As I think of how my relationship has flourished over the past few years with my (now) husband, I can’t believe how wonderfully God orchestrated it all! If you know me, then you probably know the story of “how I met my husband”. If you don’t, then keep reading and enjoy!
It was October 2012. I was driving down 95 South, heading back to my place in Virginia. I just spend a lovely weekend with my family in Philly. As I passed through Delaware, the light drizzled that Glazed my car, turned into a heavy downpour! My car hit a puddle, and I could feel it losing control! It felt as if the entire world froze in that moment! I flew across 3 lanes, only to have the guard rail bring my car to a crashing halt! My Car was completely totaled… BUT GOD SPARED MY LIFE! I walked away unharmed and whole, and I am forever grateful for His protection! I had no idea that this was the start of a sequence of INTENTIONAL events that would lead me to my husband!
A few days later, I made my way back to Virginia and to the nearest Honda Dealership. As soon as I stepped out of my rental, guess who walked up to assist me? Arkeem! He was calm, cool, collected! Definitely not your average car sales consultant! I could tell that he wasn’t from Va, which was confirmed during my test drive when he told me he was from Savannah, Ga. Come to find out we both made our way to Virginia to start a new journey in life!
Although Arkeem and I had a great conversation, it was strictly business. I wanted to buy, he wanted to sell. Neither one of us was looking for anything further than a car deal; however, we managed to stay in touch. An email was sent here, a double tap on Instagram there… very minor exchanges! It wasn’t until February (February 23rd to be exact) when Arkeem took it to the next level and asked me out to dinner!
That dinner was the best first date I’ve ever had in my life! Our conversation was so natural and lively; No masks, no games, no pressure! I don’t even remember asking many questions, we pretty much eased into every thing you’d think to discuss on a “first date”. The tone was set for all of our moments together! It was the start of a beautiful friendship, turned relationship, turned marriage for LIFE!
Sometimes, when we go through tragic experiences in life, we tend to focus on the negative outcome and miss the actually opportunity to let go and let GOD BLOW OUR MINDS! Think about that… “Let go and let GOD BLOW YOUR MIND”! For me, a car accident set me up to meet my husband! What if I spent all of my time crying over the accident that I experienced and the car I lost, instead of focusing on God’s faithfulness and how He truly spared my life! My attitude/outlook may have caused me to delay (or even miss) my blessing! I can’t even imagine! I am truly thankful that in that season I chose to focus on His goodness, and that He prepared me (mind, body and spirit) to meet my wonderful husband.
I urge you today, no matter what has happened, focus on God’s goodness and watch Him work wonders. He is intentional!
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