Thou Restraineth* my Lips

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A few nights ago, I asked Keem to pick up some water from the grocery store on his way home from work! Everything was great! We laughed on the phone, and I anxiously waited for him to come home to me <3! When he came through the door, I could tell something was bothering him. I happily greeted him, he kissed my forehead and set the table with the water and our dinner. We sat there in silence, and it was literally causing my pressure to rise. What was the problem? Was it me? What did I do?

I couldn’t take it any longer and as I began to ask him “Baby, what did I do to cause you to be so upset with me”, I could sense the Holy Spirit leading me to be still! In other words, He was letting me know to keep my mouth SHUT! This was a very difficult moment for me (like legit hard), but I managed to obey and I didn’t say a word.

Keem finished his meal, and excused himself from the table.  I made my way to the bathroom to wash my face, and get ready for bed. As the face wash began to lather, Keem began to tell me that they moved everything at the grocery store, and the WATER was moved all the way to the back of the store! He expressed how frustrating it was to be in that store looking all over the place, when he intended to be in and out.  

Can you believe that? Can you believe that his frustration had nothing to do with me?  He wasn’t even mad or upset, he was simply frustrated with a situation for which he need “a moment”.  If I had gone my way, and  asked him “Why are you so upset with me” not only would I have been accusing him of being upset, I would have selfishly made it about me.  The wording of the question, along with my agitated tone (Yes, I was bothered), would have made the whole situation  worse.  

Ladies, if you are married or in a serious relationship, do yourself a favor; take a moment to be silent and pray before you speak (especially during a conflict).  It can literally change the entire tone of your relationship! Before you say what is on your mind, listen to that still voice and see what He is leading you to do. The enemy will do whatever it takes to cause confusion, and division in the lives of God’s people, (he is definitely attacking marriages), so we must be vigilant and heed the voice of the Lord! I know it is not easy! I am LEARNING every single day, and sometimes I get it horribly wrong! But thank God for His faithfulness, and for continuing to help me “restrain my lips”! I encourage you today; be wise, and  allow Him to do the same for you!

-Reese

How I met my Husband (He’s Intentional)

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As I think of how my relationship has flourished over the past few years with my (now) husband, I can’t believe how wonderfully God orchestrated it all!  If you know me, then you probably know the story of “how I met my husband”. If you don’t, then keep reading and enjoy!

It was October 2012. I was driving down 95 South, heading back to my place in Virginia. I just spend a lovely weekend with my family in Philly.  As I passed through Delaware, the light drizzled that Glazed my car, turned into a heavy downpour! My car hit a puddle, and I could feel it losing control! It felt as if the entire world froze in that moment! I flew across 3 lanes, only to have the guard rail bring my car to a crashing halt! My Car was completely totaled… BUT GOD SPARED MY LIFE! I walked away unharmed and whole, and I am forever grateful for His protection! I had no idea that this was the start of a sequence of INTENTIONAL events that would lead me to my husband!

A few days later, I made my way back to Virginia and to the nearest Honda Dealership. As soon as I stepped out of my rental, guess who walked up to assist me?  Arkeem! He was calm, cool, collected! Definitely not your average car sales consultant! I could tell that he wasn’t from Va, which was confirmed during my test drive when he told me he was from Savannah, Ga. Come to find out we both made our way to Virginia to start a new journey in life! 

Although Arkeem and I had a great conversation, it was strictly business. I wanted to buy, he wanted to sell.  Neither one of us was looking for anything further than a car deal; however, we managed to stay in touch. An email was sent here, a double tap on Instagram there… very minor exchanges! It wasn’t until February (February 23rd to be exact) when Arkeem took it to the next level and asked me out to dinner!  

That dinner was the best first date I’ve ever had in my life! Our conversation was so natural and lively; No masks, no games, no pressure! I don’t even remember asking many questions, we pretty much eased into every thing you’d think to discuss on a “first date”. The tone was set for all of our moments together!  It was the start of a beautiful friendship, turned relationship, turned marriage for LIFE!

Sometimes, when we go through tragic experiences in life, we tend to focus on the negative outcome and miss the actually opportunity to let go and let GOD BLOW OUR MINDS!  Think about that… “Let go and let GOD BLOW YOUR MIND”!  For me, a car accident set me up to meet my husband!  What if I spent all of my time crying over the accident that I experienced and the car I lost, instead of focusing on God’s faithfulness and how He truly spared my life! My attitude/outlook may have caused me to delay (or even miss) my blessing!  I can’t even imagine! I am truly thankful that in that season I chose to focus on His goodness, and that He prepared me (mind, body and spirit) to meet my wonderful husband.

I urge you today, no matter what has happened, focus on God’s goodness and watch Him work wonders. He is intentional!

-Reese

*Photo Cred: Douglas  James Studios

9 Signs that You have the BEST Bridesmaids Ever!

1. They stand by your side, hold you up, and get down and dirty to handle your light work…And actually have fun while doing it 🙂Douglas James Studios

2. They notice your tears of joy, smile and remind you of how lovely your wedding will be, and that this is just the beginning of an amazing life with your wonderful husband 🙂 Theresa + Arkeem-0070
3. They. Do. This! 
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4. They keep you calm, cool, collected and remind you of how GORGEOUS you look in your dress! “Don’t hurt ’em, Reese”Theresa + Arkeem-0083
5. They are picture-ready at all times… even when caught off guard <3!Theresa + Arkeem-0167

6. They know when to step in and dry that one tear, before your left eyelash flies off and lands on the minister notes! (too real)Theresa + Arkeem-0144

7. They follow your lead, hold your dress as needed, and DON’T take your bossiness personal (for that one day)Theresa + Arkeem-0229

8. They secretly request #TrapQueen at your reception because they know it brings out your inner ratchet!! :-pTheresa + Arkeem-0389

9. They understand that your wedding  is 100% about you and don’t mind at all!!Theresa + Arkeem-0232

I am so blessed to have had such  wonderful women by my side, who selflessly supported me on my special day! Thank you for the love and sacrifices you all made to be there for me! Love you xxoo 🙂

 

-Stylreesta aka “Mrs. Dennis”

*Photo Cred: All photos captured and edited by  Douglas James Studios