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I cancelled my Massage | Here Are 3 Things I Did Instead #selfcare

Two weeks ago,  I had a massage scheduled all in the name of “self care”. I’m a mom and I always look for opportunities to “TREAT YOSELF” lol (in my Tom and Donna voice for my Parks and Rec fans). Well, the night before I decided to cancel for two reasons. 1, it was on family day and sometimes I just like to chill with my hubby and the baby without having anywhere else to be. And 2, I just didn’t feel like having to pump and hustle about in order to be away from Dream. But I still wanted to enjoy that time I had set aside for myself, so here is what I did instead:

1. I made myself breakfast and enjoyed it IN SILENCE.

I’ve come to enjoy and look forward to a bowl of homemade oatmeal and a cup of my special coffee every morning, but I don’t often get to enjoy it without constantly side-eyeing Dream to make sure she is happy and safe. So this was a special moment. Keem and Dream were still sleeping so I had this little pocket of time just for me! Yaaasss! I left my phone in my bedroom,  and made my way to the kitchen. No baby to keep an eye on, no husband to help out the door… just me, my breakfast and my thoughts/prayers! It was great!

2. I did a full yoga session, UNINTERRUPTED.

Yoga has been so good for this mom body. The stretches, both pre/postnatal, have helped me tremendously. And as much as I love working out, as a new mommy I rarely get to workout without Dream being RIGHT THERE. So this was a true delight. A bonus moment. A baby free, breath focused, energizing yoga session to get my day started! Another win!

3. I folded the laundry,  while listening to one of my fave Les Brown talks, INTENTLY.

For some laundry is a task… but I actually enjoy doing/folding laundry. I know I’m special 😅. Listen, being in my own space (bringing order to that space), with no one else but myself to worry about in that moment, is EVERYTHING. Me and my jolly self, sat in the middle of the floor folding my little life away! I was so content!

One of my closest friends sent this to me after our check-in that morning, and it is totally worth sharing:

“It’s important to recognize the other ways we self-care! There is something to having a listing of things that invoke the same feelings of a massage but touch a different part of ‘self'”

So powerful! Yes a massage and a pedicure are amazing… but doing those things that evoke feelings of accomplishment, restfulness, and peace of mind are also vital ways to empower and care for “self”!

So I just want to encourage you. As you make the time for “self-care”, know that this isn’t a “one size fits all” kind of situation. I think along the way we’ve lost the focus… self care is literally caring for self…mind, body and spirit! And that doesn’t always HAVE to show up in the form of a trip to the salon. It can show up in the form of a nap, a workout or simply basking in the presence of our Good Good Father (AMEN, somebody)!!

So find what works for you and do just that. Look at the feelings and state of mind you wish to elicit, and embrace the practices that will keep you in that space.

Reese

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VIDEO | Why I Changed my Eating Lifestyle + 3 Tips to Help Embrace Transition in Life! | #momlife

I cannot believe I’ve been a mommy to this little yummy nugget for a WHOLE 7 months!!! 7… I feel like I was tell Keem I was pregnant! I can still see that look he gave me… a mixture of excitement and “okay, this is REALLY happening”! Time is flying, and I am not even mad about it 😂! So thankful for Dream and how God is showing himself faithful as she just blossoming! God’s special gift to us, a true masterpiece, DESTINED FOR GREATNESS! I mean, LOOK AT HER!!

This journey has not been easy! Not only have I had to adjust to being a mommy, who’s village is POWERFUL, yet not so close (come back👀👀👀) lol… but I’ve had to make some serious changes to my diet! Check out my video on WHY I HAD TO CHANGE, along with 3 helpful tips if you find yourself in the midst of Transition! As always… I LOOOOOOVE to hear from you! So be sure to LIKE, Comment, SHARE with someone in need… and subscribe🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

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#Snatched For His Glory | Pre-Order ends Today

ICYMI : I released and re-released the #Snatched FOR HIS GLORY tees on my online store,  Fierce & Refined Boutique! Yaaaaaassss🔥🔥🔥 Today is the FINAL DAY to pre-order, and I don’t want you to miss out! Also enjoy free shipping site wide with code “#snatched”.

Both styles of the #Snatched tees are ONLY AVAILABLE DURING pre-order!

So don’t delay + check out a quick video of how I style it!🔥🔥🔥

 

**CLICK HERE TO SHOP NOW**

 

Reese

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Replay | Fierce 5 💍 LIVE CHAT w/ Tia Glenn

Hey ladies! In case you missed this week’s Fierce 5 Live Chat with Tia Glenn, the replay is posted below! We did things a little different this time around and went live on FB! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Having just a few technical difficulties getting the actual video posted… So click the link below to view the full replay! Get your entire life🔥🔥🔥! Be sure to like, comment, and share! Super excited for this week’s feature! 

Click here to view live Chat!

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Week 3 | Fierce 5💍 Marriage Series | First Lady Tawana Washington

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It’s week 3!

Yaaaasssss! And our feature for the week, First Lady Tawana Washington, is taking it there! Married for 24 years, check out what she has to say about Communication, balance, and what it means to “wait on God”. You can connect with her via email: tawanacoolbeans@gmail.com 


1. How many years have you been married,

and what has being married for xx years taught you?

 

After being married for 24 years, I have learned that communication is a key component in my marriage.  I have come to the realization that communication is not just talking, but the ability to listen to what my spouse is saying.  Many times we say “I hear you,” but the question is are you really “listening to what your spouse is saying.  Listening is something I consciously choose to do.  When I choose to listen to my spouse, I make a conscious effort to concentrate on what my spouse is saying, and to process the information.  Communication is paramount in one’s marriage.  The Word of God says:

 “Let you speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” –Col. 4:6

2. You are definitely a “woman of purpose” how have you navigated that space of being a help-mate for your husband, and a woman with a purpose/platform/ministry? What challenges have you had to overcome and how?

Balance is how I navigate this thing called life.  Not only am I a wife, but also, a child of God with a divine purpose, a mother, a daughter, and a woman with a career.  How does one handle such a great responsibility… it is called Balance.  It is important to learn how to balance all facets of your life.  At any given point we are being called upon to satisfy or fulfill one of our roles.  Balance is what is needed to maintain stability and, truth be toldour sanity.  It is important to align one’s role with one’s responsibility and not allow your self to get lost in process.  Again Balance is the key.

“A false balance is abomination to the Lord: but a just weight is his delight.” Proverbs 11:1

3. What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife who is struggling with “submission”?
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Submission is the act of yielding oneself.  God has given us (wives) the commandment to submit to our own husband.  Ephesians 5:22-23… “Wives, submit yourselves unto you own husband, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” During present day, submission is often misunderstood and sometimes comes off as a negative act. We have to understand that our submission is to God first.  Submission comes from a place of love, caring and trust.  In our obedience and submission unto God, we submit ourselves to our husband.  We submit to our husband because we love him, and are confident that we can trust him with our heart in knowing that he would not bring us harm with his word, actions or his deeds.

The Bible also says in Ephesians 5: 21“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”  

In a marriage, both the husband and the wife are called to submit. Christ is saying that the wife is willing to follow her husband’s leadership, and the husband is to set aside his own interest in order to care for his wife.  I encourage the wife to know that submission is honoring God.   As we submit to God we become more willing to obey his command and submit to our husband.

4. What about the singles who want to be married, and feel like they’ve been waiting FOREVER? What does it truly mean to “wait on God” as a single woman waiting to be found? Is it just a cliche?

To wait on God, for a husband, is to trust God and understand that God knows what’s best for us.  God knows what we need and when we need it. Waiting is the process of preparation.  Preparation is the process of First, knowing who you are as an individual and knowing who you are in Christ.  Secondly, knowing that you have worth and that you are worth waiting for. What God has for you is for you.

5. Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Marriage is a “Good Thang.” Like anything in life, marriage is work.  You have to work at being communicative, understanding and forgiving.  Marriage is ordained and sanctioned by God.  Trust God, trust yourself and trust your spouse.  “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”(Philippians 4:13)


 

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Reese