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Week 4 | Fierce 5💍 Marriage Series | Tia Glenn

Fierce 5 Tia Glenn

It’s week 4 of the Fierce 5💍 Marriage Series and this week’s feature has me bouncing in my seat! Yaaaasssss! Tia Glenn, is giving me life with these words of wisdom! Married for 13 years, check out what she has to say about what it takes to build a strong marriage, the importance of plugging into the “Source”, and how to live your “best life” while waiting on God! 


1. How many years have you been married,

and what has being married for xx years taught you?

 

I have been married for almost 13 years (will celebrate in July of this year).  Every year our relationship and love for one another grows deeper and stronger.

By nature, we can be selfish. Many of us want what we want, how we want it, and when we want it. Marriage shows you who you really are on the inside. I was very selfish in the beginning of our marriage and often focused on what I was getting or not getting from the marriage.  As we began to grow as one and I began to release the emotional baggage from past hurts, failures, and relationships, I learned how to truly love and be loved.

Marriage is unconditional, never failing, unwavering love for one another.

A strong marriage takes commitment, patience, sacrifice, dedication, and a passion to please your spouse.

2. You are definitely a “woman of purpose” how have you navigated that space of being a help-mate for your husband, and a woman with a purpose/platform/ministry? What challenges have you had to overcome and how?

As women, we have many roles. We are business owners, leaders, wives, mothers, daughters, friends, serving our husbands, families, and in our communities and churches.  My most cherished role is being a wife and a mother.  My family always remains my number one priority.  I absolutely enjoy supporting my husband in every way and helping him be his best.   As a woman wearing many hats, it is easy to focus on serving others and to forget to take care of ourselves, mentally, physically, and spiritually.  If you constantly pour out into others and never take the time to refuel, you will be emptySo as dynamic and powerful ladies, we must continuously plug into our power source, the Holy Spirit.  We must never become so busy that we don’t take that daily personal and intimate time with God to hear His voice, His guidance and direction for our lives.  When our plans intertwine with His plans, there is complete peace of mind, clarity, and balance.

3. What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife who is struggling with “submission”?
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Ladies, the struggle is over!  The word submission is defined as “to submit” or “to yield oneself to the authority of another”.  To submit simply means to place yourself under the authority of your husband.  Submission is not a sign of weakness…When you have a Godly husband who loves and submits to the Lord, it is easy to submit because you are submitting to his love, protection, guidance, and his leadership.  Submission is not accomplished by force, but it is a choice.  God does not force us to do anything.  He loves us so much, that he gives us the power of choice.  Submission requires humility and prayer.

4. What about the singles who want to be married, and feel like they’ve been waiting FOREVER? What does it truly mean to “wait on God” as a single woman waiting to be found? Is it just a cliche?

Enjoy your singleness.  Every season of our lives is a gift and has something special to offer.  Live, laugh, and love God and yourself while you wait! Live your best life while you wait for the one God has for you.  When you have a personal relationship with God you TRUST and KNOW that the one He brings in your life will be worth the wait, and specifically designed for you.  During your wait, guard your heart and your mind. #watchyourthoughts.  The mind is so powerful!  The Word says, “as a man thinketh, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7). We can literally think things in or out of our lives.  What you believe and think will manifest itself in your life! Don’t you doubt, get discouraged, or give up!

Often times we pray and ask God for our wish list of the “type” of man we want and make plain all the things we “don’t want” in a man.  If your heart’s desire is to be married, God will grant you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4).  Focus on your relationship with God and with yourself. You must first love God and yourself before you can love anyone else.  

5. Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Marriage is not for our individual pleasure, although this is a benefit of the covenant relationship.  God’s desire and design for marriage is for it to be a physical depiction of God’s love for us and to bring Him glory.  When we focus on first pleasing God in every area of our lives and loving others as Christ loves us, then everything in your life will fall into place.  There is no doubt that when your plans align with God plans, this ignites supernatural power in your life and you can and will LIVE your BEST life!

Love,

Tia😘


 

Yasssss to all of the above! Love what you’re reading! Be sure to comment below and let us know your thoughts! We’re going LIVE for another Fierce 5 chat and changing this up a bit! So be sure to connect with me on Facebook so you don’t miss out!

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Reese

 

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REPLAY | Fierce 5💍 LIVE CHAT W/ First Lady Tawana Washington

Hey ladies! In case you missed this week’s Fierce 5 Live Chat with First Lady Tawana Washington, the replay is posted below! Get your entire life🔥🔥🔥! Be sure to like, comment, and share! Super excited for next week’s feature! 

 

 

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Saved, Snatched & Wifed Up | Appreciation Rant| Tell Him Sis

A few weeks ago, while my hubby was recovering from a cold… I got a real picture of just how much this man does for me! #frfr

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Make The Time | #marriedlife

Over the past month, I’ve been sharing more and more about the importance of the day Thursday, with some of my married friends. “What’s so important about this day”, you ask? Well this is my standing “date-day” with my Boo Bear, and it’s off limits.

Keem and I learned early in our marriage just how important it is to “make the time” for each other. During our pre-marital counseling, our marriage mentors made sure that we picked a day and stuck to it! We’re nearly 4 years in, and Thursday is still our day!

Life gets so busy, that we sometimes overlook the things/people we’ve been neglecting. Now of course keem and I see each other every day, but we made a decision to make INTENTIONAL time for each other!

Each Thursday looks different. Sometimes we coordinate workouts, and hang out in the house. Sometimes we go grocery shopping at Wegmans and stop to eat at the hot bar. And other times we plan full out date trips to amusements parks or to dinner and a movie! What we do doesn’t really matter, the key is to spend time together… intentionally! Phones down, work put away… just me and my Boo Bear!

Now, this is not a new topic on the blog, but it’s totally worth repeating!

Take a look at your marriage, and ask yourself, “when was the last time my honey and I actually made plans to hang out”? If you’re finding it hard to remember specifics, a date day is in order! Now I know you may have “life” going on… but what is life if you’re not building with your spouse? And if you have kids, what will you have to stand on once the kids are grown, if you haven’t spent any time together?

Remember, it’s not what you do that’s most important… although it should be fun and enjoyable! It’s who you’re doing it with… and being intentional about that time together!

Make every effort, to make the time!

Reese

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3 Birthday Lessons for the Wise Wife | “I Wasn’t Ready” #MarriedLife

A few weeks ago, I took some time off to celebrate my hubby’s birthday!  I thought I knew what he wanted, and tried to plan accordingly. #Girlwhy. In the end,  after a really good look in the mirror, I learned 3 valuable lessons that I DID NOT SEE COMING (Do y’all see that picture… #ACCURATE)! Don’t get me wrong, we had a great time together, but with the way God has my life set up… there is always a lesson waiting for me around the corner! 

Lesson 1: Listen

I love to celebrate birthdays. I was raised that way, and it is something that has been a part of my entire life! Breakfast in the morning, and a family dinner of my choice at night to commemorate this special occasion! And if you know me, I usually prefer all the bells and whistles.  Keem on the other hand isn’t as big of a “birthday person” as I am. As a matter of fact he was very clear that for his birthday THIS YEAR he wanted to stay low key. But did I listen? Of course not. I just had to go on with my “grand” plans (insert  face-palm emoji)!

Well, my grand plans fell through, and I put unnecessary pressure on myself by trying to come up with something last minute. I had great intentions, but if I’m being honest, I totally disregarded his birthday request (insert face-palm emoji).  So I had to make thing right, and I apologized for not listening. I even had to apologize for making him feel OBLIGATED to come up with something when I asked, “what do you want to do for your birthday”… when he ALREADY told me.  I’m so thankful for this lesson, and grateful that it didn’t ruin our time together.  Oh, but what stress I could have avoided had I just listened from the jump! 

Ladies, I know sometimes we try to “read between the lines”, but let me encourage you… listen and take what your hubby says as what he means! Most often he is not speaking in coded language.

Lesson 2; Apologize quickly!

When you KNOW you’re wrong, make it right… QUICKLY! Many times our egos get in the way, (yes, women have egos),  and we let things fester. We look for ways to justify our actions, when deep down inside God’s conviction has already set in.  Don’t silence it… move as He directs. Repent, pray for the words to say and humble yourself. We, as women, are NOT always right! I’d love to say, I am… but that would be a WHOLE LIE!  Lord knows I am far from perfect, but I am learning to make things right, quickly.  Why? Because we already know marriages are under attack,  and the last thing you want to do is knowingly give place for confusion and discord to take root.

So ladies… apologize quickly. And to some of you… you need to apologize now!

Lesson 3; Honor the small things.

Over the past year, I’ve become more aware of the fact that Keem ACTUALLY reads those nutritional guides (you know, the information on the food labels/packages). Clearly, this is an important practice for him, but I couldn’t care less.  I’d rip open packages, and tear off labels with no regret. So, Here I was again,  disregarding my husband’s request because I  didn’t care about it (emphasis on “I”). Well God was at work, and it dawned on me that I needed to honor this “small” thing, and make the effort to keep the nutritional facts. If it’s important to him, then it is certainly worth the effort.

So the other week, after I opened a pack of brownies for Keem’s Birthday Sundae,  instead of throwing out the sticker that held the package together, I stuck it onto the container. Why? Because it listed all of the nutritional facts for the brownies! And do you know what this man said to me, when he saw that gently handled wrapper stuck to the package? He came and said “I know you love me, because you kept this sticker”. #winning

Now let me be clear. Of course it’s not about the sticker, or the nutritional facts, but rather the practice of honoring the needs of your spouse. Ladies, We don’t always have to go against the grain just because it’s not important to us. Stop dismissing your husband’s requests as “no big deal”. It’s OK to fully surrender, and put in the effort simply because it’s important to him.

Be Encouraged!

Reese