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I cancelled my Massage | Here Are 3 Things I Did Instead #selfcare

Two weeks ago,  I had a massage scheduled all in the name of “self care”. I’m a mom and I always look for opportunities to “TREAT YOSELF” lol (in my Tom and Donna voice for my Parks and Rec fans). Well, the night before I decided to cancel for two reasons. 1, it was on family day and sometimes I just like to chill with my hubby and the baby without having anywhere else to be. And 2, I just didn’t feel like having to pump and hustle about in order to be away from Dream. But I still wanted to enjoy that time I had set aside for myself, so here is what I did instead:

1. I made myself breakfast and enjoyed it IN SILENCE.

I’ve come to enjoy and look forward to a bowl of homemade oatmeal and a cup of my special coffee every morning, but I don’t often get to enjoy it without constantly side-eyeing Dream to make sure she is happy and safe. So this was a special moment. Keem and Dream were still sleeping so I had this little pocket of time just for me! Yaaasss! I left my phone in my bedroom,  and made my way to the kitchen. No baby to keep an eye on, no husband to help out the door… just me, my breakfast and my thoughts/prayers! It was great!

2. I did a full yoga session, UNINTERRUPTED.

Yoga has been so good for this mom body. The stretches, both pre/postnatal, have helped me tremendously. And as much as I love working out, as a new mommy I rarely get to workout without Dream being RIGHT THERE. So this was a true delight. A bonus moment. A baby free, breath focused, energizing yoga session to get my day started! Another win!

3. I folded the laundry,  while listening to one of my fave Les Brown talks, INTENTLY.

For some laundry is a task… but I actually enjoy doing/folding laundry. I know I’m special 😅. Listen, being in my own space (bringing order to that space), with no one else but myself to worry about in that moment, is EVERYTHING. Me and my jolly self, sat in the middle of the floor folding my little life away! I was so content!

One of my closest friends sent this to me after our check-in that morning, and it is totally worth sharing:

“It’s important to recognize the other ways we self-care! There is something to having a listing of things that invoke the same feelings of a massage but touch a different part of ‘self'”

So powerful! Yes a massage and a pedicure are amazing… but doing those things that evoke feelings of accomplishment, restfulness, and peace of mind are also vital ways to empower and care for “self”!

So I just want to encourage you. As you make the time for “self-care”, know that this isn’t a “one size fits all” kind of situation. I think along the way we’ve lost the focus… self care is literally caring for self…mind, body and spirit! And that doesn’t always HAVE to show up in the form of a trip to the salon. It can show up in the form of a nap, a workout or simply basking in the presence of our Good Good Father (AMEN, somebody)!!

So find what works for you and do just that. Look at the feelings and state of mind you wish to elicit, and embrace the practices that will keep you in that space.

Reese

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Week 4 | Fierce 5💍 Marriage Series | Tia Glenn

Fierce 5 Tia Glenn

It’s week 4 of the Fierce 5💍 Marriage Series and this week’s feature has me bouncing in my seat! Yaaaasssss! Tia Glenn, is giving me life with these words of wisdom! Married for 13 years, check out what she has to say about what it takes to build a strong marriage, the importance of plugging into the “Source”, and how to live your “best life” while waiting on God! 


1. How many years have you been married,

and what has being married for xx years taught you?

 

I have been married for almost 13 years (will celebrate in July of this year).  Every year our relationship and love for one another grows deeper and stronger.

By nature, we can be selfish. Many of us want what we want, how we want it, and when we want it. Marriage shows you who you really are on the inside. I was very selfish in the beginning of our marriage and often focused on what I was getting or not getting from the marriage.  As we began to grow as one and I began to release the emotional baggage from past hurts, failures, and relationships, I learned how to truly love and be loved.

Marriage is unconditional, never failing, unwavering love for one another.

A strong marriage takes commitment, patience, sacrifice, dedication, and a passion to please your spouse.

2. You are definitely a “woman of purpose” how have you navigated that space of being a help-mate for your husband, and a woman with a purpose/platform/ministry? What challenges have you had to overcome and how?

As women, we have many roles. We are business owners, leaders, wives, mothers, daughters, friends, serving our husbands, families, and in our communities and churches.  My most cherished role is being a wife and a mother.  My family always remains my number one priority.  I absolutely enjoy supporting my husband in every way and helping him be his best.   As a woman wearing many hats, it is easy to focus on serving others and to forget to take care of ourselves, mentally, physically, and spiritually.  If you constantly pour out into others and never take the time to refuel, you will be emptySo as dynamic and powerful ladies, we must continuously plug into our power source, the Holy Spirit.  We must never become so busy that we don’t take that daily personal and intimate time with God to hear His voice, His guidance and direction for our lives.  When our plans intertwine with His plans, there is complete peace of mind, clarity, and balance.

3. What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife who is struggling with “submission”?
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Ladies, the struggle is over!  The word submission is defined as “to submit” or “to yield oneself to the authority of another”.  To submit simply means to place yourself under the authority of your husband.  Submission is not a sign of weakness…When you have a Godly husband who loves and submits to the Lord, it is easy to submit because you are submitting to his love, protection, guidance, and his leadership.  Submission is not accomplished by force, but it is a choice.  God does not force us to do anything.  He loves us so much, that he gives us the power of choice.  Submission requires humility and prayer.

4. What about the singles who want to be married, and feel like they’ve been waiting FOREVER? What does it truly mean to “wait on God” as a single woman waiting to be found? Is it just a cliche?

Enjoy your singleness.  Every season of our lives is a gift and has something special to offer.  Live, laugh, and love God and yourself while you wait! Live your best life while you wait for the one God has for you.  When you have a personal relationship with God you TRUST and KNOW that the one He brings in your life will be worth the wait, and specifically designed for you.  During your wait, guard your heart and your mind. #watchyourthoughts.  The mind is so powerful!  The Word says, “as a man thinketh, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7). We can literally think things in or out of our lives.  What you believe and think will manifest itself in your life! Don’t you doubt, get discouraged, or give up!

Often times we pray and ask God for our wish list of the “type” of man we want and make plain all the things we “don’t want” in a man.  If your heart’s desire is to be married, God will grant you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4).  Focus on your relationship with God and with yourself. You must first love God and yourself before you can love anyone else.  

5. Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Marriage is not for our individual pleasure, although this is a benefit of the covenant relationship.  God’s desire and design for marriage is for it to be a physical depiction of God’s love for us and to bring Him glory.  When we focus on first pleasing God in every area of our lives and loving others as Christ loves us, then everything in your life will fall into place.  There is no doubt that when your plans align with God plans, this ignites supernatural power in your life and you can and will LIVE your BEST life!

Love,

Tia😘


 

Yasssss to all of the above! Love what you’re reading! Be sure to comment below and let us know your thoughts! We’re going LIVE for another Fierce 5 chat and changing this up a bit! So be sure to connect with me on Facebook so you don’t miss out!

And be sure to connect with me on Instagram, @reese__dennis, for a more wisdom  from the Fierce 5💍 ! Can’t wait to hear from you!

Reese

 

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REPLAY | Fierce 5💍 LIVE CHAT W/ First Lady Tawana Washington

Hey ladies! In case you missed this week’s Fierce 5 Live Chat with First Lady Tawana Washington, the replay is posted below! Get your entire life🔥🔥🔥! Be sure to like, comment, and share! Super excited for next week’s feature! 

 

 

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Saved, Snatched & Wifed Up | Appreciation Rant| Tell Him Sis

A few weeks ago, while my hubby was recovering from a cold… I got a real picture of just how much this man does for me! #frfr

Click below, to hear all about it! Be sure to share with someone who needs it, and be encouraged!

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Make The Time | #marriedlife

Over the past month, I’ve been sharing more and more about the importance of the day Thursday, with some of my married friends. “What’s so important about this day”, you ask? Well this is my standing “date-day” with my Boo Bear, and it’s off limits.

Keem and I learned early in our marriage just how important it is to “make the time” for each other. During our pre-marital counseling, our marriage mentors made sure that we picked a day and stuck to it! We’re nearly 4 years in, and Thursday is still our day!

Life gets so busy, that we sometimes overlook the things/people we’ve been neglecting. Now of course keem and I see each other every day, but we made a decision to make INTENTIONAL time for each other!

Each Thursday looks different. Sometimes we coordinate workouts, and hang out in the house. Sometimes we go grocery shopping at Wegmans and stop to eat at the hot bar. And other times we plan full out date trips to amusements parks or to dinner and a movie! What we do doesn’t really matter, the key is to spend time together… intentionally! Phones down, work put away… just me and my Boo Bear!

Now, this is not a new topic on the blog, but it’s totally worth repeating!

Take a look at your marriage, and ask yourself, “when was the last time my honey and I actually made plans to hang out”? If you’re finding it hard to remember specifics, a date day is in order! Now I know you may have “life” going on… but what is life if you’re not building with your spouse? And if you have kids, what will you have to stand on once the kids are grown, if you haven’t spent any time together?

Remember, it’s not what you do that’s most important… although it should be fun and enjoyable! It’s who you’re doing it with… and being intentional about that time together!

Make every effort, to make the time!

Reese