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Make The Time | #marriedlife

Over the past month, I’ve been sharing more and more about the importance of the day Thursday, with some of my married friends. “What’s so important about this day”, you ask? Well this is my standing “date-day” with my Boo Bear, and it’s off limits.

Keem and I learned early in our marriage just how important it is to “make the time” for each other. During our pre-marital counseling, our marriage mentors made sure that we picked a day and stuck to it! We’re nearly 4 years in, and Thursday is still our day!

Life gets so busy, that we sometimes overlook the things/people we’ve been neglecting. Now of course keem and I see each other every day, but we made a decision to make INTENTIONAL time for each other!

Each Thursday looks different. Sometimes we coordinate workouts, and hang out in the house. Sometimes we go grocery shopping at Wegmans and stop to eat at the hot bar. And other times we plan full out date trips to amusements parks or to dinner and a movie! What we do doesn’t really matter, the key is to spend time together… intentionally! Phones down, work put away… just me and my Boo Bear!

Now, this is not a new topic on the blog, but it’s totally worth repeating!

Take a look at your marriage, and ask yourself, “when was the last time my honey and I actually made plans to hang out”? If you’re finding it hard to remember specifics, a date day is in order! Now I know you may have “life” going on… but what is life if you’re not building with your spouse? And if you have kids, what will you have to stand on once the kids are grown, if you haven’t spent any time together?

Remember, it’s not what you do that’s most important… although it should be fun and enjoyable! It’s who you’re doing it with… and being intentional about that time together!

Make every effort, to make the time!

Reese

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The Way He Looks at Me | The Struggle was Real

There is nothing like having someone say I could tell she was your honey by the way you looked at her all night”!

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That’s what someone said to my hubby this past weekend, while at a wedding celebration. It was like music to my ears! I felt so warm and yummy inside… but can you believe I didn’t always like/appreciate the way he looked at me? Crazy, right? I know, but it’s oh so true! 

A short while ago, whenever I’d catch my hubby looking at me, I’d often respond by asking “what’s wrong? Is it my hair/makeup? What are you looking at?” This list goes on and on, with all the negative things I’d come up with. To my surprise… my hubby wouldn’t take the bait. He’d look at me and say, “I like what I see.

You see, when you struggle with self-esteem,  you often take another’s gaze as an implication of imperfection, rather than admiration.   For me, I kept thinking “can someone really just ‘like’ what they see when they look at me”? The struggle was too real

But there’s this thing called LOVE! And when you begin to discover how to truly love yourself,  you don’t mind when others join in on the celebration! #it’saword

It’s been a long journey to get to this place (so many stories), but I am so thankful to be here. I love the woman I am becoming… and… I, too, like what I see when I look at me! I love myself, and I know just how wonderfully The Master made me! I am beautifully snatched for His glory! ( #snatchedforHisglory … Just wait on it!)

So now, when my hubby looks at me, I can appreciate every moment of his admiration and affection! No negative thoughts; although, he will let me know if I have chip crumbs on my chin! I can now appreciate his gaze, and smile in return! My hubby loves me, and to know that he only has eyes for me is beyond wonderful.

Yes, I’m flawed. But more importantly,

I’m loved and I am his honey ❤

Reese

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🎥 Video | My “Fierce 5” Reflection; Give Your Husband Your Best

Hey ladies! Happy “Fierce 5”💍 follow up Friday ! Deaconess Michele brought the FIRE… and… per usual, I had to come back to share my thoughts, and reflections. I had to get a little transparent on this one!  So much to say, not enough time to say it all! Enjoy, SHARE and BE ENCOURAGED! 

-Reese

Check out Michele’s Post Here!

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“Creamy Peanut Butter”

A lesson on being right and being married!

The other day my hubby and I ventured to the grocery store together. Everything was going well, until we got to the peanut butter aisle. My hubby reached for the “natural” peanut butter, but I insisted that we  get the “creamy” version, since  that’s what we had at the house. He paused for a moment, then proceeded to look at the various labels to figure out what we had in the cupboard. He clearly didn’t believe me.

After a few “exchanges”, and a near exit with NOTHING, he finally gave in and said “I’m almost certain we had natural, but just go ahead and get the creamy peanut butter”. I tossed that tube into the cart so quickly, and dashed off to gather the last few items. I was in my feelings, yet and still I kept it together. 

When we finally got home,  I noticed that my hubby made a very deliberate strut to the cupboard. I rolled my eyes, and started putting the groceries away.  I knew exactly what he was doing! I didn’t pay him any mind, other than what I noticed out of my peripheral. He shuffled through the shelves for a few moments, then slowly closed the cupboard door. (He saw truth. lol!) He stood there for a few seconds, before finally admitting that I was right about the peanut butter.

In that moment, in that VERY REAL moment…

All I could think to say was “I told you so”. I knew I was right. I felt the words welling up within my soul, until I remembered being on the other side. Countless moments of being wrong came to mind, and I knew I needed to humble myself and sprinkle my response with love. (UGHHHH). I finished putting the last few groceries away, turned to the love of my life and said, “No problem babe, you know I’ve been there.  I’m just glad we got the right one”. 

Thank God I passed that test!  

What do you do when your spouse is wrong?  Do you rub it in their face, trying to “make an example” of the situation? OR do you show grace, put yourself in their shoes, and respond in love? Of course the latter is the best option, but let’s be real… it sure isn’t the easiest! Listen,  I don’t always get it right, but let me encourage you (as I encourage myself)! The next time you find yourself in a “creamy peanut butter” situation, and you KNOW you’re right.. respond in love! Nobody is perfect, and the worst thing to do is kick someone when they’ve humbly admitted that they’ve made a mistake. Yes, there will be moments when you need to have a full conversation about certain situations, but don’t give access to the enemy. Proverbs 15:1 says it best, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. God already knew! Choose your response carefully. Show grace and  fight with every bit of your being to keep the peace in your marriage and your household!  You two are one!

Nobody said it would be easy, but believe me, it will always be worth it!