Grind with Gratitude 

8 Feb

 

Thank you, Nelson Searcy!  Thank you for this simple, yet powerful, reminder! Take the time to appreciate your journey,  and be thankful for where you are, as you go after your “Next”!  This isn’t always easy, especially when you know you have a promise and are passionately pursuing that purpose. But we must remember to GRIND with GRATITUDE! 

Having a hard time during a transition in life? In your career? Relationship? Weight loss journey? Check out this post “3 Fundamentals to Apply During a Transition in Life“!  I promise you won’t be disappointed 💯

Stay encouraged!

#happyMonday
-Reese

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Forgiveness to Freedom

26 Jan

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-Reese

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A Lesson from My Husband

25 Jan

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The other night, my husband and I played a game of Scrabble.  The game started off most intensely; a 27-point word here,  a 36-point word there. The competition was fierce! As the game progressed, I noticed my hubby passing and switching letters. He passed about 4 times, which as a result gave me a 100-point lead. I wasn’t mad, but I couldn’t help but wonder what was going on. Finally, he took his turn and threw out the word “quote” followed by the word “zit”. I realized he had been holding onto the “z” and the “q” in the hopes of forming the word “quiz”. It wasn’t until he saw my lead, that he realized there were other ways to use his letters.  

That’s when it hit him:

Man, I was holding on to those letters,  and missed countless opportunities to get ahead. I was so focused on using the letters for that ONE word,  when I really needed to let go and use them in a different way to make my moves.   I fell so far behind, and although my words were good, it was too late to win the game.  Sometimes you have to loosen your grip and use what you have now.”

So many times in life we hold onto (even hide) our gifts because we are waiting for that one “right way” to use/share it, and we miss out on the greater blessing. It’s like we just can’t seem to get past what others have told us “should be”, or what we’ve been told we “have to do first”.   I know they mean well, But at some point you have to say “no more”!

Let today be that day that you let go of those limiting thoughts, and share your gifts in the way that you’ve always imagined.  Don’t wait! Start that business, go for that promotion, go for that audition, move across the country! Whatever it is, take that step by faith, and go for it! Use those unique and valuable letters on your board, and WIN THE GAME!  Don’t let the life you were destined to live pass you by!  

You are destined to win!

-Reese

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You Belong 

20 Jan

No matter where you go, nor the paths you cross… Remember, your gifts made/(are making) room for you, and you belong here! You don’t need anyone’s permission to be great!  Let go of your insecurities and show the world who you are and what you’re made of! The world is waiting for you to walk boldly in your gift! 

Be Great,

Reese

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It’s all a Matter of Focus

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The lesson my sweet tooth taught me!

Be encouraged!

A Word of Advice

12 Jan

 

 

What great advice I heard while listening to the “Package Your Genius” podcast series with Amanda Miller LittleJohn. I just had to share. This woman is spot on, and you should definitely check her out!  As a creative, and aspiring entrepreneur, it is extremely important to take the time to reflect (pray) and create before consuming… especially with regards to social media. Think about your mornings. What do you do first when you wake up? Do you run to check your social media accounts, to see what others are up to? Or do you cherish those precious moments, set the tone for your life, and let your creative juices run wild? The choice is yours!

 

Keep it creatively stylish,

-Reese

3 Ways to Handle the Unsolicited Opinions of Others

8 Jan

 As a newlywed, a lot of people have an opinion about what my husband and I “should/shouldn’t do”, especially with regards to our first married year/holidays together. Nothing malicious at all, just opinions that caused a great deal of pressure. I got caught up at first.  Then it dawned on me; this is our life and we will live it as we please!  Some of you may have experience this same pressure.  You may have certain goals and aspirations in mind, and you’re trying to handle all the uninvited opinions that other have for your life. So I’ve decided to share what I’ve learned to do, and I hope it helps you as well:

1. Hold your peace: Peace of mind is more important than the best of clap-backs!  Some opinions aren’t even worth entertaining,  especially when they come without provocation. It’s one thing to go to a trusted source, and ask them to dissect your life. When that’s the case, then I expect them to let me have it. Dig deep and help me get my life in order.  However, if I didn’t ask and it is not worth a response, I simply don’t entertain it. Especially when I know they don’t have my best interest in mind.

2. Use your words:  If you feel the need to respond, put your words to good use and create a standard response. Here are two of my favorites: “It’s unfortunate that your feelings differ from how I plan to live my life”, and  “No, I don’t plan to do it that way, but I appreciate your concern”.  Feel free to use at will, and proceed to exit stage left.

3. Don’t tell everything you know: This is probably one of the most important lessons I’ve learned! Keep your personal life, marriage,  goals and aspirations under lock and key. Yes, we all need accountability, but take a break from posting and sharing every detail of your life and hustle. Hustle in private, enlist the help of an accountability partner/mentor,  and let the results of your labor do all of the bragging. The less you share, the less access people have to your life.   If people don’t know what you’re up to, then they won’t have an opportunity to  create an opinion.

 

This is your time. This is your year! Make it count!

-Reese

Good-bye Fear… Hello Purpose!

2 Jan

 Happy New Year to you all!

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Stepping into 2016 with my head held high! (Looking up, for that is where my Help comes from.) Good-bye fear, anxiety, uncertainty, and confusion! You’ve been all up in my way for far too long, and you’re no longer welcomed in my life!  Hello vision, clarity and purpose!  I will accomplish all that I set my mind to do! I am embracing wholeness; mind, body and spirit!

Say it with me… “2016, will be my best year yet”!

Stay tuned and keep it stylish,

-Reese

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3 Fundamentals to apply during a transition in life… You got this boo!

10 Dec

1. Be Positive: Know that your current situation is not the end. It is merely a stepping stone to your next. Look at it as an opportunity  to learn and grow. Speak over your life, and encourage yourself. Say it with me “This is not my final destination, this is simply a part of the process.  I will come out victoriously,and will encourage others along the way”. And if you find it nearly impossible to maintain a positive mindset, then Click here for tips on how to maintain a positive attitude!

2. Be Patient: Trust the process.  Whether you are seeking to change careers, or begin a new fitness journey… stay the course! Remember that this is not a sprint, but rather a marathon.   Forget about comparing your journey to others. Pace yourself, track your own progress, and journal your thoughts along the way.  It will make the journey more pleasurable and meaningful. And you will be able to look back and celebrate how far you’ve come.  Remember, with each passing day you, are that much closer to your destiny!

3. Be Persistent: Stay focused, keep grinding and never give up on your dreams. WRITE down the vision for your life, and PURSUE it with all you’ve got! By definition, to be persistent is to “continue firmly or obstinately in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition” (Google that).  So keep pushing!  It won’t always be easy, and there will be opposition, but in the end it will all be worth it! Don’t give up on you!

 

-Reese

 

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Why I decided to do my own wedding makeup #FBF

4 Dec
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With stylist, Vanessa of #SalonVie #IamMrsDennis #FierceandRefined

 

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Contrary to popular opinion, I decided to do my own wedding makeup. Yes, I did! Why, you ask? Well, as you may know there are so many details to worry about on your special day, and my makeup  was the one thing I knew I wanted to handle myself! I love doing my makeup, and I actually find it to be quite therapeutic. (Idk what is better, the stroke of the mascara wand, or the fluff of the blush brush against my cheeks!)   Either way, it only made sense to give myself a wonderful beat down for my big day!

However, a few of my closest friends/family (I love y’all for real), thought that for that very reason I should let someone else handle my makeup. I just couldn’t wrap my mind around that idea. I’ve been doing my own makeup for a little very 4 years now, and I actually like what I do. Not to mention the countless photos where the bride looked so “over-done” (but who am I to unknowingly throw shade and make that assessment). I just knew I didn’t want to look like anyone other than Theresa on that big day, (And Keem loved it)!! My makeup was light and lovely, and I felt amazing the entire day!

Now, please don’t miss the message!  I’m not saying to beat your own face if you’ve never touched a foundation brush in your life! Can you say catastrophe!? Nor am I saying that you shouldn’t hire an artist to beat your face, even if you are an artist yourself. HOWEVER, what I am saying is whether you are a bride-to-be,  or preparing for a very special day. do what YOU want to do! Too often we get so caught up in the opinions of others, that we forget that WE are the ones who have to live with the decisions we make, not them.  Do what makes YOU HAPPY, and don’t waste one moment worrying about what others may think!

Let GO, do what YOU want, and ENJOY every moment!

 

Keep it stylish,

Reese

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