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🎥 Video| The One Cooking Lesson that Changed my Perspective |#marriedlife

Hey ladies! I’m back with another quick video🎥! Yaaaassss!!! I can’t help but keep it real! Check it out! I’m sharing a personal truth (#pleasedontjudgeme)… and talking about a very important, nearly life changing, cooking lesson from this past weekend! Enjoy and Be Encouraged!💕🤗💕

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Michele Turner 🔥🔥🔥

Happy Marriage Monday, ladies! It’s week 5 of the “Fierce 5” series, and today Michele Turner is sharing, UNFILTERED! We’re going out with a BANG!  If you know Deaconess Michele, then you know you aren’t getting anything other than the truth! Yaaaassss!! Y’all I’m HYPED over here! The wisdom is screaming for her children to listen!!! So whether you’re hearing this for the first time, or it’s coming as a timely reminder, glean and Be encouraged! -Reese

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 How many years have you been married, and what has being married taught you?

November will be 31 years.  That marriage is a job you never get time off, sick leave or a vacation.   Enjoy the wedding day because every day after that is work.  What you put in your marriage is what you will get out of it.  Love covers a multitude of sin! After 10yrs of me committing adultery and this man still loves me as Christ love the church… I drop the mic😙

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

Love, respect and just being who God created me to be.  Never lose yourself for a man.  Be honest don’t lie to yourself or that man everything you do in the dark comes to the light remember that.  Make sure you’re IN love with him and you don’t just love him like you love your family and best friend.  When you’re IN love you can survive any storm.

What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Have lots of sex. This releases stress, unless your husband is crazy.   Stop trying to live as if you’re still single, hanging out ALL the time with your old single friends.  If you don’t have  kids make sure your husband is uno #1. He should not have to be jealous for your time.  You’re on the phone all day but can’t have a decent conversation other than “how was your day”… (Red flag). Your husband pays more attention than you think.

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

Like and love who you are first you can’t give away what you don’t have.  Know “why” you want to be married because with God age ain’t nothing but a number.  Let him find you PLEASE!!!  Learn to be okay if God says marriage is not for you.

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share?

All the originals are taken, don’t be a copy cat.  Stop looking at the grass on the other side, it needs to be worked on too.  Seek God in all you do, don’t let Him be your last resource.  When HE speaks, listen. I drop the mic😙

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Marriage Mondays with “The Fierce 5”; Gail James

Hey ladies! It’s Monday, so you know what that means? Marriage Mondays withThe Fierce 5″! These are the 5 women who, over the past few years, have poured into my life as a young women and as a wife. I’ve learned so much from each of them, and thankfully have avoided many mistakes due to the wisdom they’ve shared with me. So you know I had to share the wealth! Yaaaasss!! Today, we’ll hear from Gail James. This post hit home for me this week, and I’m so grateful!  Whether this advice is hitting you for the first time, or coming as a timely reminder, be sure to chime in and let us know! Be encouraged!Reese

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How many years have you been married? What has being married taught you?   

I have been married for 21 years.  May 11th will make it 22 years. I have learned a lot and have grown since the beginning.  I believe God put my husband and I together. Because of this, I am committed to making our marriage work.  In the beginning, I saw faults in my husband and wished he would change.  I looked at him but not at myself.  But as I prayed for our relationship, God had me focus not on him, but on myself and how I could change for the better As I prayed for God to change things in me, my husband would change.  I prayed for things such as make me a better wife, a better lover, a better listener, make me more sensitive to his needs, his moods and when to discuss things with him.  I used to want to discuss things with him as soon as he got home from work.  But, he had to “catch himself” as he called it, which meant decompressing from the stress of the work day.  As I learned to give him that time when he arrived home, ½ hour later he was fine.  In the beginning, my husband had a hard time saying, “I’m sorry”.  I would say it first to keep the peace, even if I felt I wasn’t wrong.  Again, as I prayed, he began to say it first, and even elaborate why he was wrong.  Part of the growth is really learning your mate and what makes him the person he is. 

Another thing we do now is not wait for special holidays or occasions to give gifts or cards.  We give them all throughout the year, just to say “I love you”.  We also tease each other during the day when we are home, share love taps, etc. to keep the affection going all day.  It all works to build a great marriage.     

What are 3 key ingredients that have helped you build a healthy marriage?

God at the center of our relationship.  Praying daily for our relationship, for my husband, his challenges, and praying  he allows God to direct him in all things, especially since he is the head of our household. 

Love, commitment, fun and time together.

Forgiveness and patience.

 What word of advice/wisdom do you have for the young wife?

Marriage takes work every day.  Appreciate him for his gifts and talents.  Be patience, quick to forgive, be honest, loving and don’t sweat the small stuff.  So he doesn’t put the socks in the hamper…  don’t lose sleep over it.  Just pick them up and put them in the hamper.  You would miss them if he were not around.  And spend quality time together, quiet time, prayer time, watching a movie, traveling, going out, and of course “rocking it”. (Oh, Yasss -Reese, lol)

What about the singles? What word of advice can you share to help the single women, who desires to be married?

When I was single, a good friend gave me this advice.  Enjoy life being single, go places, do things.  That is how you meet people.  And, when it is your time, you and your mate’s paths will cross. 

Anything else/advice/wisdom you feel led to share? 

“He is your King and you are his Queen.  Let him know it every day”. 

Marriage is a serious commitment. The two become one flesh and that is real.  No joke.  Stay faithful and committed to each other and know if God put you together, no man can break you apart.  You have to be willing to grow and to change for the better, as your mate will be doing the same.  And be careful who you share info with about your marriage.  You should share with a select few who are confidential and married. 

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Self Check; Stop Cutting Yourself Short

Have you ever taken a shortcut only to have it cause more harm than good?  Maybe you thought you’d be saving time, or saving yourself from having to do more work, and in the end found yourself putting in twice as much time and effort because you didn’t do it right the first time around?

Guilty!

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been taking a SERIOUS look at my life and how I’ve been living. As bubbly and motivated as I am, I am still a work in progress, and there are things that I need to work on doing better. So I had to ask myself, “where in my life have I opted for the ‘shortcut’ versus going through the process”?  And why?

Sometimes, we take the shortcut to avoid the inevitable consequences of our choices. Sometimes, we take the shortcut because we don’t want to do the work, or we just aren’t prepared (#realtalk). Sometimes, it’s simply in an effort to “work smart” and not hard. I totally get it. A shortcut isn’t always bad, but in some instances it can be detrimental to our success.

So take a look at your life on your journey; whether in your career, your business, workout plan, friendships, even in your marriage! Check yourself, boo!  Are you taking shortcuts, cutting corners or giving less than your best? Are you avoiding the discomfort of the growth process? Remember, the process is the key ingredient to your greatness. So today, let’s commit to STOP cutting ourselves short. Stop, delaying your success, and face the process head on! Address the areas in your life that need work,  and start fresh with a mind of excellence.

Trust the process!

 –Reese

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