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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Angela Somers 🤗

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 4 of the “Fierce 5” series, and today Angie Somers is here to help the sistahs! OK!!! A word for the married, married with children and my singles… you don’t want to miss this one! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is dripping from the screen! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

I’ve been happily married for 21 years to my wonderful husband Marvin.  Being married for this long had taught me that with Christ, all things are possible.  Early on in our marriage things weren’t like they are now.  If you want something to last you have to be willing to put in the work and forgive.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

 Keep Christ in The Center of Your Marriage

Date Frequently (Spend quality time with each other on purpose)

Love on Each Other (Spend more time Loving vs. Fussing)

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Stop trying to change your husband.  Pray and ask God to help your husband be what He’s called him to be.  Allow God to do the work and you’ll reap the benefits.

Keep other people out of your marriage.  I don’t care who they are.  Unless you are seeking good godly counsel like in Psalm 37:30, don’t tell Mama and them all of your business.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Listen singles ladies…  Stop searching so hard for “Mr. Right”.  Trust me, I’ve been there and it didn’t work.  The scripture says in Proverbs 18:22 – He who finds a wife finds a good thing…

Ask God to help you be the “good thing” He is talking about in the scripture and your future husband will find you.  Trust in God’s timing and stop dating men who treat you like you are an option.  Stop allowing a bunch of mess and confusion.  Either he wants to be with you or he doesn’t.  If he doesn’t, set him free and then God can bring the man He wants for you in to your life. (THIS -Reese). Don’t become bitter before that time. 😉

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

If you are already married and have children, continue to date your husband.  Don’t get so consumed in the children that you neglect each other.  One day the children will grow up, move out (hopefully) and then it’ll be just you and your husband in the home.  Think of creative and new things to do with each other right now.  Yes, life will sometimes get in the way but I guarantee you if you spend quality time with each other purposefully, your marriage will last.

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That Moment When You Realize

flourish

No matter how big the obstacle, or how rough the road may appear… you have everything you need to FLOURISH in this season! Stop letting fear cripple you! Bring that dream to fruition! Go after what you’ve always dreamed of becoming with every fiber in your being!

Flourish and thrive 💜

3 Surefire Ways to Handle the Unsolicited Opinions of Others

 As a newlywed, a lot of people have an opinion about what my husband and I “should/shouldn’t do”, especially with regards to our first married year/holidays together. Nothing malicious at all, just opinions that caused a great deal of pressure. I got caught up at first.  Then it dawned on me; this is our life and we will live it as we please!  Some of you may have experience this same pressure.  You may have certain goals and aspirations in mind, and you’re trying to handle all the uninvited opinions that other have for your life. So I’ve decided to share what I’ve learned to do, and I hope it helps you as well:

1. Hold your peace: Peace of mind is more important than the best of clap-backs!  Some opinions aren’t even worth entertaining,  especially when they come without provocation. It’s one thing to go to a trusted source, and ask them to dissect your life. When that’s the case, then I expect them to let me have it. Dig deep and help me get my life in order.  However, if I didn’t ask and it is not worth a response, I simply don’t entertain it. Especially when I know they don’t have my best interest in mind.

2. Use your words:  If you feel the need to respond, put your words to good use and create a standard response. Here are two of my favorites: “It’s unfortunate that your feelings differ from how I plan to live my life”, and  “No, I don’t plan to do it that way, but I appreciate your concern”.  Feel free to use at will, and proceed to exit stage left.

3. Don’t tell everything you know: This is probably one of the most important lessons I’ve learned! Keep your personal life, marriage,  goals and aspirations under lock and key. Yes, we all need accountability, but take a break from posting and sharing every detail of your life and hustle. Hustle in private, enlist the help of an accountability partner/mentor,  and let the results of your labor do all of the bragging. The less you share, the less access people have to your life.   If people don’t know what you’re up to, then they won’t have an opportunity to  create an opinion.

 

This is your time. This is your year! Make it count!

-Reese

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The One Verse That Changed My Perspective! (Video)

Roman 8:28 NKJV:

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”

Be Encouraged!

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Why Don’t They Like Me?

I would often ask myself this question whenever someone didn’t seem to “click” with me. I mean how can you not “like” me? I’m a ball of sunshine with a touch of honey! *Flips crochet* Lol!

Well I have FINALLY come to the realization that not everyone will be my best friend, or my biggest advocate. Not everyone will “get” me,  and quite frankly, not everyone will smile when I walk their way! No need to waste time putting a label on it.  Sometimes it just is what it is, and that’s OK! No longer will I worry about who doesn’t like me, nor will I worry about trying to make them. I will move forward and live my fabulous life!

You may have just met someone, or may have been trying to connect with a new friend/mentor, and it just hasn’t worked out!  Don’t feed into those distracting thoughts that try to convince you that there is something wrong with you… No! You are just right the way God made you!

Everyone won’t be your biggest fan and that’s OK…

Be kind and  LIVE ON

-Reese

*Quote; Liz Ryan; forbes.com, “Ten Things I Couldn’t Care Less About When I’m Hiring”