realized that I was worth so much more than being treated like an option, I decided to move on without turning back. I had no clue that the most wonderful man would be on the other side of that decision, waiting to love all of me and make me his one and only! God is too good!

Every story is different. Just know that drama-free love between two honest and committed individuals is a beautiful blessing, and is absolutely possible.

You don’t have to SETTLE.

You don’t have to be just an OPTION any longer!

You are destined to be someone’s one and only, and  you have every right to decide who’s efforts to entertain.  So don’t believe the lie any longer. You do have a choice, and you are worth it! You, are more than enough ❤

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-Reese

Root of the Issue

Yesterday, I had a root canal!

I had a dental crown put in place to fix a hairline fracture…blah, blah, blah! Over the past few weeks, I had been experiencing a great deal of pain, which I assumed was normal, until it became unbearable. It got to the point that my everyday activities suffered, and I felt myself slip into a mini depression!  My life flashed before my eyes.

I called and gave the receptionist a does of my dramatics (most tastefully)! She had no choice, but to bring me in for an emergency visit, during which I was informed that I would need to have an emergency root canal to avoid infection! Unfortunately, I was a part of the 20% of people who suffer from “irreversible inflammation” resulting in the need to have a root canal, and if left untreated could lead to my needing an extraction (losing my tooth completely).  

As the dentist began to work, I had a revelation about life…

Many of us are walking around with unresolved issues in our hearts! like the pain from my tooth, We’ve tricked ourselves into thinking that this disruptive pain is “normal” and simply “a part of life”.   We’ve allowed the destructive roots of  Jealousy, regret, FEAR, loneliness, unforgiveness, and anger to settle in our hearts, not even realizing that if left untreated will lead to greater loss! Lack of focus, missed opportunities, broken relationships… and the list goes on! 

Today, I encourage all of you to schedule your emergency visit, and get to the root of the issues!  Let go of the negativity that’s been hindering your progress! Appreciate what you’ve been given! Remember that everything happens for a reason, and worrying about the past won’t change it! Fear is debilitating, unforgiveness will kill you, and loneliness won’t last always! forgive, let go and move ON! 

Pray! Dig deep! Take a deep breath!

Although difficult at times, it is not impossible! 

Keep it stylish,

Reese