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🎥 Video| The One Cooking Lesson that Changed my Perspective |#marriedlife

Hey ladies! I’m back with another quick video🎥! Yaaaassss!!! I can’t help but keep it real! Check it out! I’m sharing a personal truth (#pleasedontjudgeme)… and talking about a very important, nearly life changing, cooking lesson from this past weekend! Enjoy and Be Encouraged!💕🤗💕

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Gail James

Hey ladies! It’s Monday, so you know what that means? Marriage Mondays withThe Fierce 5″! These are the 5 women who, over the past few years, have poured into my life as a young women and as a wife. I’ve learned so much from each of them, and thankfully have avoided many mistakes due to the wisdom they’ve shared with me. So you know I had to share the wealth! Yaaaasss!! Today, we’ll hear from Gail James. This post hit home for me this week, and I’m so grateful!  Whether this advice is hitting you for the first time, or coming as a timely reminder, be sure to chime in and let us know! Be encouraged!Reese

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How many years have you been married? What has being married taught you?   

I have been married for 21 years.  May 11th will make it 22 years. I have learned a lot and have grown since the beginning.  I believe God put my husband and I together. Because of this, I am committed to making our marriage work.  In the beginning, I saw faults in my husband and wished he would change.  I looked at him but not at myself.  But as I prayed for our relationship, God had me focus not on him, but on myself and how I could change for the better As I prayed for God to change things in me, my husband would change.  I prayed for things such as make me a better wife, a better lover, a better listener, make me more sensitive to his needs, his moods and when to discuss things with him.  I used to want to discuss things with him as soon as he got home from work.  But, he had to “catch himself” as he called it, which meant decompressing from the stress of the work day.  As I learned to give him that time when he arrived home, ½ hour later he was fine.  In the beginning, my husband had a hard time saying, “I’m sorry”.  I would say it first to keep the peace, even if I felt I wasn’t wrong.  Again, as I prayed, he began to say it first, and even elaborate why he was wrong.  Part of the growth is really learning your mate and what makes him the person he is. 

Another thing we do now is not wait for special holidays or occasions to give gifts or cards.  We give them all throughout the year, just to say “I love you”.  We also tease each other during the day when we are home, share love taps, etc. to keep the affection going all day.  It all works to build a great marriage.     

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

God at the center of our relationship.  Praying daily for our relationship, for my husband, his challenges, and praying  he allows God to direct him in all things, especially since he is the head of our household. 

Love, commitment, fun and time together.

Forgiveness and patience.

 What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Marriage takes work every day.  Appreciate him for his gifts and talents.  Be patience, quick to forgive, be honest, loving and don’t sweat the small stuff.  So he doesn’t put the socks in the hamper…  don’t lose sleep over it.  Just pick them up and put them in the hamper.  You would miss them if he were not around.  And spend quality time together, quiet time, prayer time, watching a movie, traveling, going out, and of course “rocking it”. (Oh, Yasss -Reese, lol)

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

When I was single, a good friend gave me this advice.  Enjoy life being single, go places, do things.  That is how you meet people.  And, when it is your time, you and your mate’s paths will cross. 

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share? 

“He is your King and you are his Queen.  Let him know it every day”. 

Marriage is a serious commitment. The two become one flesh and that is real.  No joke.  Stay faithful and committed to each other and know if God put you together, no man can break you apart.  You have to be willing to grow and to change for the better, as your mate will be doing the same.  And be careful who you share info with about your marriage.  You should share with a select few who are confidential and married. 

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Teri Milton

Hey ladies! Today is the DAY!!! It’s finally here! Marriage Mondays with ‘The Fierce 5″! These are the 5 women who, over the past few years, have poured into my life as a young women and as a wife. I’ve learned so much from each of them, and thankfully have avoided many mistakes due to the wisdom they’ve shared with me. So you know I had to share the wealth! Yaaaasss!! Today, we’ll hear from Teri Milton. Whether this advice is hitting you for the first time, or coming as a timely reminder, be sure to chime in and let us know! Be encouraged! – Reese

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How many years have you been married? What has being married taught you?

July 23, 2018, will be 30 years as Mrs. Milton.  Being married has taught me, marriage is not for the faint of heart and that it is not about me, but about becoming one with my husband.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

Communication – not allowing fear to stop you from discussing the difficult things.

Laughing – not taking things or each other too seriously.

Having a no divorce option at heart.

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Be careful of telling your marriage business to your family and friends. When you diminish your husband in the eyes of your family and friends, it is hard to get them to see him beyond what you have portrayed.  As a wife, I believe my major role is to help my husband be the best version of himself.  It is not my role to control him or change him, but to bring the best out of him. 

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desire to be married?

“A man that doesn’t bring out the best in you is not the best for you.”

Don’t ignore the red flags and settle for what you honestly know is not acceptable or comfortable for you.  I firmly believe to trust a person when they show you who they are; continue to ask yourself what are your “deal breakers”. And watch how they interact with their mother and family. “You are what you tolerate.”  Don’t give up the best years of your life dating someone for 3 – 5 years.  I believe a man knows within a year if he wants to marry you. To quote Kristen Fry,  “Never compromise with a man who treats you like one of his options, but wait for the one who will make you a priority”. 

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

I think people focus too much on building careers, education and wealth which are all good things but miss the important things of the heart.  Be true to yourself and the woman God has fashioned you to be.  Allow God, and not the opinions of others, to shape who you are and influence your relationships.  Focus on building values and character in people, especially in your dating relationship. 

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🎥Video|Being Intentional; Marriage Series with the “Fierce 5” #marriedlife

 

Hey ladies, New Video Alert!

Over the past few months, I’ve been on a serious mission to be intentional with everything that I do. I was getting thing in order with my thinking, and my business… but what was I doing about my relationship? Well, while folding my laundry yesterday, I realized there was one area in my life to which I needed to give so much more of my UNDIVIDED ATTENTION… my marriage/honey.  So my hubby and I had a talk, and we both agreed to BE more intentional 💕. That man is the bomb y’all😍.

As Keem and I approach our 3 year wedding anniversary, I can’t help but thank God for all of the wonderful reminders and lessons… and for the PHENOMENAL WOMEN in my life who have encouraged me to be intentional about spending time, growing and building with my husband!

Y’all, my cup runneth over!

This is why I am so beyond excited to announce a new series for the month of May (My wedding anniversary month)… Marriage Talk with the “Fierce 5”.  These are the 5 women who have each poured into my life and have encouraged me in my womanhood, courtship, and now my marriage!  Oh and by the way… they all have been married for 20+ years, so it’s safe to say they know what they’re talking about! 

LADIES, May is going to POP! You don’t want to miss this AMAZING SERIES! So be sure to subscribe to get the notification (Click the blue button). Also if you’re not following me on IG… what are you waiting for? Click here: @reese__dennis 

-Reese