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A Lesson on Being Intentional| #Getyourlife

Have you ever heard something that completely shifted your thinking?

That’s been me over the past few weeks.  I’ve been listening to some powerful speeches and podcasts (Thank you Les Brown), and as a result I’ve come to realize that I’ve been pretty passive in certain areas of my life.

I’ve talked a great talk, and have done many amazing things of which I am proud! And if you know me, then you know I celebrate every chance that I get! However, what have I been doing to keep that momentum going? 

I had to do a self evaluation.

Throughout my career, I’ve been the ideal candidate. I’ve been recruited multiple times in person, after unknowingly speaking with hiring managers. My work ethic, coupled with my poise and passion to see others succeed, paved the way for my success. As a natural born leader, my professionalism and out-going/winsome personality, made me the talk of the company. My employees loved me, and my colleagues enjoyed working with me. When an opportunity presented itself in the work place, I was called upon to rise to the occasion. Whether it was to host a training session, or take on a new position with greater responsibility… these opportunities sought me out with a vengeance. Yes, I worked in excellence, but “climbing the ladder” sort of just happened. I didn’t intentionally seek it out. 

This was my norm.

Until my employer, downsized. My position was cut, along with a significant portion of my salary. (Yes, they touched my bag).  I knew it was time to build my own, but  I found myself waiting, passively, for that next opportunity to present itself.  Waiting to speak to, or be seen by, the right person. I was waiting for opportunities, instead of intentionally seeking and creating my own. I was in this place of passively waiting for over 2 years, but today I say “no more”! It’s time to get intentional! (Yaaaaassssss!!)

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not disputing the favor that is on my life. Nor am I discrediting my dedication to working in excellence. However, as I strive to build my own empire (get ready), I am realizing that I need to shift my thinking. Yes, I know I will meet powerful people who will contribute to my success. However, that passive way of just allowing things to happen in my career… in my life… can no long be my norm. I must INTENTIONALLY SEEK and CREATE opportunities with a vengeance. I must INTENTIONALLY speak truth over my life! I must INTENTIONALLY look to learn from those who are moguls in my industry. I must INTENTIONALLY live out EVERY bit of the calling God has for my life! Y’all I could go on and on, but the point is…

my living,

my doing,

my being,

must be INTENTIONAL, every single day!

So be encouraged! Maybe you’re like me. You’ve experienced great success, passively going through life, and you finally realize that won’t get you to the finish line. Perhaps, it’s been the exact opposite. You’ve been in a rut, passively waiting for your life to change, and you’ve been awakened to the calling in your life,  and you know it’s time to step out. No matter your history, you can change your future! It’s time to make that move. It’s time to take that step. It’s time to get INTENTIONAL with your living… and do all that you’ve been called to do!

-Reese

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Grow

img_3102Have you ever paid attention to how things grow?

I recently visited my mother’s house in Philadelphia and I couldn’t help but notice how beautifully the hedges had grown. They literally started as tiny shrubs, and now they stand nearly as tall as me. But you know, they didn’t grow over night. Over the years, my mom diligently trimmed, pruned, watered and manicured  those hedges.  She put in the work and trusted the growth process, as I’m sure she knew what these hedges would one day become.

But what if she hadn’t? What if she expected the hedges to grow just as quickly as her roses bloomed? Perhaps she would have over watered, trimmed prematurely, or even worse… destroyed the hedges before they were even given a chance to grow.  Can you imagine how frustrating and disappointing that journey might have been?

Now I know I’ve been speaking about my mom’s hedges, but take a look at your life. How often do we rush our growth? We sometimes step in and try keep up with the pace of others, instead of trusting God to trim/prune/manicure us to perfection! (Preaching to myself). Instead of appreciating the “roses” in our lives, we too often get caught up comparing ourselves to how quickly they’ve bloomed.  

Oh, but can I tell you… there is peace when you grow at your own pace!

There is truly something magnificent when we trust the growth process. I challenge you today… stop comparing and start celebrating what God has done for others. Trust God’s pace for your life, and allow him to perfect His work in you.  Just imagine, how beautifully you’ll stand as you grow as God designed. 

Say it with me:

“I am unique, my gifts and talents were tailor made just for me and the pace in which I perfect them is not a competition!”

His ways are perfect!

-Reese

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Living|Loving|Learning (3 Lessons from the Newlywed)

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Marriage is a beautiful blessing, but let’s not be naive.  A healthy marriage doesn’t just magically grow, it  requires real commitment and effort to blossom. Think of the grass on your lawn. You have to take special care of it for best results. So, you keep it trimmed and manicured,  and you handle those unwanted yet inevitable weeds with a sense of urgency. A healthy marriage requires this same type of love and care. I’m still new in the game, but I absolutely love being married! My hubby and I are building a beautiful life together, and I’m so grateful for every lesson learned.  We’ve been so blessed to see and understand some things early on, and I’m here to share the top 3 lessons we’ve learned as newlyweds! Enjoy!

1. Support one another

 It’s become somewhat of a ritual for us to talk and dream together. We talk about our future, our goals, and our aspirations. Then we take it a step further and discuss how to support each other. I’m an aspiring business owner, and as I share the goings-on in my life, my husband is right there to keep me focused, encouraged, and grounded! And I do the same for him!  This is what a partnership looks like. In marriage you have to understand there is no “I”, only “us”! Remember, you two are a team, and in many cases you will only be as good as your partner. So support, uplift, and encourage one another. It’s a win/win!

2. Share responsibilities

 In our home, we learned the importance of sharing responsibilities. We are still working on coming up with a “routine”, but we both do our fair share of stepping up and stepping in when needed.  Trust me it makes life so much easier! If my hubby gets home before I do, he will often take care of dinner. And if I’m cooking and not worried about him being in my way (lol), then he will step in and take care of the dishes. Oh and did I mention I haven’t touch a toilet brush in over a year? Yes ladies, my hubby exclusively takes care of the entire bathroom and I love it. And guess what, I’m more than happy to share that I take care of the laundry (wash/dry/fold). It’s all about balance, but it takes both parties to make it happen. Team work, makes the dream work. Find what works in your household. Be flexible and willing to pick up the slack in the name of love!

 3. Don’t hide your habits/flaws

I learned my lesson here. For the past two years I’ve been waxing my upper-lip. And for my entire married life, I’ve been able to do this without my hubby knowing.  Well, over the past few days I haven’t had a moment to myself to take care of my business.  So the other night, I waited for him to fall asleep, before I snuck into the bathroom.  Everything was going just fine. I was on my last strip, mid-pull,  when I thought I heard my husband walking to the bathroom. In a complete panic, I  quickly ripped off the wax strip and waited for him to bust through the door. I stood there for a good 30 seconds expecting the worst, but he wasn’t there. I finally peeped through the door, and to my surprise this man was still in bed, sound asleep. So there I stood, wax strip in hand…and nearly 1/13th of underlip skin missing.  OUCH!  All because I panicked and ripped it off trying to HIDE what I was doing from my hubby! And to make this all the more real, when I finally told him the truth about the scar under my nose, he was so unbothered.  He even had the nerve to say “You can tell me these things, I love you.”  What in the world? Where did he come from? The lesson here, don’t hide your habits, or the things that make you you! I’m not saying expose it all, bur remember, you two are one. No secrets, no hiding, be real and be you. It’s so freeing, and could save your skin!

Plant the seed!

Water with intimacy and support ❤

Be encouraged!

-Reese