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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Michele Turner 🔥🔥🔥

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 5 of the “Fierce 5” series, and today Michele Turner is sharing, UNFILTERED! We’re going out with a BANG!  If you know Deaconess Michele, then you know you aren’t getting anything other than the truth! Yaaaassss!! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is screaming for her children to listen!!! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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 How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

November will be 31 years.  That marriage is a job you never get time off, sick leave or a vacation.   Enjoy the wedding day because every day after that is work.  What you put in your marriage is what you will get out of it.  Love covers a multitude of sin! After 10yrs of me committing adultery and this man still loves me as Christ love the church… I drop the mic😙

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

Love, respect and just being who God created me to be.  Never lose yourself for a man.  Be honest don’t lie to yourself or that man everything you do in the dark comes to the light remember that.  Make sure you’re IN love with him and you don’t just love him like you love your family and best friend.  When you’re IN love you can survive any storm.

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Have lots of sex. This releases stress, unless your husband is crazy.   Stop trying to live as if you’re still single, hanging out ALL the time with your old single friends.  If you don’t have  kids make sure your husband is uno #1. He should not have to be jealous for your time.  You’re on the phone all day but can’t have a decent conversation other than “how was your day”… (Red flag). Your husband pays more attention than you think.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Like and love who you are first you can’t give away what you don’t have.  Know “why” you want to be married because with God age ain’t nothing but a number.  Let him find you PLEASE!!!  Learn to be okay if God says marriage is not for you.

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

All the originals are taken, don’t be a copy cat.  Stop looking at the grass on the other side, it needs to be worked on too.  Seek God in all you do, don’t let Him be your last resource.  When HE speaks, listen. I drop the mic😙

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Grow

img_3102Have you ever paid attention to how things grow?

I recently visited my mother’s house in Philadelphia and I couldn’t help but notice how beautifully the hedges had grown. They literally started as tiny shrubs, and now they stand nearly as tall as me. But you know, they didn’t grow over night. Over the years, my mom diligently trimmed, pruned, watered and manicured  those hedges.  She put in the work and trusted the growth process, as I’m sure she knew what these hedges would one day become.

But what if she hadn’t? What if she expected the hedges to grow just as quickly as her roses bloomed? Perhaps she would have over watered, trimmed prematurely, or even worse… destroyed the hedges before they were even given a chance to grow.  Can you imagine how frustrating and disappointing that journey might have been?

Now I know I’ve been speaking about my mom’s hedges, but take a look at your life. How often do we rush our growth? We sometimes step in and try keep up with the pace of others, instead of trusting God to trim/prune/manicure us to perfection! (Preaching to myself). Instead of appreciating the “roses” in our lives, we too often get caught up comparing ourselves to how quickly they’ve bloomed.  

Oh, but can I tell you… there is peace when you grow at your own pace!

There is truly something magnificent when we trust the growth process. I challenge you today… stop comparing and start celebrating what God has done for others. Trust God’s pace for your life, and allow him to perfect His work in you.  Just imagine, how beautifully you’ll stand as you grow as God designed. 

Say it with me:

“I am unique, my gifts and talents were tailor made just for me and the pace in which I perfect them is not a competition!”

His ways are perfect!

-Reese

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“Creamy Peanut Butter”

A lesson on being right and being married!

The other day my hubby and I ventured to the grocery store together. Everything was going well, until we got to the peanut butter aisle. My hubby reached for the “natural” peanut butter, but I insisted that we  get the “creamy” version, since  that’s what we had at the house. He paused for a moment, then proceeded to look at the various labels to figure out what we had in the cupboard. He clearly didn’t believe me.

After a few “exchanges”, and a near exit with NOTHING, he finally gave in and said “I’m almost certain we had natural, but just go ahead and get the creamy peanut butter”. I tossed that tube into the cart so quickly, and dashed off to gather the last few items. I was in my feelings, yet and still I kept it together. 

When we finally got home,  I noticed that my hubby made a very deliberate strut to the cupboard. I rolled my eyes, and started putting the groceries away.  I knew exactly what he was doing! I didn’t pay him any mind, other than what I noticed out of my peripheral. He shuffled through the shelves for a few moments, then slowly closed the cupboard door. (He saw truth. lol!) He stood there for a few seconds, before finally admitting that I was right about the peanut butter.

In that moment, in that VERY REAL moment…

All I could think to say was “I told you so”. I knew I was right. I felt the words welling up within my soul, until I remembered being on the other side. Countless moments of being wrong came to mind, and I knew I needed to humble myself and sprinkle my response with love. (UGHHHH). I finished putting the last few groceries away, turned to the love of my life and said, “No problem babe, you know I’ve been there.  I’m just glad we got the right one”. 

Thank God I passed that test!  

What do you do when your spouse is wrong?  Do you rub it in their face, trying to “make an example” of the situation? OR do you show grace, put yourself in their shoes, and respond in love? Of course the latter is the best option, but let’s be real… it sure isn’t the easiest! Listen,  I don’t always get it right, but let me encourage you (as I encourage myself)! The next time you find yourself in a “creamy peanut butter” situation, and you KNOW you’re right.. respond in love! Nobody is perfect, and the worst thing to do is kick someone when they’ve humbly admitted that they’ve made a mistake. Yes, there will be moments when you need to have a full conversation about certain situations, but don’t give access to the enemy. Proverbs 15:1 says it best, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. God already knew! Choose your response carefully. Show grace and  fight with every bit of your being to keep the peace in your marriage and your household!  You two are one!

Nobody said it would be easy, but believe me, it will always be worth it!

 

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Slay, Like you Mean it

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Every morning when you wake up, command the atmosphere around you! Despite what may have happened yesterday, today is a new day! You have a choice. You can either speak life, or speak death over your situation. Why not choose life! Expect God to do the impossible…the incredible! He can mend your broken heart, open that closed door, and give you a new perspective! Align yourself with God’s will for your life, and watch Him do magnificent things in your life! Expect it!

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After you’ve commanded your morning, and have aligned yourself with God’s will, get up and get dressed like you know who you are! I’ve said this before and it’s worth repeating… You can look “fabulous”, dress well and still live a life of holiness!  Oh, yes you can! You can wear your heels, beat your face, and “slay” all while being a reflection of the King! Indeed, God is most concerned with the matters of our heart, and that should be top priority for us as His daughters! Just know… it’s OK to SLAY while we serve our Savior!  Put on your best, and slay the day!

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Your mind is at peace, your heart is ready, and you’ve adorned yourself accordingly! Now, it’s time to walk it out, and conquer your day! Whether you’re on your way to work, a conference, or preparing to give a presentation… go in there like you run the show! Determine that no matter what happens, this is your day. Celebrate your victories, and learn from your challenges!  Hold your head up high, and spread the light with those who need it most. Speak, empower, smile, and slay as you walk through your sphere of influence!   You can never sparkle too bright! The Day is yours, so own it!

Slay, Like you Mean it!

The world is waiting!

“Wonderfully Made” #IAFAWM

fullsizerIn a world that is utterly obsessed with perfection, it’s  so easy to get caught up in the hype. We consume so much throughout the day, that when we finally look in the mirror we often pick at those things that are seen as less than perfect… my nose is too big, my hair is too thin, my thighs are too thick… and the list goes on and on. Subsequently we strive to fit into society’s “perfect” mold, all in the name of being “Beautiful”… as if perfection were the prerequisite for such a title.  It’s a viscous cycle that I’ve known all too well.

But let me share something amazing with you… a powerful truth that will SET YOU FREE!

“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;  Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well” Psalms 139:14 (NKJV)

Yaass! When you truly begin to understand this powerful verse, you’ll never look at yourself the same again. When you look in the mirror,  You will finally see what God see, a MARVELOUS WORK OF ART! You’ll see a unique, and beautiful woman of God who doesn’t need to seek the approval of society (or a man) to see and know her true beauty.   Listen, when this verse came to life in my situation,  I stopped seeing dirt, and I started seeing flecks glitter! Seriously!  I’m convinced that God made lil ole’ me with an extra sprinkle of sparkle dust, lol! And He did just the same when He created you… you are special and set apart, created for His pleasure!

So the next time you look in the mirror, don’t you dare pick out your “flaws”. Don’t do it! Instead, speak this verse over your life like the most powerful affirmation you’ve ever created! Ask God to show you the beauty He placed within each and everyone one of us when we were created!  And when He shows you, believe Him and give thanks!

Marvelous are His works, and this your soul must know very well!

Challenge: If you know just how marvelous you are, I challenge you to proclaim that over your life in your next selfie post! Connect with me on IG and Twitter (@reese__dennis), and tag #IAFAWM (“I am Fearfully and Wonderfully Made”) to let me know you believe it!  Let your girlfriends know, pass along this beautiful truth, you never know who needs it at this very moment!

Be encouraged ladies!

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