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Week 3 | Fierce 5💍 Marriage Series | First Lady Tawana Washington

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It’s week 3!

Yaaaasssss! And our feature for the week, First Lady Tawana Washington, is taking it there! Married for 24 years, check out what she has to say about Communication, balance, and what it means to “wait on God”. You can connect with her via email: tawanacoolbeans@gmail.com 


1. How many years have you been married,

and what has being married for xx years taught you?

 

After being married for 24 years, I have learned that communication is a key component in my marriage.  I have come to the realization that communication is not just talking, but the ability to listen to what my spouse is saying.  Many times we say “I hear you,” but the question is are you really “listening to what your spouse is saying.  Listening is something I consciously choose to do.  When I choose to listen to my spouse, I make a conscious effort to concentrate on what my spouse is saying, and to process the information.  Communication is paramount in one’s marriage.  The Word of God says:

 “Let you speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” –Col. 4:6

2. You are definitely a “woman of purpose” how have you navigated that space of being a help-mate for your husband, and a woman with a purpose/platform/ministry? What challenges have you had to overcome and how?

Balance is how I navigate this thing called life.  Not only am I a wife, but also, a child of God with a divine purpose, a mother, a daughter, and a woman with a career.  How does one handle such a great responsibility… it is called Balance.  It is important to learn how to balance all facets of your life.  At any given point we are being called upon to satisfy or fulfill one of our roles.  Balance is what is needed to maintain stability and, truth be toldour sanity.  It is important to align one’s role with one’s responsibility and not allow your self to get lost in process.  Again Balance is the key.

“A false balance is abomination to the Lord: but a just weight is his delight.” Proverbs 11:1

3. What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife who is struggling with “submission”?
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Submission is the act of yielding oneself.  God has given us (wives) the commandment to submit to our own husband.  Ephesians 5:22-23… “Wives, submit yourselves unto you own husband, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” During present day, submission is often misunderstood and sometimes comes off as a negative act. We have to understand that our submission is to God first.  Submission comes from a place of love, caring and trust.  In our obedience and submission unto God, we submit ourselves to our husband.  We submit to our husband because we love him, and are confident that we can trust him with our heart in knowing that he would not bring us harm with his word, actions or his deeds.

The Bible also says in Ephesians 5: 21“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”  

In a marriage, both the husband and the wife are called to submit. Christ is saying that the wife is willing to follow her husband’s leadership, and the husband is to set aside his own interest in order to care for his wife.  I encourage the wife to know that submission is honoring God.   As we submit to God we become more willing to obey his command and submit to our husband.

4. What about the singles who want to be married, and feel like they’ve been waiting FOREVER? What does it truly mean to “wait on God” as a single woman waiting to be found? Is it just a cliche?

To wait on God, for a husband, is to trust God and understand that God knows what’s best for us.  God knows what we need and when we need it. Waiting is the process of preparation.  Preparation is the process of First, knowing who you are as an individual and knowing who you are in Christ.  Secondly, knowing that you have worth and that you are worth waiting for. What God has for you is for you.

5. Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Marriage is a “Good Thang.” Like anything in life, marriage is work.  You have to work at being communicative, understanding and forgiving.  Marriage is ordained and sanctioned by God.  Trust God, trust yourself and trust your spouse.  “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”(Philippians 4:13)


 

Yasssss to all of the above! Love what you’re reading! Be sure to comment below and let us know your thoughts! And be sure to connect with me on Instagram, @reese__dennis, for a more wisdom from the Fierce 5! Can’t wait to hear from you!

Reese

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Fierce 5 Live Chat with Dionne J. Edmonds| Replay 🎥

Hey ladies! In case you missed this week’s Fierce 5 Live Chat with Dionne J. Edmonds, the replay is posted below! Get your entire life! Be sure to like, comment, and share! Super excited for next week’s feature! 

 

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Fierce 5 Live Chat with Shani McKenzie | Replay 🎥

Hey ladies! In case you missed for our first Fierce 5 Live Chat with Shani McKenzie, the replay is posted below! WE had a BALL! Be sure to like, comment, and share! Super excited for this week’s feature! 

 

 

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Fierce 5💍Marriage Series | Shani McKenzie

Today is the day!

I’m so excited about our first feature, Shani McKenzie, and she is spilling the TEA! Married for 15 years, check out what she has to say about being a “husband-pleaser“, submission, and waiting on God to send you the ONE“!  Be sure to connect with her on social media: @Rubi412


1. How many years have you been married,

and what has being married for xx years taught you?

We’ll be married 15 years in June!  I’ve learned to be a husband-pleaser before a people-pleaser. I’m an extroverted extrovert, so I love being around people and social activities, but my husband is not necessarily like that. So I’ve had to learn balance, and God has blessed me with people who’ve provided wise counsel along the way. I can’t go to everything and please everyone. After God, my husband (and family) is my main priority.  

2. You are definitely a “woman of purpose” how have you navigated that space of being a help-mate for your husband, and a woman with a purpose/platform/ministry? What challenges have you had to overcome and how?

Right before we got married, a spiritual mentor of ours told me to remember that God has given me a ministry as well as my husband. He wanted to make sure that I knew it was possible to support and build my husband’s ministry, but also cultivate my individual calling. I’m his biggest cheerleader and he is mine, because we respect our individual ministries and our ministry as a couple. My biggest challenge was realizing that supporting him didn’t mean diminishing me.

3. What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife who is struggling with “submission”? 
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Prov. 14:1 says “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”The purpose of your marriage is for the two to become one, building together…one mission, one vision. It doesn’t happen automatically… “becoming” is always a process. I had to realize that submission wasn’t a curse word, and it also wasn’t contingent on what my husband did or didn’t do. There is strength and influence in coming under his authority and trusting him to lead. It does something in him too. It also is one of the best ways to learn humility. I always tell women that we have the easy job in submission, because our husbands are called to love us like Christ loved the church…now who wouldn’t want to submit to that?! 🙂

4. What about the singles who want to be married, and feel like they’ve been waiting FOREVER? What does it truly mean to “wait on God” as a single woman waiting to be found? Is it just a cliche?

If we have a waiting problem, it’s usually because we have a trusting problem. I was always a plan B girl. I knew God’s plan, but I made sure I had another option just in case God took too long. God showed me that I truly didn’t trust Him, partly because I didn’t have a full revelation of who I was. Sometimes we settle for plan b, c, or d because deep down we don’t know what we bring to the table. Never be afraid to be introspective. While you wait on God’s promises, learn how to be your best you.  If we don’t take time to let God show us who we are, we can easily lose ourselves in another person. 

5. Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

Don’t become your spouse’s roommate, or become strangers in your own house. It’s important to have your girls and for him to have his boys, but at the end of the day you should love being with one another more than anyone else in the world. My husband and I just enjoy each other’s company. We built our friendship before we even dated. We don’t just love each other, we LIKE each other. 

Whether you’re single, engaged, or already married, read the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It taught me how to love my husband according to how he receives love, and it stretched me out of my comfort zone. If quality time makes him feel loved, but you just keep buying him stuff because you’re a gift-giver, his love tank may be low. Always do a love tank check-up ;).


 

Yasssss to all of the above! Love what you’re reading! Be sure to comment below and let us know your thoughts! And be sure to connect with me on Instagram, @reese__dennis, for a live follow up discussion! Can’t wait to hear from you!

Reese

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The Fierce 5 Marriage Series is Back!

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✨5 Women✨5 Questions✨5 Different perspectives✨

 Ladies, The Fierce 5 Marriage Series is back! And y’all already know I’m HYPED! Starting MAY 1st, leading up to my wedding anniversary (May 30th… go #teamDennis), we will feature a member of the “Fierce 5” 2019. With another stellar line up, this year we switched things up a bit. Not only do we have a different set of questions, we are also going to provide an opportunity for you to have your questions answered LIVE! Yes, Live!  So be sure to connect with me on IG @reese__dennis! It’s going to be LIT!

As per usual, we have something for everyone!

So if you’re married, engaged or single this series is JUST FOR YOU!

Whether this advice is hitting you for the first time, or coming as a timely reminder, chime in and comment!!

See you ladies tomorrow!

Reese