The one thing you must NEVER ignore (#ReachOut)

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Have you ever thought about a friend or family member “randomly” while going about your day-to-day business?  You may  have been brushing your teeth, writing a proposal for a client, or driving home from work, and you just can’t shake the thought of wondering how they are doing.

When this happens, don’t ignore it!

Take the time to #ReachOut to that person… ASAP, and with a sense of urgency.  It may be a phone call, a simple text message, or even a quote of encouragement. Whatever you may feel the need to do, do it! I can’t even begin to count the number of times this has happened to me. When I took a moment to reach out,  the person truly needed it!  (Not to mention all the times my friends and family members reached out to me during my time of need, simply because I was on their minds!)

We never fully know all that a person is going through, especially during their low times. Stress, anxiety, and depression are REAL ISSUES! And often times we can be a source of light by simply checking in just to say, “you were on my mind”.  So today, I ask you all to  a vow and commit to making an effort to reach out when a person comes to mind! You never know, reaching out may be just the thing to change that person’s life!

Keep it stylish and #ReachOut

-Stylreesta

#ForwardthinkingFriday: 3 essential tips for a successful New Year

Happy New Year to all!  I don’t know about you all, but my year has definitely started off with an amazing B.A.N.G!

My wonderful boyfriend proposed to me on NYE (the best surprise ever)! We are so very happily engaged, preparing for our wedding and all of the martial bliss that shall be ours!  I hope yours is off to a fabulous start as well!

While we are all making a mental note of our New Year’s resolutions and goals for 2015, I absolutely must share a few helpful tips that  have helped bring my  goals and dreams to fruition over the past two years.  I hope you find them helpful 🙂

1. Visualize your life and write it down! I know I’ve mentioned this in previous posts, but it is worth repeating!  Many of you have visualized what you want your life to look like in the new year. You see yourself starting you own business, finally losing a few pounds, being a better friend, and possibly changing you morning habits and adopting a timely lifestyle. Some of you see yourself getting a new house, paying off your car, or finally finishing your first book and becoming a published (best-selling) author.  Whatever it is that you have visualized for this new year… WRITE IT DOWN! As a best practice I always buy a monthly/weekly planner with notes pages in the back.  I use these note pages to write down the goals, ideas and desires for the year!  Not only do I write them down, I write them as declarative and DEFINITIVE statements of thanks for what I KNOW I WILL ACCOMPLISH! Here is an example for 2015:

“Thank you, Lord for my  purposeful and organized living habits in 2015. My life is directly in line with my purpose. I am prepared and  on time for my engagements, I complete my assignments before they are requested, and I have embraced a life of excellence, doing away with FEAR, mediocrity, and procrastination!  My day begins and ends with purpose!

Once written, I then jot down flavorful reminders as I plan throughout the year. (check out my postSecrets to Success; Event *Planner*”)!

2. Be about it, don’t (just) talk about it: I am definitely a talker and love to share my dreams and excitement with the world!   I can hype up just about anything,  but where I often struggled was in bringing my ideas to fruition!  I am learning more and more every day how to make practical, purposeful-filled moves, that will help me accomplish my goals.  And once accomplished, I then share my successes (and the journey).

3. Schedule your Check-up: Schedule a check-up for a progress report. Set aside time to see how things are going. If you’ve taken steps forward, acknowledge it! Jot it down chronologically, if you can remember, and CELEBRATE! If you’ve fallen short of a few things, note it and move on. Your check-up should NEVER BE DESTRUCTIVE. Be honest with yourself, pinpoint what was off, and  move forward with a very direct and intentional plan.  Today is a great day to start fresh, as long as there is breath in your lungs it is never too late!

Remember, write it down, and be specific. If you desire to lose weight, how much? Do you want to lose belly fat, hire a personal trainer, or will you eliminate certain foods from your diet?  If you want to own your own business, what type of business? Have you settled on the services you will offer and the clients you will target? Write it down, get moving and get it done!  

Mark my words, this will be your best year yet! 

Keep it stylish and purposeful,

Reese 

joyeux anniversaire à moi

Leopard stilettos, a gazillion balloons, a bangin’ backless dress, my family, my man, my friends… SURPRISE!

These are just a few of the things that I envisioned for my 28th born day!   I wanted to celebrate my “champagne birthday” with a grand all-things-fabulous type of bash!  You know, the type of party people talk about for years to come because it was just that fabulous!  

Then, life happened. :-/

Work got a bit frustrating interesting, my dental problem got worse (my root canal procedure went south)…and within a few days, I was just so over it!  I thought to myself, “If I’m not able to host the ‘bash of the year’, then I don’t want to celebrate at all”.

I went on for weeks with this pathetic mindset, until that phone call of truth with my mommy! (LOVE HER). She helped me to understand that my birthday doesn’t have to be ruined simply because the celebration doesn’t happen on the exact date. I can celebrate WHENEVER and HOWEVER I want!  A pretty obvious truth that I totally missed on my own! 

Suffice it to say, I embraced this truth and decided to host a very last-minute mini girls’ night at my place! I gathered  some of my closest girlfriends, and it turned out to be one of my most fabulous birthday celebrations to date! The company, the conversation, the cocktails… it was absolutely wonderful! And guess what? This is just the beginning 🙂

I am so thankful for my wonderful mommy, my amazing man, and all of those who encouraged me through all the craziness of the past few months!  You helped me to gracefully remove myself from the VIP section of my pity party, and helped me to understand that despite what situations may occur, I can still enjoy my life!  

In the words of Annette Funicello

“Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful”

Happy 28th birthday to me!

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Keep it stylish,

Stylreesta xo

 

Root of the Issue

Yesterday, I had a root canal!

I had a dental crown put in place to fix a hairline fracture…blah, blah, blah! Over the past few weeks, I had been experiencing a great deal of pain, which I assumed was normal, until it became unbearable. It got to the point that my everyday activities suffered, and I felt myself slip into a mini depression!  My life flashed before my eyes.

I called and gave the receptionist a does of my dramatics (most tastefully)! She had no choice, but to bring me in for an emergency visit, during which I was informed that I would need to have an emergency root canal to avoid infection! Unfortunately, I was a part of the 20% of people who suffer from “irreversible inflammation” resulting in the need to have a root canal, and if left untreated could lead to my needing an extraction (losing my tooth completely).  

As the dentist began to work, I had a revelation about life…

Many of us are walking around with unresolved issues in our hearts! like the pain from my tooth, We’ve tricked ourselves into thinking that this disruptive pain is “normal” and simply “a part of life”.   We’ve allowed the destructive roots of  Jealousy, regret, FEAR, loneliness, unforgiveness, and anger to settle in our hearts, not even realizing that if left untreated will lead to greater loss! Lack of focus, missed opportunities, broken relationships… and the list goes on! 

Today, I encourage all of you to schedule your emergency visit, and get to the root of the issues!  Let go of the negativity that’s been hindering your progress! Appreciate what you’ve been given! Remember that everything happens for a reason, and worrying about the past won’t change it! Fear is debilitating, unforgiveness will kill you, and loneliness won’t last always! forgive, let go and move ON! 

Pray! Dig deep! Take a deep breath!

Although difficult at times, it is not impossible! 

Keep it stylish,

Reese

“Here to Inspire”

The other day at work I stopped to chit-chat with one of the ladies who works across the way! She and I  discussed hair, fashion, and other “girly” things! I love talking about that kind of stuff, but the conversation became all too real when she asked about my blog! I was totally caught off guard, in a good way! I’ve mentioned my blog to her once before, but I had no idea that she ever paid that much attention to even remember! It was so refreshing! She went on to tell me that I inspire her!   Again, pleasantly caught off guard! I humbly thanked her for her support and kind words, and as I walked away something clicked! It was almost as if another piece of my life’s purpose had fallen into place, with the words  “Here to Inspire” written on it!  

I am not perfect, nor will I ever be!  I am flawed, fallible, and sometimes have a “spicy” attitude (that’s what my boyfriend tells me, hehe)! However, I now understand that I  must continue to do my best to uphold a standard of excellence with what I say and more importantly with what I do; being genuine and true to myself every step of the way!  

So I ask you,  do you operate with class, and excellence? Or do you cut corners and tear others down to get ahead?  If someone were to see how you operate would they be inspired, or would they look away in shame?  Assess your life. You decide! Remember,  someone is always watching! Why not give them something that energizes and encourages them along their journey?!

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Keep it stylishly inspiring,

-StylReesta xo