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“Creamy Peanut Butter”

A lesson on being right and being married!

The other day my hubby and I ventured to the grocery store together. Everything was going well, until we got to the peanut butter aisle. My hubby reached for the “natural” peanut butter, but I insisted that we  get the “creamy” version, since  that’s what we had at the house. He paused for a moment, then proceeded to look at the various labels to figure out what we had in the cupboard. He clearly didn’t believe me.

After a few “exchanges”, and a near exit with NOTHING, he finally gave in and said “I’m almost certain we had natural, but just go ahead and get the creamy peanut butter”. I tossed that tube into the cart so quickly, and dashed off to gather the last few items. I was in my feelings, yet and still I kept it together. 

When we finally got home,  I noticed that my hubby made a very deliberate strut to the cupboard. I rolled my eyes, and started putting the groceries away.  I knew exactly what he was doing! I didn’t pay him any mind, other than what I noticed out of my peripheral. He shuffled through the shelves for a few moments, then slowly closed the cupboard door. (He saw truth. lol!) He stood there for a few seconds, before finally admitting that I was right about the peanut butter.

In that moment, in that VERY REAL moment…

All I could think to say was “I told you so”. I knew I was right. I felt the words welling up within my soul, until I remembered being on the other side. Countless moments of being wrong came to mind, and I knew I needed to humble myself and sprinkle my response with love. (UGHHHH). I finished putting the last few groceries away, turned to the love of my life and said, “No problem babe, you know I’ve been there.  I’m just glad we got the right one”. 

Thank God I passed that test!  

What do you do when your spouse is wrong?  Do you rub it in their face, trying to “make an example” of the situation? OR do you show grace, put yourself in their shoes, and respond in love? Of course the latter is the best option, but let’s be real… it sure isn’t the easiest! Listen,  I don’t always get it right, but let me encourage you (as I encourage myself)! The next time you find yourself in a “creamy peanut butter” situation, and you KNOW you’re right.. respond in love! Nobody is perfect, and the worst thing to do is kick someone when they’ve humbly admitted that they’ve made a mistake. Yes, there will be moments when you need to have a full conversation about certain situations, but don’t give access to the enemy. Proverbs 15:1 says it best, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. God already knew! Choose your response carefully. Show grace and  fight with every bit of your being to keep the peace in your marriage and your household!  You two are one!

Nobody said it would be easy, but believe me, it will always be worth it!

 

Single Ladies, You Have a Choice

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 I hope you can feel my heart in every word, and at the end you will know just how “worth it” you are <3!

Many times in our relationships we wait for the man to make the decisions that are best for our hearts, even when the relationship is no longer adding any value.  We put ourselves on the back burner, and endure emotional exhaustion all in the name of love (let’s be real).  I know I’ve been there… more than once! Listen, when you’ve invested so much time and energy,  it’s much “easier” to ignore the signs and keep things together. Especially when you are holding onto the possibility of what could change if you stay, or feeding the fear of what may happen if you let go and move on.

Relationships have their ups and downs. We are flawed and so we do make mistakes. However, if you find yourself in an intentionally hurtful (or destructive) relationship that no longer adds value,  it’s important to remember that  you hold the key to turn things around. No, you can’t change a man’s heart (only God can do that), but you can decide what’s best for your life going forward.
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Ladies, YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
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A choice regarding what’s best for your well-being, your walk with God, emotional health, and  peace of mind. Remember, you don’t have to wait for your man to finally make up his mind about what’s best for you, especially when you already know what needs to be done.  You can make that decision for yourself. You cannot change a man’s character, so when he shows you who he is, you have to be strong enough to believe it. God is the ultimate love in your life. And as a woman of God, you have a heavenly Father who wants you to be whole… not broken, bruised and tossed to the side.
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When we as women have a firm understanding of who we are in Christ, and that we are worthy and deserving of that very intentional and certain “I only want you” type of love, we can make the decisions that are best for our hearts.
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I’ve been hurt, abused and used. And once I realized that I was worth so much more than being treated like an option, I decided to move on without turning back. I had no clue that the most wonderful man would be on the other side of that decision, waiting to love all of me and make me his one and only! God is too good!

Every story is different. Just know that drama-free love between two honest and committed individuals is a beautiful blessing, and is absolutely possible.

You don’t have to SETTLE.

You don’t have to be just an OPTION any longer!

You are destined to be someone’s one and only, and  you have every right to decide who’s efforts to entertain.  So don’t believe the lie any longer. You do have a choice, and you are worth it! You, are more than enough ❤

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-Reese