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I cancelled my Massage | Here Are 3 Things I Did Instead #selfcare

Two weeks ago,  I had a massage scheduled all in the name of “self care”. I’m a mom and I always look for opportunities to “TREAT YOSELF” lol (in my Tom and Donna voice for my Parks and Rec fans). Well, the night before I decided to cancel for two reasons. 1, it was on family day and sometimes I just like to chill with my hubby and the baby without having anywhere else to be. And 2, I just didn’t feel like having to pump and hustle about in order to be away from Dream. But I still wanted to enjoy that time I had set aside for myself, so here is what I did instead:

1. I made myself breakfast and enjoyed it IN SILENCE.

I’ve come to enjoy and look forward to a bowl of homemade oatmeal and a cup of my special coffee every morning, but I don’t often get to enjoy it without constantly side-eyeing Dream to make sure she is happy and safe. So this was a special moment. Keem and Dream were still sleeping so I had this little pocket of time just for me! Yaaasss! I left my phone in my bedroom,  and made my way to the kitchen. No baby to keep an eye on, no husband to help out the door… just me, my breakfast and my thoughts/prayers! It was great!

2. I did a full yoga session, UNINTERRUPTED.

Yoga has been so good for this mom body. The stretches, both pre/postnatal, have helped me tremendously. And as much as I love working out, as a new mommy I rarely get to workout without Dream being RIGHT THERE. So this was a true delight. A bonus moment. A baby free, breath focused, energizing yoga session to get my day started! Another win!

3. I folded the laundry,  while listening to one of my fave Les Brown talks, INTENTLY.

For some laundry is a task… but I actually enjoy doing/folding laundry. I know I’m special 😅. Listen, being in my own space (bringing order to that space), with no one else but myself to worry about in that moment, is EVERYTHING. Me and my jolly self, sat in the middle of the floor folding my little life away! I was so content!

One of my closest friends sent this to me after our check-in that morning, and it is totally worth sharing:

“It’s important to recognize the other ways we self-care! There is something to having a listing of things that invoke the same feelings of a massage but touch a different part of ‘self'”

So powerful! Yes a massage and a pedicure are amazing… but doing those things that evoke feelings of accomplishment, restfulness, and peace of mind are also vital ways to empower and care for “self”!

So I just want to encourage you. As you make the time for “self-care”, know that this isn’t a “one size fits all” kind of situation. I think along the way we’ve lost the focus… self care is literally caring for self…mind, body and spirit! And that doesn’t always HAVE to show up in the form of a trip to the salon. It can show up in the form of a nap, a workout or simply basking in the presence of our Good Good Father (AMEN, somebody)!!

So find what works for you and do just that. Look at the feelings and state of mind you wish to elicit, and embrace the practices that will keep you in that space.

Reese

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VIDEO | Why I Changed my Eating Lifestyle + 3 Tips to Help Embrace Transition in Life! | #momlife

I cannot believe I’ve been a mommy to this little yummy nugget for a WHOLE 7 months!!! 7… I feel like I was tell Keem I was pregnant! I can still see that look he gave me… a mixture of excitement and “okay, this is REALLY happening”! Time is flying, and I am not even mad about it 😂! So thankful for Dream and how God is showing himself faithful as she just blossoming! God’s special gift to us, a true masterpiece, DESTINED FOR GREATNESS! I mean, LOOK AT HER!!

This journey has not been easy! Not only have I had to adjust to being a mommy, who’s village is POWERFUL, yet not so close (come back👀👀👀) lol… but I’ve had to make some serious changes to my diet! Check out my video on WHY I HAD TO CHANGE, along with 3 helpful tips if you find yourself in the midst of Transition! As always… I LOOOOOOVE to hear from you! So be sure to LIKE, Comment, SHARE with someone in need… and subscribe🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

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My 33rd Birthday Celebration | Pictures + 5 Lessons Learned at 32!

My birthday this year was everything and then some! I gathered some of my faves for a very intimate celebration, and WE HAD A BALL… ALL WEEKEND LONG!!! Here are a few of the highlights ALONG with 5 lessons learned at 32!

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1. Do what you want!

I’ve been wanting to host an event like this for a long while, but the timing was never right, or at least that’s what I used to tell myself. I was so distracted by all the excuses for why I couldn’t, so I didn’t. When I lived in an apartment, “it was too small”. When we bought the house, “it wasn’t furnished enough”, and now this year it almost didn’t happen because “I’m a mom”. Listen, if you look for an excuse you will ALWAYS find one. So I decided to stop putting what I want on hold, And planned the party I wanted! My Champagne Soiree! I bought the decorations that made me feel special, wore the dress that made me feel absolutely BOMB, and enjoyed celebrating ME!

Stop waiting for the perfect moment, and do what you want!

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2. Don’t lose yourself

As a new mom this has been so important for me. Yes, I am “Dream’s mom” but I’m Reese first.  And this baby-free celebration was just what momma needed! I have to be fully and wholly me, in order to give my all to being a mommy. This is why I still care for and do things for myself to make sure I feel great. Working out, getting dressed and beautified as often as I can, and making the “me time” has strengthen my awareness of who I am. But this is not just important for moms; it’s a reminder for anyone who finds themselves slowly but surely getting lost in whatever roles they play.

So whether you’re a mom, sister, care taker, wife, business women, entrepreneur… stay connected and aware of who you are, and what makes you happy and whole!

 

3. Some things aren’t as difficult as you may think, especially when you know your “why”.

Brunch is my absolute favorite meal, and I usually brunch every year for my birthday. This year I knew going out to brunch wouldn’t be the most enjoyable option, due to my dietary restrictions (a whole series on that soon), so I decided to host in my home, and cook/bake the food and treats that I could enjoy!!! (YES, I cooked and baked everything).  Listen, this soy free/dairy free/gluten free/egg free/wheat free life is NOT easy, but it’s also not as difficult as I thought it would be (especially with my “why” in mind). There are so many amazing recipes, and being a #SAHM has given me the opportunity to explore. Now let’s not get it twisted,  there were still challenges preparing for a small gathering with a 6-month old (shout out my own personal Dora Milaje lol who held it down with Dream while I was cooking/cleaning etc), but overall, I did it and I’m so proud of how things turned out!

Don’t knock it until you try it!

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4. Surround yourself with the people you love.

Embrace those who add to your life, not take away.

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5. Be flexible, be fluid, nothing is etched in stone. Sometimes, things won’t go as planned… and THAT IS OKAY! Enjoy life anyway!

My toes weren’t done, I didn’t get to set up my cupcakes in time, oh and I worked up until the first guest arrived, but it all worked out. Of course I could have sulked the whole evening, sharing the woes of how I was preparing, but I chose to go with the flow and ENJOY MYSELF!! Listen, 32 (and being a mommy) has taught me that I need to be FLEXIBLE. I can’t do it all, I can no longer show up the same way, and I am so thankful for the loved ones who understand and support me!

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This vegan, dairy free sweet potato cupcake w/ vegan buttercream frosting was an absolutely hit!

As I go into year 33, I’m keeping my stress level down, using my “no”, prioritizing me and the things/People important to me… and I will live my BEST Abundantly blesses life!! Yaaaassss!!!

 

Reese

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#Snatched For His Glory | Pre-Order ends Today

ICYMI : I released and re-released the #Snatched FOR HIS GLORY tees on my online store,  Fierce & Refined Boutique! Yaaaaaassss🔥🔥🔥 Today is the FINAL DAY to pre-order, and I don’t want you to miss out! Also enjoy free shipping site wide with code “#snatched”.

Both styles of the #Snatched tees are ONLY AVAILABLE DURING pre-order!

So don’t delay + check out a quick video of how I style it!🔥🔥🔥

 

**CLICK HERE TO SHOP NOW**

 

Reese

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What I Ordered Vs. What I Got| How to Master Online Shopping

If you’re connected with me on social media, then you’ve seen my most recent online purchase! That Green faux leather peplum number!!! Hotttt!!!

But can I keep it real??? 

The item WAS NOT what I expected! Matte vs. shinny, the color is totally different… I mean, you be the judge!!

Thankfully the size and quality were great, so I was able to WERK IT, and OWN MY SLAY… OKKKURRRT! But, let’s be real this is the exception as oppose to the rule. Right? Sometimes when things don’t line up with our expectations.. we’re left feeling pretty salty!

Have you been here before? Trying to shop online only to have the garment/lingerie/shoes delivered, and it’s NOTHING like you expected. Girl, and what’s even worse… maybe you “got yourself got”, and you aren’t able to make a RETURN! LAWD!!!

Listen, I know about all of the frustrations of online shopping. I’ve got stories! I’ve been around the retail/eCommerce world for over 10 years, and I’ve successfully overcome those pesky online challenges. So much so that nearly 80% of what I own and love was purchased online! Yes… over 80%!! So I’m here to help you… just in time for BLACK FRIDAY/CYBER MONDAY! Let’s work together!

In this course I’ll be sharing 5 keys to transform your online shopping experience! Complete with a WORKBOOK and Live Walk through of how I navigate online showrooms… you’ll leave this course feeling like an online shopping pro. YAAAASSSS!

We’ll cover:

-Navigating the online shopping world

-How to search effectively and with purpose

-How to use filters/sorting tools to find EXACTLY what you’re looking for

-How to checkout with confidence, using reviews, ratings and return policies to your advantage!

-Live walk-through of how to put it all together just in time for Black Friday/Cyber Monday

Whether shopping for clothing, lingerie, accessories, shoes, makeup…etc… after this course you’ll never struggle with online shopping again!! 

How to Master online Shopping Course

Special Pre-Black Friday Deal

$29.00 $87.00

CLICK HERE TO GET ACCESS!

TRUST ME, YOU WILL NEVER STRUGGLE WITH ONLINE SHOPPING AGAIN!

Reese