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Make The Time | #marriedlife

Over the past month, I’ve been sharing more and more about the importance of the day Thursday, with some of my married friends. “What’s so important about this day”, you ask? Well this is my standing “date-day” with my Boo Bear, and it’s off limits.

Keem and I learned early in our marriage just how important it is to “make the time” for each other. During our pre-marital counseling, our marriage mentors made sure that we picked a day and stuck to it! We’re nearly 4 years in, and Thursday is still our day!

Life gets so busy, that we sometimes overlook the things/people we’ve been neglecting. Now of course keem and I see each other every day, but we made a decision to make INTENTIONAL time for each other!

Each Thursday looks different. Sometimes we coordinate workouts, and hang out in the house. Sometimes we go grocery shopping at Wegmans and stop to eat at the hot bar. And other times we plan full out date trips to amusements parks or to dinner and a movie! What we do doesn’t really matter, the key is to spend time together… intentionally! Phones down, work put away… just me and my Boo Bear!

Now, this is not a new topic on the blog, but it’s totally worth repeating!

Take a look at your marriage, and ask yourself, “when was the last time my honey and I actually made plans to hang out”? If you’re finding it hard to remember specifics, a date day is in order! Now I know you may have “life” going on… but what is life if you’re not building with your spouse? And if you have kids, what will you have to stand on once the kids are grown, if you haven’t spent any time together?

Remember, it’s not what you do that’s most important… although it should be fun and enjoyable! It’s who you’re doing it with… and being intentional about that time together!

Make every effort, to make the time!

Reese

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🎥 Video | My “Fierce 5” Reflection; Give Your Husband Your Best

Hey ladies! Happy “Fierce 5”💍 follow up Friday ! Deaconess Michele brought the FIRE… and… per usual, I had to come back to share my thoughts, and reflections. I had to get a little transparent on this one!  So much to say, not enough time to say it all! Enjoy, SHARE and BE ENCOURAGED! 

-Reese

Check out Michele’s Post Here!

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Celeste Forrest (Momma Forrest)

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 3 of the “Fierce 5” series and today Momma Forrest is not holding back! With 42 years under her belt, you already know what it is! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is dripping from the screen! Yaasss! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

Being married for 42 years (FORTY-TWO lol -Reese) has taught me that having a successful marriage is hard work.  You must be deliberate in tending to your relationship by spending quality time and a large quantity of it.  No matter how long you were dating, marriage is full of surprises and how you react to them will determine if you will thrive, survive or take a dive.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

I would say that having Christ as the Center of our marriage was key.  We agreed to the Bible as our standard and looked to it as a foundation upon which to build.  We each had access to the Holy Spirit to help develop a lasting bond.

Being in fellowship with other couples who were committed to the institution of marriage was also helpful.  We met with other young couples monthly and encouraged one another to enjoy the journey.

Being always ready to meet one another’s emotional and sexual needs is critical.     Sexual intimacy strengthens your sense of connection and discovering what pleases him and becoming an expert at it will more than compensate for any time or money invested.

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

A wise woman  builds her house but a foolish woman tears it down with her words.  Always speak to your husband with respect.  Especially in public.   Be the President of his fan club.

Don’t discuss your marriage with your single girlfriends.  And by all means keep your personal business off social media.  This doesn’t mean that you can’t speak to anyone.  But be led to by the LORD in choosing a confidant.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Pray and ask God to show you what you need to see in a perspective mate.  Pay attention to the cues. 

Ask yourself:  **Can I live with this man if he NEVER changes?**(Y’all HEAR THIS!)

Is his WAY of life conducive with mine?  Do we agree on the basics: Jesus, Timeliness, Integrity, Money, Cleanliness, Determine upon which of these things you are willing to compromise and which are non-negotiable.

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Never put your marriage on the table:  When you have disagreements, never negotiate your marriage.  Discuss the issue, not whether your marriage will survive it.

Unless there is physical violence, which we hope there will never be, NEVER leave the house.  Go to the ladies room and absence yourself to give temperatures time to settle.

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When Bae Doesn’t Text (Right) Back

I used to get so upset when my hubby didn’t text me during the day, or if he took hours before responding!  I mean come on.  It’s me, wifey! Then we had a conversation, and he had to remind me of something we discussed during our pre-marital counselling. He reminded me that the only reason he isn’t able to be as attentive to his phone at work, is because he’s working. He’s working for our now, for our future… for me. And to top it all off he began to tell me of how the past few weeks have been very busy and profitable for him (for us). Well, you already know that shut me right up. And I had to apologize for losing perspective. I know my man loves me <3! I was just being spoiled, and had the nerve to get mad at him,  as if he doesn’t do everything in his power to make my life amazing! Forgive me, Father!  I’m not perfect, but I’m now more aware of this during the work day. I’ve even started sending him prayers, or fabulous selfies…lol.

 Ladies take a moment and consider your ways. If you know your husband loves you and his steps are ordered by the Lord,  rethink that angry text with the side-eye. Especially if he is at work, or on assignment. Instead, send a text/voicemail of love and encouragement. Pray over him, and send a word of life. You never know what he’s facing at that very moment, and your words can change his whole course of action!  

Remember,  you and your hubby are one.

When he wins, you both win <3!

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#Happilymarried: 300 Words of Advice from the Newlywed

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Today my hubby and I celebrate 1 year of marriage! Yassss, shout out to us and our love! We did it, only a lifetime to go <3! Over the past year, I’ve posted countless pictures of the two of us to FB and IG, using the #happilymarried tag. I mean, I’m happy and I want to tell the world. But what does it REALLY mean to be #happilymarried?  

The What

In my opinion,  “happily married” is all a matter of choice and perspective. Which means, it will be/look/feel different for each couple. However, If you constantly compare your marriage to that of others, I’m certain that you will find it hard to enjoy what you share with your spouse.  Comparing yourself to others will rob you of your peace, your joy and your happiness! Oh, and be very careful of what you allow the media to feed you!  Listen, at some point you just have to cut all ties to those idealistic triplets; “Shoulda”, “Coulda” and  “Woulda”! They are not your girlfriends, they are life suckers! Believe me, I know!

The How

My hubby and I are learning to focus on the present, and live in the moment! As you build your future together, enjoy the process!  Take the time to listen as you get to know one another (#realeffort). You may not have the biggest house, or the coin to travel the globe, but you have each other! Focus on that! Focus on the love! Focus on the great possibilities of what will be,  and don’t despise those humble beginnings! You need each other. You’ve committed and made a vow to one another, so don’t give up. Fight for, not with, each other! Remember, a house divided against itself will surely fall!

You two are one!

Commit, Cherish, Flourish <3!

-Reese