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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Celeste Forrest (Momma Forrest)

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 3 of the “Fierce 5” series and today Momma Forrest is not holding back! With 42 years under her belt, you already know what it is! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is dripping from the screen! Yaasss! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

Being married for 42 years (FORTY-TWO lol -Reese) has taught me that having a successful marriage is hard work.  You must be deliberate in tending to your relationship by spending quality time and a large quantity of it.  No matter how long you were dating, marriage is full of surprises and how you react to them will determine if you will thrive, survive or take a dive.

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

I would say that having Christ as the Center of our marriage was key.  We agreed to the Bible as our standard and looked to it as a foundation upon which to build.  We each had access to the Holy Spirit to help develop a lasting bond.

Being in fellowship with other couples who were committed to the institution of marriage was also helpful.  We met with other young couples monthly and encouraged one another to enjoy the journey.

Being always ready to meet one another’s emotional and sexual needs is critical.     Sexual intimacy strengthens your sense of connection and discovering what pleases him and becoming an expert at it will more than compensate for any time or money invested.

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

A wise woman  builds her house but a foolish woman tears it down with her words.  Always speak to your husband with respect.  Especially in public.   Be the President of his fan club.

Don’t discuss your marriage with your single girlfriends.  And by all means keep your personal business off social media.  This doesn’t mean that you can’t speak to anyone.  But be led to by the LORD in choosing a confidant.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Pray and ask God to show you what you need to see in a perspective mate.  Pay attention to the cues. 

Ask yourself:  **Can I live with this man if he NEVER changes?**(Y’all HEAR THIS!)

Is his WAY of life conducive with mine?  Do we agree on the basics: Jesus, Timeliness, Integrity, Money, Cleanliness, Determine upon which of these things you are willing to compromise and which are non-negotiable.

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Never put your marriage on the table:  When you have disagreements, never negotiate your marriage.  Discuss the issue, not whether your marriage will survive it.

Unless there is physical violence, which we hope there will never be, NEVER leave the house.  Go to the ladies room and absence yourself to give temperatures time to settle.

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Self Check; Stop Cutting Yourself Short

Have you ever taken a shortcut only to have it cause more harm than good?  Maybe you thought you’d be saving time, or saving yourself from having to do more work, and in the end found yourself putting in twice as much time and effort because you didn’t do it right the first time around?

Guilty!

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been taking a SERIOUS look at my life and how I’ve been living. As bubbly and motivated as I am, I am still a work in progress, and there are things that I need to work on doing better. So I had to ask myself, “where in my life have I opted for the ‘shortcut’ versus going through the process”?  And why?

Sometimes, we take the shortcut to avoid the inevitable consequences of our choices. Sometimes, we take the shortcut because we don’t want to do the work, or we just aren’t prepared (#realtalk). Sometimes, it’s simply in an effort to “work smart” and not hard. I totally get it. A shortcut isn’t always bad, but in some instances it can be detrimental to our success.

So take a look at your life on your journey; whether in your career, your business, workout plan, friendships, even in your marriage! Check yourself, boo!  Are you taking shortcuts, cutting corners or giving less than your best? Are you avoiding the discomfort of the growth process? Remember, the process is the key ingredient to your greatness. So today, let’s commit to STOP cutting ourselves short. Stop, delaying your success, and face the process head on! Address the areas in your life that need work,  and start fresh with a mind of excellence.

Trust the process!

 –Reese

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A Lesson on Being Intentional| #Getyourlife

Have you ever heard something that completely shifted your thinking?

That’s been me over the past few weeks.  I’ve been listening to some powerful speeches and podcasts (Thank you Les Brown), and as a result I’ve come to realize that I’ve been pretty passive in certain areas of my life.

I’ve talked a great talk, and have done many amazing things of which I am proud! And if you know me, then you know I celebrate every chance that I get! However, what have I been doing to keep that momentum going? 

I had to do a self evaluation.

Throughout my career, I’ve been the ideal candidate. I’ve been recruited multiple times in person, after unknowingly speaking with hiring managers. My work ethic, coupled with my poise and passion to see others succeed, paved the way for my success. As a natural born leader, my professionalism and out-going/winsome personality, made me the talk of the company. My employees loved me, and my colleagues enjoyed working with me. When an opportunity presented itself in the work place, I was called upon to rise to the occasion. Whether it was to host a training session, or take on a new position with greater responsibility… these opportunities sought me out with a vengeance. Yes, I worked in excellence, but “climbing the ladder” sort of just happened. I didn’t intentionally seek it out. 

This was my norm.

Until my employer, downsized. My position was cut, along with a significant portion of my salary. (Yes, they touched my bag).  I knew it was time to build my own, but  I found myself waiting, passively, for that next opportunity to present itself.  Waiting to speak to, or be seen by, the right person. I was waiting for opportunities, instead of intentionally seeking and creating my own. I was in this place of passively waiting for over 2 years, but today I say “no more”! It’s time to get intentional! (Yaaaaassssss!!)

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not disputing the favor that is on my life. Nor am I discrediting my dedication to working in excellence. However, as I strive to build my own empire (get ready), I am realizing that I need to shift my thinking. Yes, I know I will meet powerful people who will contribute to my success. However, that passive way of just allowing things to happen in my career… in my life… can no long be my norm. I must INTENTIONALLY SEEK and CREATE opportunities with a vengeance. I must INTENTIONALLY speak truth over my life! I must INTENTIONALLY look to learn from those who are moguls in my industry. I must INTENTIONALLY live out EVERY bit of the calling God has for my life! Y’all I could go on and on, but the point is…

my living,

my doing,

my being,

must be INTENTIONAL, every single day!

So be encouraged! Maybe you’re like me. You’ve experienced great success, passively going through life, and you finally realize that won’t get you to the finish line. Perhaps, it’s been the exact opposite. You’ve been in a rut, passively waiting for your life to change, and you’ve been awakened to the calling in your life,  and you know it’s time to step out. No matter your history, you can change your future! It’s time to make that move. It’s time to take that step. It’s time to get INTENTIONAL with your living… and do all that you’ve been called to do!

-Reese

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Grow

img_3102Have you ever paid attention to how things grow?

I recently visited my mother’s house in Philadelphia and I couldn’t help but notice how beautifully the hedges had grown. They literally started as tiny shrubs, and now they stand nearly as tall as me. But you know, they didn’t grow over night. Over the years, my mom diligently trimmed, pruned, watered and manicured  those hedges.  She put in the work and trusted the growth process, as I’m sure she knew what these hedges would one day become.

But what if she hadn’t? What if she expected the hedges to grow just as quickly as her roses bloomed? Perhaps she would have over watered, trimmed prematurely, or even worse… destroyed the hedges before they were even given a chance to grow.  Can you imagine how frustrating and disappointing that journey might have been?

Now I know I’ve been speaking about my mom’s hedges, but take a look at your life. How often do we rush our growth? We sometimes step in and try keep up with the pace of others, instead of trusting God to trim/prune/manicure us to perfection! (Preaching to myself). Instead of appreciating the “roses” in our lives, we too often get caught up comparing ourselves to how quickly they’ve bloomed.  

Oh, but can I tell you… there is peace when you grow at your own pace!

There is truly something magnificent when we trust the growth process. I challenge you today… stop comparing and start celebrating what God has done for others. Trust God’s pace for your life, and allow him to perfect His work in you.  Just imagine, how beautifully you’ll stand as you grow as God designed. 

Say it with me:

“I am unique, my gifts and talents were tailor made just for me and the pace in which I perfect them is not a competition!”

His ways are perfect!

-Reese

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Single Ladies, You Have a Choice

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 I hope you can feel my heart in every word, and at the end you will know just how “worth it” you are <3!

Many times in our relationships we wait for the man to make the decisions that are best for our hearts, even when the relationship is no longer adding any value.  We put ourselves on the back burner, and endure emotional exhaustion all in the name of love (let’s be real).  I know I’ve been there… more than once! Listen, when you’ve invested so much time and energy,  it’s much “easier” to ignore the signs and keep things together. Especially when you are holding onto the possibility of what could change if you stay, or feeding the fear of what may happen if you let go and move on.

Relationships have their ups and downs. We are flawed and so we do make mistakes. However, if you find yourself in an intentionally hurtful (or destructive) relationship that no longer adds value,  it’s important to remember that  you hold the key to turn things around. No, you can’t change a man’s heart (only God can do that), but you can decide what’s best for your life going forward.
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Ladies, YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
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A choice regarding what’s best for your well-being, your walk with God, emotional health, and  peace of mind. Remember, you don’t have to wait for your man to finally make up his mind about what’s best for you, especially when you already know what needs to be done.  You can make that decision for yourself. You cannot change a man’s character, so when he shows you who he is, you have to be strong enough to believe it. God is the ultimate love in your life. And as a woman of God, you have a heavenly Father who wants you to be whole… not broken, bruised and tossed to the side.
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When we as women have a firm understanding of who we are in Christ, and that we are worthy and deserving of that very intentional and certain “I only want you” type of love, we can make the decisions that are best for our hearts.
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I’ve been hurt, abused and used. And once I realized that I was worth so much more than being treated like an option, I decided to move on without turning back. I had no clue that the most wonderful man would be on the other side of that decision, waiting to love all of me and make me his one and only! God is too good!

Every story is different. Just know that drama-free love between two honest and committed individuals is a beautiful blessing, and is absolutely possible.

You don’t have to SETTLE.

You don’t have to be just an OPTION any longer!

You are destined to be someone’s one and only, and  you have every right to decide who’s efforts to entertain.  So don’t believe the lie any longer. You do have a choice, and you are worth it! You, are more than enough ❤

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-Reese