When Bae Doesn’t Text (Right) Back

I used to get so upset when my hubby didn’t text me during the day, or if he took hours before responding!  I mean come on.  It’s me, wifey! Then we had a conversation, and he had to remind me of something we discussed during our pre-marital counselling. He reminded me that the only reason he isn’t able to be as attentive to his phone at work, is because he’s working. He’s working for our now, for our future… for me. And to top it all off he began to tell me of how the past few weeks have been very busy and profitable for him (for us). Well, you already know that shut me right up. And I had to apologize for losing perspective. I know my man loves me <3! I was just being spoiled, and had the nerve to get mad at him,  as if he doesn’t do everything in his power to make my life amazing! Forgive me, Father!  I’m not perfect, but I’m now more aware of this during the work day. I’ve even started sending him prayers, or fabulous selfies…lol.

 Ladies take a moment and consider your ways. If you know your husband loves you and his steps are ordered by the Lord,  rethink that angry text with the side-eye. Especially if he is at work, or on assignment. Instead, send a text/voicemail of love and encouragement. Pray over him, and send a word of life. You never know what he’s facing at that very moment, and your words can change his whole course of action!  

Remember,  you and your hubby are one.

When he wins, you both win <3!

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#Happilymarried: 300 Words of Advice from the Newlywed

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Today my hubby and I celebrate 1 year of marriage! Yassss, shout out to us and our love! We did it, only a lifetime to go <3! Over the past year, I’ve posted countless pictures of the two of us to FB and IG, using the #happilymarried tag. I mean, I’m happy and I want to tell the world. But what does it REALLY mean to be #happilymarried?  

The What

In my opinion,  “happily married” is all a matter of choice and perspective. Which means, it will be/look/feel different for each couple. However, If you constantly compare your marriage to that of others, I’m certain that you will find it hard to enjoy what you share with your spouse.  Comparing yourself to others will rob you of your peace, your joy and your happiness! Oh, and be very careful of what you allow the media to feed you!  Listen, at some point you just have to cut all ties to those idealistic triplets; “Shoulda”, “Coulda” and  “Woulda”! They are not your girlfriends, they are life suckers! Believe me, I know!

The How

My hubby and I are learning to focus on the present, and live in the moment! As you build your future together, enjoy the process!  Take the time to listen as you get to know one another (#realeffort). You may not have the biggest house, or the coin to travel the globe, but you have each other! Focus on that! Focus on the love! Focus on the great possibilities of what will be,  and don’t despise those humble beginnings! You need each other. You’ve committed and made a vow to one another, so don’t give up. Fight for, not with, each other! Remember, a house divided against itself will surely fall!

You two are one!

Commit, Cherish, Flourish <3!

-Reese

 

Thou Restraineth* my Lips

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A few nights ago, I asked Keem to pick up some water from the grocery store on his way home from work! Everything was great! We laughed on the phone, and I anxiously waited for him to come home to me <3! When he came through the door, I could tell something was bothering him. I happily greeted him, he kissed my forehead and set the table with the water and our dinner. We sat there in silence, and it was literally causing my pressure to rise. What was the problem? Was it me? What did I do?

I couldn’t take it any longer and as I began to ask him “Baby, what did I do to cause you to be so upset with me”, I could sense the Holy Spirit leading me to be still! In other words, He was letting me know to keep my mouth SHUT! This was a very difficult moment for me (like legit hard), but I managed to obey and I didn’t say a word.

Keem finished his meal, and excused himself from the table.  I made my way to the bathroom to wash my face, and get ready for bed. As the face wash began to lather, Keem began to tell me that they moved everything at the grocery store, and the WATER was moved all the way to the back of the store! He expressed how frustrating it was to be in that store looking all over the place, when he intended to be in and out.  

Can you believe that? Can you believe that his frustration had nothing to do with me?  He wasn’t even mad or upset, he was simply frustrated with a situation for which he need “a moment”.  If I had gone my way, and  asked him “Why are you so upset with me” not only would I have been accusing him of being upset, I would have selfishly made it about me.  The wording of the question, along with my agitated tone (Yes, I was bothered), would have made the whole situation  worse.  

Ladies, if you are married or in a serious relationship, do yourself a favor; take a moment to be silent and pray before you speak (especially during a conflict).  It can literally change the entire tone of your relationship! Before you say what is on your mind, listen to that still voice and see what He is leading you to do. The enemy will do whatever it takes to cause confusion, and division in the lives of God’s people, (he is definitely attacking marriages), so we must be vigilant and heed the voice of the Lord! I know it is not easy! I am LEARNING every single day, and sometimes I get it horribly wrong! But thank God for His faithfulness, and for continuing to help me “restrain my lips”! I encourage you today; be wise, and  allow Him to do the same for you!

-Reese