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Self Check; Stop Cutting Yourself Short

Have you ever taken a shortcut only to have it cause more harm than good?  Maybe you thought you’d be saving time, or saving yourself from having to do more work, and in the end found yourself putting in twice as much time and effort because you didn’t do it right the first time around?

Guilty!

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been taking a SERIOUS look at my life and how I’ve been living. As bubbly and motivated as I am, I am still a work in progress, and there are things that I need to work on doing better. So I had to ask myself, “where in my life have I opted for the ‘shortcut’ versus going through the process”?  And why?

Sometimes, we take the shortcut to avoid the inevitable consequences of our choices. Sometimes, we take the shortcut because we don’t want to do the work, or we just aren’t prepared (#realtalk). Sometimes, it’s simply in an effort to “work smart” and not hard. I totally get it. A shortcut isn’t always bad, but in some instances it can be detrimental to our success.

So take a look at your life on your journey; whether in your career, your business, workout plan, friendships, even in your marriage! Check yourself, boo!  Are you taking shortcuts, cutting corners or giving less than your best? Are you avoiding the discomfort of the growth process? Remember, the process is the key ingredient to your greatness. So today, let’s commit to STOP cutting ourselves short. Stop, delaying your success, and face the process head on! Address the areas in your life that need work,  and start fresh with a mind of excellence.

Trust the process!

 –Reese

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A Lesson on Being Intentional| #Getyourlife

Have you ever heard something that completely shifted your thinking?

That’s been me over the past few weeks.  I’ve been listening to some powerful speeches and podcasts (Thank you Les Brown), and as a result I’ve come to realize that I’ve been pretty passive in certain areas of my life.

I’ve talked a great talk, and have done many amazing things of which I am proud! And if you know me, then you know I celebrate every chance that I get! However, what have I been doing to keep that momentum going? 

I had to do a self evaluation.

Throughout my career, I’ve been the ideal candidate. I’ve been recruited multiple times in person, after unknowingly speaking with hiring managers. My work ethic, coupled with my poise and passion to see others succeed, paved the way for my success. As a natural born leader, my professionalism and out-going/winsome personality, made me the talk of the company. My employees loved me, and my colleagues enjoyed working with me. When an opportunity presented itself in the work place, I was called upon to rise to the occasion. Whether it was to host a training session, or take on a new position with greater responsibility… these opportunities sought me out with a vengeance. Yes, I worked in excellence, but “climbing the ladder” sort of just happened. I didn’t intentionally seek it out. 

This was my norm.

Until my employer, downsized. My position was cut, along with a significant portion of my salary. (Yes, they touched my bag).  I knew it was time to build my own, but  I found myself waiting, passively, for that next opportunity to present itself.  Waiting to speak to, or be seen by, the right person. I was waiting for opportunities, instead of intentionally seeking and creating my own. I was in this place of passively waiting for over 2 years, but today I say “no more”! It’s time to get intentional! (Yaaaaassssss!!)

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not disputing the favor that is on my life. Nor am I discrediting my dedication to working in excellence. However, as I strive to build my own empire (get ready), I am realizing that I need to shift my thinking. Yes, I know I will meet powerful people who will contribute to my success. However, that passive way of just allowing things to happen in my career… in my life… can no long be my norm. I must INTENTIONALLY SEEK and CREATE opportunities with a vengeance. I must INTENTIONALLY speak truth over my life! I must INTENTIONALLY look to learn from those who are moguls in my industry. I must INTENTIONALLY live out EVERY bit of the calling God has for my life! Y’all I could go on and on, but the point is…

my living,

my doing,

my being,

must be INTENTIONAL, every single day!

So be encouraged! Maybe you’re like me. You’ve experienced great success, passively going through life, and you finally realize that won’t get you to the finish line. Perhaps, it’s been the exact opposite. You’ve been in a rut, passively waiting for your life to change, and you’ve been awakened to the calling in your life,  and you know it’s time to step out. No matter your history, you can change your future! It’s time to make that move. It’s time to take that step. It’s time to get INTENTIONAL with your living… and do all that you’ve been called to do!

-Reese

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Single Ladies, You Have a Choice

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 I hope you can feel my heart in every word, and at the end you will know just how “worth it” you are <3!

Many times in our relationships we wait for the man to make the decisions that are best for our hearts, even when the relationship is no longer adding any value.  We put ourselves on the back burner, and endure emotional exhaustion all in the name of love (let’s be real).  I know I’ve been there… more than once! Listen, when you’ve invested so much time and energy,  it’s much “easier” to ignore the signs and keep things together. Especially when you are holding onto the possibility of what could change if you stay, or feeding the fear of what may happen if you let go and move on.

Relationships have their ups and downs. We are flawed and so we do make mistakes. However, if you find yourself in an intentionally hurtful (or destructive) relationship that no longer adds value,  it’s important to remember that  you hold the key to turn things around. No, you can’t change a man’s heart (only God can do that), but you can decide what’s best for your life going forward.
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Ladies, YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
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A choice regarding what’s best for your well-being, your walk with God, emotional health, and  peace of mind. Remember, you don’t have to wait for your man to finally make up his mind about what’s best for you, especially when you already know what needs to be done.  You can make that decision for yourself. You cannot change a man’s character, so when he shows you who he is, you have to be strong enough to believe it. God is the ultimate love in your life. And as a woman of God, you have a heavenly Father who wants you to be whole… not broken, bruised and tossed to the side.
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When we as women have a firm understanding of who we are in Christ, and that we are worthy and deserving of that very intentional and certain “I only want you” type of love, we can make the decisions that are best for our hearts.
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I’ve been hurt, abused and used. And once I realized that I was worth so much more than being treated like an option, I decided to move on without turning back. I had no clue that the most wonderful man would be on the other side of that decision, waiting to love all of me and make me his one and only! God is too good!

Every story is different. Just know that drama-free love between two honest and committed individuals is a beautiful blessing, and is absolutely possible.

You don’t have to SETTLE.

You don’t have to be just an OPTION any longer!

You are destined to be someone’s one and only, and  you have every right to decide who’s efforts to entertain.  So don’t believe the lie any longer. You do have a choice, and you are worth it! You, are more than enough ❤

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-Reese

3 Simple Steps to Order (Organize Your Life)

Have you ever found your life to be out of order? Life is good, but you feel like you’re in a constant game of catch up, trying to clean and organize! Well that is exactly how I felt for the first few months of 2016. Yes, months! The struggle was real, until I took a real look in the mirror and asked myself, “What are you going to do about it”.

So what did I do?

Well, I put these 3 simple steps to work in my life, and have had great success! So you know and I am here to share the wealth with you! Let’s win together! 

1. Get Rid of Waste: Toss/trash/shred all of the things that no longer serve a purpose in your life!  Those “things”  may be old papers, old clothes,  boxes…etc. For me, I had to bring myself to throw away old makeup containers.   (Judge me not!) I had to literally go through my entire makeup vanity, and decide what needed to go.  And then I had to actually complete the process by throwing it away (that’s key)!  I couldn’t believe the junk I was holding on to. Like seriously, did I need to keep that empty tube of ruby red lipstick from 3 years ago? A whole mess. For you it may be sorting through that pile of mail, organizing your accessories, or cleaning out your closet. For others it may be setting a cleaning schedule for your home, so that the cleaning/organizing is done on certain days.  Whatever it is, set a date with yourself, and get it done! Put on some great music, and get rid of the unnecessary things are cluttering your fabulous life! 

2. Everything in it’s Place: Once you’ve taken inventory, and trashed the clutter, assign a “place” for your belongings. This will help you keep your place organized and peaceful.  Listen, after a long day of work I’m guilty of dropping a trail of clothes around the apartment. However, I had to re-train my mind to put things back in their places. Dirty clothes in the laundry bin, coat back on the hanger IN the closet, makeup brushes in their case, and keys on the key ring. This will take a bit of time and effort at first, but the payoff will be well worth it! 

3. Organize in Doses: Make a list of what needs to be done, and tackle one room/project at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself trying to do it all in one sitting. God forbid, that you start 5 projects and don’t finish any of them. That is not your portion! Think it through, and give yourself the time to do what’s needed. The ultimate goal is to life a life of order, and that starts with strategic changes that will eventually turn into great habits! So take it one step at a time! 

Say it with me,

“I will live a lifestyle of order”

-Reese