My birthday this year was everything and then some! I gathered some of my faves for a very intimate celebration, and WE HAD A BALL… ALL WEEKEND LONG!!! Here are a few of the highlights ALONG with 5 lessons learned at 32!
1. Do what you want!
I’ve been wanting to host an event like this for a long while, but the timing was never right, or at least that’s what I used to tell myself. I was so distracted by all the excuses for why I couldn’t, so I didn’t. When I lived in an apartment, “it was too small”. When we bought the house, “it wasn’t furnished enough”, and now this year it almost didn’t happen because “I’m a mom”. Listen, if you look for an excuse you will ALWAYS find one. So I decided to stop putting what I want on hold, And planned the party I wanted! My Champagne Soiree! I bought the decorations that made me feel special, wore the dress that made me feel absolutely BOMB, and enjoyed celebrating ME!
Stop waiting for the perfect moment, and do what you want!
2. Don’t lose yourself
As a new mom this has been so important for me. Yes, I am “Dream’s mom” but I’m Reese first. And this baby-free celebration was just what momma needed! I have to be fully and wholly me, in order to give my all to being a mommy. This is why I still care for and do things for myself to make sure I feel great. Working out, getting dressed and beautified as often as I can, and making the “me time” has strengthen my awareness of who I am. But this is not just important for moms; it’s a reminder for anyone who finds themselves slowly but surely getting lost in whatever roles they play.
So whether you’re a mom, sister, care taker, wife, business women, entrepreneur… stay connected and aware of who you are, and what makes you happy and whole!
3. Some things aren’t as difficult as you may think, especially when you know your “why”.
Brunch is my absolute favorite meal, and I usually brunch every year for my birthday. This year I knew going out to brunch wouldn’t be the most enjoyable option, due to my dietary restrictions (a whole series on that soon), so I decided to host in my home, and cook/bake the food and treats that I could enjoy!!! (YES, I cooked and baked everything). Listen, this soy free/dairy free/gluten free/egg free/wheat free life is NOT easy, but it’s also not as difficult as I thought it would be (especially with my “why” in mind). There are so many amazing recipes, and being a #SAHM has given me the opportunity to explore. Now let’s not get it twisted, there were still challenges preparing for a small gathering with a 6-month old (shout out my own personal Dora Milaje lol who held it down with Dream while I was cooking/cleaning etc), but overall, I did it and I’m so proud of how things turned out!
Don’t knock it until you try it!
4. Surround yourself with the people you love.
Embrace those who add to your life, not take away.
5. Be flexible, be fluid, nothing is etched in stone. Sometimes, things won’t go as planned… and THAT IS OKAY! Enjoy life anyway!
My toes weren’t done, I didn’t get to set up my cupcakes in time, oh and I worked up until the first guest arrived, but it all worked out. Of course I could have sulked the whole evening, sharing the woes of how I was preparing, but I chose to go with the flow and ENJOY MYSELF!! Listen, 32 (and being a mommy) has taught me that I need to be FLEXIBLE. I can’t do it all, I can no longer show up the same way, and I￼ am so thankful for the loved ones who understand and support me!
As I go into year 33, I’m keeping my stress level down, using my “no”, prioritizing me and the things/People important to me… and I will live my BEST Abundantly blesses life!! Yaaaassss!!!